Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[Sonshyne 2]

Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.

You know last night I had to remind myself of the emotional roller coaster ride we were on trying to get him here, cause last night I was forced to watch an hour or so of Mr. Bean Wishing I could go up stairs and just read a book Talk about wanting some alone time, it was torture, but of course I sat there pretending to laugh at what was no where near funny or amusing, on the other hand he was tickled pink

I understand I watch his horror flicks and action movies. Sometimes I fall asleep on him but he hasnt noticed yet.

Bean oh my Props to you

His favortie past time is music videos I have never watched BET so much in my entire life as I have in the last two months

[nyseness 0]

Hello Ladies, we all know that long distance is rough, my fiance and I we seem to argue every day, I think there is so much things you can talk about and once it gets past that some tension tend to develop, I sometimes wonder if I deliberabely see out controversies with her just to feel like the relationship is just not a figment of my imagination.

What are you opinions on that.

I admit. I am guilty of starting arguments just to see what the response will be. Now I think of it as sign of insecurity on my part

Definately, b/c ur so far apart everything MUST involve you..i think we r all a little guilty of that.If Kashi answer the phone w/o saying "hi baby", argument "who r u with why u can't talk ? but in reality it's my head thats messed up...so he would say it for me to stop cussing..and when mi start mi caan stop...hehehee

That's too funny!!! I am exactly the same way I thought it was just me.

[Sonshyne 2]

Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.

I am so thankful that when we went to a reggae around the poolside party last month that Neil came across a friend from Jamaica He has been here for ten years now and lives about 10 minutes from us. It really helps with the adjustment for us, and has cut back on the phone calls home

[rhondapayter 0]

WOuld it be worth talking to his mom or sister maybe?

They would understand how you feel about being left alone while pregnant, even though I'd go ape even if I wasn't!!

I would be scared of being home alone, when you're pregnant ANYTHING can happen

Again, you hardly see enough of him as it is with your crazy shifts....

Maybe sitting him down and telling him how much you love him and how much you desperately need him around now more than ever might work.

The only sister he had is deceased and his mother is really nice, but really hard for me to understand. We don't talk on the phone except to say hello, how are you. If he is still set on this crazy idea, in August when we go to Jamaica, I will talk to his mom or his dad.

I'm scared to death of him leaving while I'm pregnant I am so upset and worried I can't stop thinking about it. He's in Indiana this week - we're supposed to talk when he gets home this weekend. But he is so stubborn and hard-headed I can't get through to him. He just see's $$$ signs.

[rhondapayter 0]

Damien and I are in a similar situation. We had a talk recently about moving overseas...we both agreed that it would be nice to experience living somewhere else in the Caribbean or Africa but Kingston would be nice.

Sorry you missed out on that. At least Damien could have moved there WITH you. Tony knows I can't move right now. He wants to go there anyways to work - without me I can't leave my job right now - I need my benefits and my maternity leave, not to mention I can't get time off thru FMLA if I haven't been at the same job for at least 12 months. So no way can I go down there.

[rhondapayter 0]

My temper in this sistution would be crazy mad. I would talk to him and try to reason with him.

Add to that my raging hormones and out of control emotions and it's no wonder we had a HUGE fight yesterday over the phone He mentioned this whole thing about a month ago and I told him THEN that it was a very bad idea and I was not going to be ok with it. Then he tells me yesterday that he already signed the paperwork for it Without even talking it over with me!! I'm hurt, upset, mad, scared, worried ..... I'm losing my mind. Then he has the nerve to tell me today that we'll talk about it but he's already made up his mind! What the f***????? I don't get any say in this??? I am sooooooo MAD.

[JaEnglishGirl 34]

Well last month an office management specialist job opened in Kingston. Civil service job vacancies are rare in Kingston so I was so happy. Damien was not excited at all. Although we had this talk many times, he changed his mind. It's not like he was going to struggle when he lived in JA before - being my spouse he could work for the Embassy or other US gov'ment agencies in JA with full benefits. I thought Kingston will be better because it's familiar to both of us and not far from home...3 hours away. The tour last three years with 2 paid vacations home to the US lasting a month at a time and I can use my other vacation time if we have to come home. We could have returned if we didn't like it. Advantages: free housing in a nice neighborhood in Kingston, Damien would have been closer to his family, top security, hired help, free education for my daughter to go to a private American school in Kingston, get out of debt, save lots of money and live in my favorite country…his home.

That would be my DREAM job!!

My fiance wouldn't go either though....Not that I blame him, he has a great job here and he's also doing a degree in accounting. When he's finished that he wants to be able to spend the summers in JA and freelance the rest of the year....Just have to get him to have us move to Florida

My temper in this sistution would be crazy mad. I would talk to him and try to reason with him.

Add to that my raging hormones and out of control emotions and it's no wonder we had a HUGE fight yesterday over the phone He mentioned this whole thing about a month ago and I told him THEN that it was a very bad idea and I was not going to be ok with it. Then he tells me yesterday that he already signed the paperwork for it Without even talking it over with me!! I'm hurt, upset, mad, scared, worried ..... I'm losing my mind. Then he has the nerve to tell me today that we'll talk about it but he's already made up his mind! What the f***????? I don't get any say in this??? I am sooooooo MAD.

All I can say is wow

I would definitely talk to his parents, that seems like your only hope of changing his mind because he's all set

Does your company have any branches where he's going to be working??

If they do, maybe you could transfer without losing your benefits?

[*JG* 2]

Hello Ladies, we all know that long distance is rough, my fiance and I we seem to argue every day, I think there is so much things you can talk about and once it gets past that some tension tend to develop, I sometimes wonder if I deliberabely see out controversies with her just to feel like the relationship is just not a figment of my imagination.

What are you opinions on that.

Now is not the time to be doubting just cause you are frustrated on the journey. It will soon be over and all this will be something you will say "did it all really happen?". Hang in there.

I agree with Jomo, don't give up now. Everything seem so much more difficult when u cannot see emotions. I went thru the same thing mostly b/c of hormones when I was pregnant. I would find everything to argue about. Mostly b/c cause I was gonna be by myself when our daughter was born. If anyone tells u it is always joy and happy times, I doubt that for sure. Just hang in there. Maybe u can try not talking so often and see how that goes. Don't give up though.

Yes, try to hang in there, relax, try giving each other phone space, I found this to be very hard, esp in a LDR. Esp. If you talk every day, many times a day like we did, you run out of things to talk about, so you end up getting into arguments about nothing really cause your are fustrated and just want to be near the other person. At one point I forced myself to only say something brief like, "hello good morning, I love you, I'm going to have a busy day at work so I may not be able to talk much.. or what ever and not call back until late at night, only to say I love you, I hope you had a great day...keeping it very short, on a day that I didn't even have to work A few days of this and we were able to have good quality conversation. I'm not sure I was playing mind games with him or myself No worries mon, I think the adjustment once in the US is harder than the wait getting them here. Relax enjoy your alone time, while you have it.

Andre and I talked several times a day, every day, and I think it is the only thing that got me through. Thank God we didn't run out of things to say.

I am responding cause I have to COMPLETELY agree with what was said above....."I think the adjustment once in the US is harder then the wait getting them here." If you think you are having difficulties now, just wait. Things will get much harder before they get easier. The adjustment period is long and difficult. Don't fret.....everything can be overcome or worked out and the first step to a beautiful future. It just takes lots of patience and adjusting on both your parts. I agree with the poster.....enjoy your time alone while you have it.

[*JG* 2]

WOuld it be worth talking to his mom or sister maybe?

They would understand how you feel about being left alone while pregnant, even though I'd go ape even if I wasn't!!

I would be scared of being home alone, when you're pregnant ANYTHING can happen

Again, you hardly see enough of him as it is with your crazy shifts....

Maybe sitting him down and telling him how much you love him and how much you desperately need him around now more than ever might work.

The only sister he had is deceased and his mother is really nice, but really hard for me to understand. We don't talk on the phone except to say hello, how are you. If he is still set on this crazy idea, in August when we go to Jamaica, I will talk to his mom or his dad.

I'm scared to death of him leaving while I'm pregnant I am so upset and worried I can't stop thinking about it. He's in Indiana this week - we're supposed to talk when he gets home this weekend. But he is so stubborn and hard-headed I can't get through to him. He just see's $$$ signs.

I talked to Andre about this last night and he said your husband is crazy. He said he doesn't even want to work the night shift cause he wants to be able to sleep next to me.

[^KK^ 3]

Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.

You know last night I had to remind myself of the emotional roller coaster ride we were on trying to get him here, cause last night I was forced to watch an hour or so of Mr. Bean Wishing I could go up stairs and just read a book Talk about wanting some alone time, it was torture, but of course I sat there pretending to laugh at what was no where near funny or amusing, on the other hand he was tickled pink

I understand I watch his horror flicks and action movies. Sometimes I fall asleep on him but he hasnt noticed yet.

Bean oh my Props to you

My SO loves the Discovery and the History channel. I mean how many documentary can you watch in one day. Then he likes to quiz me on information he learns.

[Jengles 0]

Hello Ladies, we all know that long distance is rough, my fiance and I we seem to argue every day, I think there is so much things you can talk about and once it gets past that some tension tend to develop, I sometimes wonder if I deliberabely see out controversies with her just to feel like the relationship is just not a figment of my imagination.

What are you opinions on that.

I admit. I am guilty of starting arguments just to see what the response will be. Now I think of it as sign of insecurity on my part

Neil won't even argue with me at all. If I start to argue or get vexed at all, his apply to me is always.... Babes, relax.

that sounds like my husband, when I was in Ja i got mad at him and my man went to bed and had the nerve to actually go to sleep.

[MyDestinyAwaits 0]

i don't have time to sit and watch tv during the school year, and i usually don't even subscribe to it. but now that it's summer i decided to get a cable & internet package offered by the cable company and i've become quite the couch potato. my fiance has never had cable, and when we stay together in a hotel the tv is constantly on. his addiction: sports (specifically soccer & cricket). i have a feeling that i'll need to put a tv in the bedroom in order to get him to come to bed at night! lol

rhonda, i'd also be shocked and insanely pissed off if my husband signed papers to do something as major as that without first consulting me. i can't believe that he has his mind set on it. he's actually okay with potentially (or probably) missing the baby's birth?

[*JG* 2]

Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.

You know last night I had to remind myself of the emotional roller coaster ride we were on trying to get him here, cause last night I was forced to watch an hour or so of Mr. Bean Wishing I could go up stairs and just read a book Talk about wanting some alone time, it was torture, but of course I sat there pretending to laugh at what was no where near funny or amusing, on the other hand he was tickled pink

I understand I watch his horror flicks and action movies. Sometimes I fall asleep on him but he hasnt noticed yet.

Bean oh my Props to you

My SO loves the Discovery and the History channel. I mean how many documentary can you watch in one day. Then he likes to quiz me on information he learns.

Antiques Roadshow...............Andre is enthralled with the Antiques Roadshow. We never miss an episode.

[waynegeraldine 0]

Hello Ladies, we all know that long distance is rough, my fiance and I we seem to argue every day, I think there is so much things you can talk about and once it gets past that some tension tend to develop, I sometimes wonder if I deliberabely see out controversies with her just to feel like the relationship is just not a figment of my imagination.

What are you opinions on that.

I admit. I am guilty of starting arguments just to see what the response will be. Now I think of it as sign of insecurity on my part

It's difficult not to be insecure from such a distance, but you just have to try and keep a positive attitude.

[waynegeraldine 0]

Yes enjoy the alone time!!! AMEN I am so glad he has friends here besides me.

You know last night I had to remind myself of the emotional roller coaster ride we were on trying to get him here, cause last night I was forced to watch an hour or so of Mr. Bean Wishing I could go up stairs and just read a book Talk about wanting some alone time, it was torture, but of course I sat there pretending to laugh at what was no where near funny or amusing, on the other hand he was tickled pink

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