Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

For those of you that have recently filed for the CR-1 visa, what forms do you need to file initially? On this site it states that you need the I-130 and the G325 A. On the Dept. of State website it states that you need the I-130 and the DS230 along with the I-864. Which did you guys do FIRST?

[jlvr 1]

Ok, I have a question.

What did you/are you going to do about money??

Is he going to have an allowance?

Are you going to just give him an extra bank card?

If you do, are you/do you put a limit on what he can spend?

Have you thought about how much he should contribute when he gets a job? Or how did you work that out??

I will still be getting paid full pay for like 18 months after I move, but have told him he'll have to take my cards, I am hopeless about saving money, I waste every penny I earn lol...Even going to have him change my Paypal password (I'm an Ebay addict too!)

So what we're going to do is sit down and work out how much I'm allowed to squander per month, which will be put in my account which I'll have a debit card for.

Once I start working, we're thinking about keeping the squandering money the same and just saving whatever the surplus is from my wages...Obviously this will work because he doesn't spend much at all and I know I have a problem with spending wisely...

We talked a little bit about this, but not with specifics. Mostly about how he will feel having to rely on me financially. It's probably a discussion that we should have more in depth. My assumption has been that he won't really need much money in the beginning. He doesn't drive, so he wouldn't be going anywhere without me. He has a debit card of mine right now and I would probably just let him continue to hold on to that one and keep money in that account for him. Probably add his name to the account so that he can begin establishing that history.

As far as what he will contribute when he is working, it is my expectation (probably incorrect ) that the majority of his income will go to paying our expenses. I have a tendency to stock my household so that there is no want for anything, so again, he shouldn't need much extra cash. There are things that will be included in our expenses, like sending money back home, saving for both of our children and saving towards future goals. I expect that when we go out, it won't be him or me that is paying the bill, but both because our income will be combined. When he has an income.

All of this is probably a little naive, but I guess we'll just have to see how it goes and adjust accordingly. Praying for peaceful financial negotiations.

I kind of thought that too until he went to his first mall and his eyes grew wide. In the beginning, he will want everything and NEED everything (shoes are a big thing) and you will have to reign them in without feeling like you are denying them anything.

SO TRUE!!!!!!!!!!! mike is still like that...being here for almost 6 months....he still needs this wants that....i got home from work late last night and we greated by a ad for nike shoes and him saying i want this i need these shoes....and it just starts to get at you after a while cause when will he get it that he does not need these things and does not have to have 7 pairs of shoes...or a pair of jeans for every single day of the week...it just starts to get to you when every day you hear the same things over and over again

I don't live like that (well, okay, I have a lot of shoes...) and I certainly don't intend for him to live like that. While I have a lot of clothes, I don't do name brands. And if I can't afford it for myself and my children, I can't afford it for him. If he wants name brand and shoes to match every outfit, he'll have to wait for his own income. I can't justify buying him things that I don't buy for my children.

[*JG* 2]

Ok, I have a question.

What did you/are you going to do about money??

Is he going to have an allowance?

Are you going to just give him an extra bank card?

If you do, are you/do you put a limit on what he can spend?

Have you thought about how much he should contribute when he gets a job? Or how did you work that out??

I will still be getting paid full pay for like 18 months after I move, but have told him he'll have to take my cards, I am hopeless about saving money, I waste every penny I earn lol...Even going to have him change my Paypal password (I'm an Ebay addict too!)

So what we're going to do is sit down and work out how much I'm allowed to squander per month, which will be put in my account which I'll have a debit card for.

Once I start working, we're thinking about keeping the squandering money the same and just saving whatever the surplus is from my wages...Obviously this will work because he doesn't spend much at all and I know I have a problem with spending wisely...

We talked a little bit about this, but not with specifics. Mostly about how he will feel having to rely on me financially. It's probably a discussion that we should have more in depth. My assumption has been that he won't really need much money in the beginning. He doesn't drive, so he wouldn't be going anywhere without me. He has a debit card of mine right now and I would probably just let him continue to hold on to that one and keep money in that account for him. Probably add his name to the account so that he can begin establishing that history.

As far as what he will contribute when he is working, it is my expectation (probably incorrect ) that the majority of his income will go to paying our expenses. I have a tendency to stock my household so that there is no want for anything, so again, he shouldn't need much extra cash. There are things that will be included in our expenses, like sending money back home, saving for both of our children and saving towards future goals. I expect that when we go out, it won't be him or me that is paying the bill, but both because our income will be combined. When he has an income.

All of this is probably a little naive, but I guess we'll just have to see how it goes and adjust accordingly. Praying for peaceful financial negotiations.

I kind of thought that too until he went to his first mall and his eyes grew wide. In the beginning, he will want everything and NEED everything (shoes are a big thing) and you will have to reign them in without feeling like you are denying them anything.

SO TRUE!!!!!!!!!!! mike is still like that...being here for almost 6 months....he still needs this wants that....i got home from work late last night and we greated by a ad for nike shoes and him saying i want this i need these shoes....and it just starts to get at you after a while cause when will he get it that he does not need these things and does not have to have 7 pairs of shoes...or a pair of jeans for every single day of the week...it just starts to get to you when every day you hear the same things over and over again

I don't live like that (well, okay, I have a lot of shoes...) and I certainly don't intend for him to live like that. While I have a lot of clothes, I don't do name brands. And if I can't afford it for myself and my children, I can't afford it for him. If he wants name brand and shoes to match every outfit, he'll have to wait for his own income. I can't justify buying him things that I don't buy for my children.

I did it like this.....if he wanted something really bad, it first of all, had to be on sale. Then, we had to budget it in. I got him hooked on Old Navy clothes cause I work there and get a discount on top of watching for clearance sales. For basics, he will not pay more then a few dollars for anything and loves when I got him all those t-shirts for 38 cents a piece. When he saw the 78 cent flip flops, he nearly cried. He's really funny cause he will go shopping after work (the bus picks him up and drops him at the mall) and he'll say "I really want this pair of shorts; but it's $40 right now. I know you said in July, they will be going on clearance. I'm waiting for them." When we got our tax return refund back, he got $100 to blow on whatever he wanted....he ended up with a pair of shoes, a pair of "slippers" and a Timberland belt. Just a few weeks ago, I felt bad cause there was some pair of shoes on clearance he wanted; but we weren't paid for another week. I told him he could get them next week. Of course, they were gone by then. The brakes.

The point of all this is that they will be like a kid in a candy store. You have to diplomatically tell them no. And, don't kid yourself into thinking it will be easy. No matter what they say, they will not get it until they live it.

[nyseness 0]

For those of you that have recently filed for the CR-1 visa, what forms do you need to file initially? On this site it states that you need the I-130 and the G325 A. On the Dept. of State website it states that you need the I-130 and the DS230 along with the I-864. Which did you guys do FIRST?

First you will need to submit the I-130 and G-325A forms along w/the necessary documents to USCIS. Once you recv your approval your case will se sent to the NVC. At that stage the I-864 and DS-230 part 1 along w/your spouse biographical page will be needed then. Also if he doesn't have access to email then you might want to bring the DS-3032 (Choice of Agent) form.

I'm not sure how often you will be traveling to JA (after the wedding) but it may be a good idea to bring ALL the forms and have him sign them. Make sure he doesn't date them so you can once it's due w/o paying add'l mailing charges.

Edited May 15, 2007 by nyseness

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

For those of you that have recently filed for the CR-1 visa, what forms do you need to file initially? On this site it states that you need the I-130 and the G325 A. On the Dept. of State website it states that you need the I-130 and the DS230 along with the I-864. Which did you guys do FIRST?

First you will need to submit the I-130 and G-325A forms along w/the necessary documents to USCIS. Once you recv your approval your case will se sent to the NVC. At that stage the I-864 and DS-230 part 1 along w/your spouse biographical page will be needed then. Also if he doesn't have access to email then you might want to bring the DS-3032 (Choice of Agent) form.

I'm not sure how often you will be traveling to JA (after the wedding) but it may be a good idea to bring ALL the forms and have him sign them. Make sure he doesn't date them so you can once it's due w/o paying add'l mailing charges.

Thanks...I know this is WAAAAYYY premature since we can't even file again until Oct. of 2009, but I just wanted an idea of the order of things...I'm not really pressed right now about getting anything done, just wanted an idea of how it would go...unfortunately I will have many many trips to JA between now and then....unless, by God's grace some miracle occurs and they actually happen to take a real look at our case again...

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Caution about chaning your name on the passport...i sent mine in to get changed the 14th of march...still have not gotten in back yet...because of the increase of everyone needing a passport for the regular process it is taking anywhere from 10-14 weeks....if you do it express(more mulla) i think it is like 6 weeks or something like that...you will need to check the website...yes you need 2 passport pics along with a certified marriage cert. and send in your old passport...and i think it is like 60 something for it....

If you show proof of your departure, you can be issued a passport like next day, but for an extra $40

you know when i got my daughters passport who is only 20mths they sent one of her pictures back, but they still require you to send in 2

[SupportOAFJF 0]

Thanks for the info...so I will need to send in the marriage certifcate...it doesn't matter that it's from JA? Do you think they're going to require add'l evidence?

no they do not require any add'l info, just the marriage certificate

[SupportOAFJF 0]

For those of you that have recently filed for the CR-1 visa, what forms do you need to file initially? On this site it states that you need the I-130 and the G325 A. On the Dept. of State website it states that you need the I-130 and the DS230 along with the I-864. Which did you guys do FIRST?

First you will need to submit the I-130 and G-325A forms along w/the necessary documents to USCIS. Once you recv your approval your case will se sent to the NVC. At that stage the I-864 and DS-230 part 1 along w/your spouse biographical page will be needed then. Also if he doesn't have access to email then you might want to bring the DS-3032 (Choice of Agent) form.

I'm not sure how often you will be traveling to JA (after the wedding) but it may be a good idea to bring ALL the forms and have him sign them. Make sure he doesn't date them so you can once it's due w/o paying add'l mailing charges.

Thanks...I know this is WAAAAYYY premature since we can't even file again until Oct. of 2009, but I just wanted an idea of the order of things...I'm not really pressed right now about getting anything done, just wanted an idea of how it would go...unfortunately I will have many many trips to JA between now and then....unless, by God's grace some miracle occurs and they actually happen to take a real look at our case again...

I'm sorry, just wondering what happened with your case ?

kimmy

[EBONY_SEAN 1]

WE HAVE BEEN APPROVED WHOOPIE

[Shemmy 4]

Congratulations to eric on the green card and to Belwin Mills on the visa.

As far as passports and things, how does it work if I hyphenate? Do I still have to change all my legal documents? What about if I don't hyphenate and do [firstname] [maidenname] [marriedname]? I don't want to do away with my own name, I'd still like to be able to use it.

JLVR - you have to legally change your name hyphenated or not. I didn't drop my maiden name. All I had to show was my marriage certificate when I applied for my passport.

[SupportOAFJF 0]

WE HAVE BEEN APPROVED WHOOPIE

BIG CONGRATS...THE JOURNEY IS COMING TO AN END !!!

[eric_drewry 0]

Problems with the bundle, blacked out in my area for some reason.

tee hee hee Thanks ladies!! Keep buying! I'm addicted to ebay too - but I want to sell everything! I've already sold a gold belly button ring ($63) a pair of silver boots ($15) a pair of black boots ($36) and some concert tickets for Gwen Stefani that I had extras of. I need to find more stuff to sell!!

I have SOOOO many clothes that I can't take with me, just in the process of selling them all. I also sell the clothes my son has grown out of.

I love designer brands but not willing to spend the money for them in the normal shops.

My favorite brands are Burberry and Moschino but they cost a FORTUNE in the states (they still cost loads here though)

Just bought a GORGEOUS Burberry shorts and shirt outfit for the baby, brand new with tags, for £17!!!!

Made a lot of money these past two weeks, my Paypal account is £150 in credit!!

Was thinking of selling photo restoration services on Ebay once I get to the states, will see how that works out.

Ebay can also be good if you have time at home, if you know the prices of certain goods, you can make good money buying it cheap and relisting it for a profit.

PM me your Ebay user name and store! I'd love to get some stuff from you (I love the fashion from UK, I rarely buy anything here unless it comes from NY via Internet)

Congrats to all those that are finally moving upward on their visa journeys

Eric - does your wife like the Jamaican Internet channel bundle I mentioned here earlier?

Those with wedding dates -

And happy belated Mothers Day to everyone

[finesse 3]

what shipping method does everyone use to ship packages to ja? I have always used the regular postal service which is reasonably priced but takes forever to get there. I want to send a package to get there in no more than a week...but don't want to pay a ridiculous amount of money...any thoughts?

[Shemmy 4]

We talked a little bit about this, but not with specifics. Mostly about how he will feel having to rely on me financially. It's probably a discussion that we should have more in depth. My assumption has been that he won't really need much money in the beginning. He doesn't drive, so he wouldn't be going anywhere without me. He has a debit card of mine right now and I would probably just let him continue to hold on to that one and keep money in that account for him. Probably add his name to the account so that he can begin establishing that history.

As far as what he will contribute when he is working, it is my expectation (probably incorrect ) that the majority of his income will go to paying our expenses. I have a tendency to stock my household so that there is no want for anything, so again, he shouldn't need much extra cash. There are things that will be included in our expenses, like sending money back home, saving for both of our children and saving towards future goals. I expect that when we go out, it won't be him or me that is paying the bill, but both because our income will be combined. When he has an income.

All of this is probably a little naive, but I guess we'll just have to see how it goes and adjust accordingly. Praying for peaceful financial negotiations.

Peaceful financial negotiations can happen. Damien is very good with paying bills and saving money. Me, on the other hand

He chose what bills he wanted to pay which are the utilitles, phone bill, cable bill, 1/4 of the rent and his personal bills (credit card and cell phone bills). He also put money aside for entertainment - movies, concerts, trips, etc. This work for us instead of me dictating and "taking his money". We both put money into our joint accounts and have seperate accounts where our checks are direct deposited. He loves doing his own banking which is fine with me because he should be responsible for maintaining bills.

Damien wanted to buy everything in every store when he start got here. We went to the mall every weekend...sometimes 2-3 malls a day to window shop. He is also a brand name and shoe "ho". But he works hard everyday and don't waste money so I can't complain when he buys something nice for himself.

[eric_drewry 0]

You do not need to wait until Oct 2009 to apply again. Your reason for denial of the visa will not stop the I-130 from being approved. Watch the timelines and time your application so it gets approved 3 months before the excludability expires. This should give you an appointment just after the 3 years are up. No wasted time.

For those of you that have recently filed for the CR-1 visa, what forms do you need to file initially? On this site it states that you need the I-130 and the G325 A. On the Dept. of State website it states that you need the I-130 and the DS230 along with the I-864. Which did you guys do FIRST?

First you will need to submit the I-130 and G-325A forms along w/the necessary documents to USCIS. Once you recv your approval your case will se sent to the NVC. At that stage the I-864 and DS-230 part 1 along w/your spouse biographical page will be needed then. Also if he doesn't have access to email then you might want to bring the DS-3032 (Choice of Agent) form.

I'm not sure how often you will be traveling to JA (after the wedding) but it may be a good idea to bring ALL the forms and have him sign them. Make sure he doesn't date them so you can once it's due w/o paying add'l mailing charges.

Thanks...I know this is WAAAAYYY premature since we can't even file again until Oct. of 2009, but I just wanted an idea of the order of things...I'm not really pressed right now about getting anything done, just wanted an idea of how it would go...unfortunately I will have many many trips to JA between now and then....unless, by God's grace some miracle occurs and they actually happen to take a real look at our case again...