Yardies, at home and a farrin' (Part 4)

[nyseness 0]

I don't know if it's still possible but other couples were completing the form online and sending to their SO or had them downloading the form themselves. And when they went to the appointment they would drop off DS-230 part 1 so the Embassy could start the processing for scheduling an interview.

I just spoke to him, he said he could courier it to the embassy. I'm going to be in JA on Saturday so I could just bring it. So should he courier it or should we go to the appt we have for next thursday in kingston?

I would bring to the appt that way you can't say they never recv'd it.

[BelwinMills 0]

Caution about chaning your name on the passport...i sent mine in to get changed the 14th of march...still have not gotten in back yet...because of the increase of everyone needing a passport for the regular process it is taking anywhere from 10-14 weeks....if you do it express(more mulla) i think it is like 6 weeks or something like that...you will need to check the website...yes you need 2 passport pics along with a certified marriage cert. and send in your old passport...and i think it is like 60 something for it....

Do they keep the original marriage certificate? We only have one now that the Embassy took our other one.

[*JG* 2]

Caution about chaning your name on the passport...i sent mine in to get changed the 14th of march...still have not gotten in back yet...because of the increase of everyone needing a passport for the regular process it is taking anywhere from 10-14 weeks....if you do it express(more mulla) i think it is like 6 weeks or something like that...you will need to check the website...yes you need 2 passport pics along with a certified marriage cert. and send in your old passport...and i think it is like 60 something for it....

Do they keep the original marriage certificate? We only have one now that the Embassy took our other one.

No, they mail it back with the passport.

[BelwinMills 0]

Caution about chaning your name on the passport...i sent mine in to get changed the 14th of march...still have not gotten in back yet...because of the increase of everyone needing a passport for the regular process it is taking anywhere from 10-14 weeks....if you do it express(more mulla) i think it is like 6 weeks or something like that...you will need to check the website...yes you need 2 passport pics along with a certified marriage cert. and send in your old passport...and i think it is like 60 something for it....

Do they keep the original marriage certificate? We only have one now that the Embassy took our other one.

No, they mail it back with the passport.

Thanks

[Mrs. Palmer 5]

Thanks for the info...so I will need to send in the marriage certifcate...it doesn't matter that it's from JA? Do you think they're going to require add'l evidence?

[Jengles 0]

I got a new passport last year and changed it then, I had to go the passport place because my citizenship certificate was rubbed out and of course I got a new immigration officer when trying to enter JA on a previous trip who was trying to give me a hard time. I had the marriage register from the minister not the one from kingston but they used it.

ds-230 - I've never been to kingston and wanted to go, i'm just dreading the ride and his car has no a/c but i will talk to him and see.

Thanks for the info...so I will need to send in the marriage certifcate...it doesn't matter that it's from JA? Do you think they're going to require add'l evidence?

No it shouldn't matter

[jlvr 1]

Congratulations to eric on the green card and to Belwin Mills on the visa.

As far as passports and things, how does it work if I hyphenate? Do I still have to change all my legal documents? What about if I don't hyphenate and do [firstname] [maidenname] [marriedname]? I don't want to do away with my own name, I'd still like to be able to use it.

[nyseness 0]

Since it is only a matter of a few days, I'd take the oppurtunity to show up with your husband. It looks good.

I don't know if it's still possible but other couples were completing the form online and sending to their SO or had them downloading the form themselves. And when they went to the appointment they would drop off DS-230 part 1 so the Embassy could start the processing for scheduling an interview.

I just spoke to him, he said he could courier it to the embassy. I'm going to be in JA on Saturday so I could just bring it. So should he courier it or should we go to the appt we have for next thursday in kingston?

That is a great idea. It looks very good. Safe travels on Saturday.

I need to go look at airfares now to bring hubby here to Chi town.

It looks good if I show up to the appt to get a form? Or I guess we could submit the form then. Me and my oversized stomach. I carry big, people think i'm nine months even though I'm only 7 and when I tell them I'm seven months, they follow that up with oh it's twins. anyway I digress. It's a 2 hour drive to Kingston. We had planned to go to do his police certficate because we thought be now we would have our interview date.

You can still get the police cert now. It's valid for 6 months.

[jlvr 1]

Ok, I have a question.

What did you/are you going to do about money??

Is he going to have an allowance?

Are you going to just give him an extra bank card?

If you do, are you/do you put a limit on what he can spend?

Have you thought about how much he should contribute when he gets a job? Or how did you work that out??

I will still be getting paid full pay for like 18 months after I move, but have told him he'll have to take my cards, I am hopeless about saving money, I waste every penny I earn lol...Even going to have him change my Paypal password (I'm an Ebay addict too!)

So what we're going to do is sit down and work out how much I'm allowed to squander per month, which will be put in my account which I'll have a debit card for.

Once I start working, we're thinking about keeping the squandering money the same and just saving whatever the surplus is from my wages...Obviously this will work because he doesn't spend much at all and I know I have a problem with spending wisely...

We talked a little bit about this, but not with specifics. Mostly about how he will feel having to rely on me financially. It's probably a discussion that we should have more in depth. My assumption has been that he won't really need much money in the beginning. He doesn't drive, so he wouldn't be going anywhere without me. He has a debit card of mine right now and I would probably just let him continue to hold on to that one and keep money in that account for him. Probably add his name to the account so that he can begin establishing that history.

As far as what he will contribute when he is working, it is my expectation (probably incorrect ) that the majority of his income will go to paying our expenses. I have a tendency to stock my household so that there is no want for anything, so again, he shouldn't need much extra cash. There are things that will be included in our expenses, like sending money back home, saving for both of our children and saving towards future goals. I expect that when we go out, it won't be him or me that is paying the bill, but both because our income will be combined. When he has an income.

All of this is probably a little naive, but I guess we'll just have to see how it goes and adjust accordingly. Praying for peaceful financial negotiations.

[nyseness 0]

Hi everyone! I hope all of you all had great weekends and Mother's Days. I have a question: For those of you who have gotten married or have been married to your SO for a while now, did you change your name on your passport? If so, how did that work out? Will they keep your old Passport? After I get married in Oct I'm not sure what I will do as far as name changes/documents go...I don't know how much of a hassle it will be...but I want to know if I'm going to have a hassle going back and forth to JA for the next 2 years if the last names don't match up...

PS: Eric, check your PM please!

We got married back in Oct and I haven't changed my name. Planning on doing later after our US wedding. Once you "officially" change your name I think it would be advised to changed every document to prevent any hassles in the future. My sister use both her maiden & married name for personal reasons, however, when she travels to JA she uses the name that is in her passport. The plane ticket and the name in the passport has to match if not a marriage cert is required if the passport still shows the maiden name.

[*JG* 2]

Ok, I have a question.

What did you/are you going to do about money??

Is he going to have an allowance?

Are you going to just give him an extra bank card?

If you do, are you/do you put a limit on what he can spend?

Have you thought about how much he should contribute when he gets a job? Or how did you work that out??

I will still be getting paid full pay for like 18 months after I move, but have told him he'll have to take my cards, I am hopeless about saving money, I waste every penny I earn lol...Even going to have him change my Paypal password (I'm an Ebay addict too!)

So what we're going to do is sit down and work out how much I'm allowed to squander per month, which will be put in my account which I'll have a debit card for.

Once I start working, we're thinking about keeping the squandering money the same and just saving whatever the surplus is from my wages...Obviously this will work because he doesn't spend much at all and I know I have a problem with spending wisely...

We talked a little bit about this, but not with specifics. Mostly about how he will feel having to rely on me financially. It's probably a discussion that we should have more in depth. My assumption has been that he won't really need much money in the beginning. He doesn't drive, so he wouldn't be going anywhere without me. He has a debit card of mine right now and I would probably just let him continue to hold on to that one and keep money in that account for him. Probably add his name to the account so that he can begin establishing that history.

As far as what he will contribute when he is working, it is my expectation (probably incorrect ) that the majority of his income will go to paying our expenses. I have a tendency to stock my household so that there is no want for anything, so again, he shouldn't need much extra cash. There are things that will be included in our expenses, like sending money back home, saving for both of our children and saving towards future goals. I expect that when we go out, it won't be him or me that is paying the bill, but both because our income will be combined. When he has an income.

All of this is probably a little naive, but I guess we'll just have to see how it goes and adjust accordingly. Praying for peaceful financial negotiations.

I kind of thought that too until he went to his first mall and his eyes grew wide. In the beginning, he will want everything and NEED everything (shoes are a big thing) and you will have to reign them in without feeling like you are denying them anything.

[nannygirl82 0]

Ok, I have a question.

What did you/are you going to do about money??

Is he going to have an allowance?

Are you going to just give him an extra bank card?

If you do, are you/do you put a limit on what he can spend?

Have you thought about how much he should contribute when he gets a job? Or how did you work that out??

I will still be getting paid full pay for like 18 months after I move, but have told him he'll have to take my cards, I am hopeless about saving money, I waste every penny I earn lol...Even going to have him change my Paypal password (I'm an Ebay addict too!)

So what we're going to do is sit down and work out how much I'm allowed to squander per month, which will be put in my account which I'll have a debit card for.

Once I start working, we're thinking about keeping the squandering money the same and just saving whatever the surplus is from my wages...Obviously this will work because he doesn't spend much at all and I know I have a problem with spending wisely...

We talked a little bit about this, but not with specifics. Mostly about how he will feel having to rely on me financially. It's probably a discussion that we should have more in depth. My assumption has been that he won't really need much money in the beginning. He doesn't drive, so he wouldn't be going anywhere without me. He has a debit card of mine right now and I would probably just let him continue to hold on to that one and keep money in that account for him. Probably add his name to the account so that he can begin establishing that history.

As far as what he will contribute when he is working, it is my expectation (probably incorrect ) that the majority of his income will go to paying our expenses. I have a tendency to stock my household so that there is no want for anything, so again, he shouldn't need much extra cash. There are things that will be included in our expenses, like sending money back home, saving for both of our children and saving towards future goals. I expect that when we go out, it won't be him or me that is paying the bill, but both because our income will be combined. When he has an income.

All of this is probably a little naive, but I guess we'll just have to see how it goes and adjust accordingly. Praying for peaceful financial negotiations.

I kind of thought that too until he went to his first mall and his eyes grew wide. In the beginning, he will want everything and NEED everything (shoes are a big thing) and you will have to reign them in without feeling like you are denying them anything.

SO TRUE!!!!!!!!!!! mike is still like that...being here for almost 6 months....he still needs this wants that....i got home from work late last night and we greated by a ad for nike shoes and him saying i want this i need these shoes....and it just starts to get at you after a while cause when will he get it that he does not need these things and does not have to have 7 pairs of shoes...or a pair of jeans for every single day of the week...it just starts to get to you when every day you hear the same things over and over again

[*JG* 2]

Not just 7 (or more pairs of shoes) but a shirt and a hat to match each pair of shoes.

[nannygirl82 0]

Not just 7 (or more pairs of shoes) but a shirt and a hat to match each pair of shoes.

oh right i forgot to add that.... the shirt has to be the same color of the shoes....we were looking at shoes last night on ebay...and found some cool blue slip on ones and he said i quote....oh i need to go get a shirt that will match those...a nice blue one....i was thinking what?

[nannygirl82 0]

called our local senator today....Joe Bidden...about our case...and to find out what the mystery letter was all about...so i hope this helps us...shakes us loose from a month of nothing.....to a month of touching...