February 2017 I-129F Filers

[RaptureSongbird 533]

9 minutes ago, pajobra said:

Or as easy as Canadian citizens either as in my case. I feel for you all overseas so much being so much further than I am from my fiance. As I am only 1 hour ahead of him timezone wise and 16 hours by car.

I've trained myself pretty well with the time difference.  Back when my fiance was living in Romania I could easily look at the clock and know what time it was there (8 hour time difference).  Now that he's in London I can look and calculate the time there (6 hour time difference) and still calculate the time in Romania.  I look forward to the day when I don't have to waste brain processing time on that and can just look at him right next to me in the same time and place.

[T_P 872]

@mkm1993 exciting...I'm from Brazil and know exactly what you are talking about....Good Luck with all your process.

[RaptureSongbird 533]

13 minutes ago, pattyandvern said:

We got age difference too! Don't worry  it is not my concern at all  we love each other and age is just a number. Our families accepted our relationship so hard part we already got behind us. We got many proofs that our love is real, maybe even too many  I would be worried if it was not true, but at this point, come on, we are together 5 years, didnt meet online but in person, spend together 2 years living with each other. And some people got approved while only saw each other one time  

Wow, I'm super jealous that you got to live together for 2 years but I'm sure that's making this whole process a bit annoying as well.  You've already had so much time together and now you're stuck waiting in limbo for someone to stamp some paperwork and send it along the way.  I'm sure you'll have no problem with your interview or proving your relationship at all.

 

When I was pulling together evidence to submit with the application, I had Viber send me a full history of our chat logs.  When I saw how many pages it was, there was no way I was going to send all of that and make someone read through all of our ups and downs and love.  So, I ended up just taking a few screenshots and sending those along.  I do feel lucky that I live in a time where technology makes long distance relationships not as difficult as they used to be.  Plus, I feel our communication skills with each other are stronger because of it and we already know how to handle problems and fights that may happen because we've been forced to talk them out via text and distance.

[mkm1993 92]

@TimeI$Money Her family is huge, when I say huge I mean the biggest family I've ever heard off... she has 10-15 aunts and uncles, and almost something like 50-60 cousins I believe. My family is very small, I have 5 brothers and a twin sister, my mother, father, stepmother, and 5 cousins that live near me, plus 1 uncle that's near by. That's it. So I'm anxious to meet the rest of her family. She has shown pictures and let them hear the recordings of my voice and singing on WhatsApp and she says they are all very excited so we shall see. 

[pattyandvern 282]

9 minutes ago, mkm1993 said:

My and my girlfriend have talked and planned a little bit but are taking it day by day honestly. What we have come to conclusion is that we want a ceremony with her family which is very big... she wants all of her family to be there which is fine by me but I will not understand a word that is being said because they all speak Portuguese lol!! Her family is huge and her father and step mother live on a farm in rural Brazil... I'm anxious none the less. I've already met her father and step mother from previous travels. I prefer small and quaint but she is wanting it to be a big deal with her people because she is very close to her family where as I am content on having my immediate family present and our pastor marry us... an in home wedding would be very fine by me... so I expect a big bash at her fathers farm, meeting all of her cousins, aunts and uncles and all that. So in essence we will have a ceremony with all of her family when I go for her as soon as this dreadful process is finally over, and then we will wait towards the end of the 90 day period to marry here because we plan to do marriage counseling with my pastor and adjust to life together... I work quite a lot and her coming to a completely different culture is huge, so we feel that her becoming comfortable first is more important than tieing the knot the day she arrives... most importantly we want to go into our marriage with a strong foundation which is why we are taking marriage counseling from my pastor... we want to enter into our marriage covenant with the right perspectives and feel that Godly advice will help us dramatically. As far as the ceremony at her fathers place, she has a cousin who is a Methodist minister and speaks English (Thank God) whom is from Rio and she wants him to do our ceremony. For me marriage is more about the seriousness of the covenant that you are entering into with your spouse, not having 100 people there to celebrate which of course is all great. But I am more of a conservative, do every thing small kinda guy... our ceremony here with my family will be small, I want my mother, siblings, father, and step mother to be here, the 2 or 3 cousins I actually have to be there and that's it. I'm excited to party with her huge family and celebrate marriage with them, eat, drink and be happy... but I'm more excited for the day we board the plane together to travel to America together, her step off of the plane onto American soil and begin our life together... if there is one thing I'm learning from all of this waiting is that We love each other more everyday and if we can deal with separation like this than the challenges that come along with marriage will be nothing compared to what we experience on a daily basis. God bless, God speed and cheers to future marriage bliss. 

Make sure your american wedding will take place earlier than brazilian. Otherwise you can be denied at Interview as "too married" for K1 visa and asked to apply for spousal visa. I was writing about it while ago. Check that thread out:

 

 

[mkm1993 92]

Also I'm curious if anyone knows how long it takes to receive the Visa after the interview and approval? I'm reading in other places a few days to a week... 

[RaptureSongbird 533]

1 minute ago, mkm1993 said:

@TimeI$Money Her family is huge, when I say huge I mean the biggest family I've ever heard off... she has 10-15 aunts and uncles, and almost something like 50-60 cousins I believe. My family is very small, I have 5 brothers and a twin sister, my mother, father, stepmother, and 5 cousins that live near me, plus 1 uncle that's near by. That's it. So I'm anxious to meet the rest of her family. She has shown pictures and let them hear the recordings of my voice and singing on WhatsApp and she says they are all very excited so we shall see. 

 

And to me, your family sounds big   I have a half-brother and no other siblings.  My mom has 1 brother and my dad has 2 sisters, so my family is pretty small, especially compared to yours and even more so compared to your fiancee's.

[RaptureSongbird 533]

1 minute ago, mkm1993 said:

Also I'm curious if anyone knows how long it takes to receive the Visa after the interview and approval? I'm reading in other places a few days to a week... 

That's what I've seen as well.  It will depend on the embassy and how long it will go through AP.  Your fiancee might have it back the same week she has the interview or it might take 2-3 weeks.

[Eric&Olya 881]

16 minutes ago, RaptureSongbird said:

I've trained myself pretty well with the time difference.  Back when my fiance was living in Romania I could easily look at the clock and know what time it was there (8 hour time difference).  Now that he's in London I can look and calculate the time there (6 hour time difference) and still calculate the time in Romania.  I look forward to the day when I don't have to waste brain processing time on that and can just look at him right next to me in the same time and place.

I have 3 clocks on my computer: Ukraine, Spain (I work for a Spanish company) and Eric This way I don't have to calculate anything

[pattyandvern 282]

7 minutes ago, RaptureSongbird said:

Wow, I'm super jealous that you got to live together for 2 years but I'm sure that's making this whole process a bit annoying as well.  You've already had so much time together and now you're stuck waiting in limbo for someone to stamp some paperwork and send it along the way.  I'm sure you'll have no problem with your interview or proving your relationship at all.

 

When I was pulling together evidence to submit with the application, I had Viber send me a full history of our chat logs.  When I saw how many pages it was, there was no way I was going to send all of that and make someone read through all of our ups and downs and love.  So, I ended up just taking a few screenshots and sending those along.  I do feel lucky that I live in a time where technology makes long distance relationships not as difficult as they used to be.  Plus, I feel our communication skills with each other are stronger because of it and we already know how to handle problems and fights that may happen because we've been forced to talk them out via text and distance.

Thank You  it was not 2 years in a roll, but in a period of 5 years we used to spend with each other 3-4 months a year plus this year we spend 9 months together  yes it is annoying but we are not different as anybody that apply for the visa so we have to walk the same path as everybody. I am not mad, anxious or anything like that. It will happen one day  we have been waiting so long, what is extra couple months?  we used to be seperated for long. No more separations for life soon!  

[mkm1993 92]

12 minutes ago, RaptureSongbird said:

 

And to me, your family sounds big   I have a half-brother and no other siblings.  My mom has 1 brother and my dad has 2 sisters, so my family is pretty small, especially compared to yours and even more so compared to your fiancee's.

lol... that is small... all of my siblings are half, and I have a twin sister... I'm not close to my father or his other children... so still don't know if they will attend or not... would be awkward. But yes I guess you could say it's bigger than usual but compared to her family it's tiny 😆😆

[mkm1993 92]

18 minutes ago, pattyandvern said:

Make sure your american wedding will take place earlier than brazilian. Otherwise you can be denied at Interview as "too married" for K1 visa and asked to apply for spousal visa. I was writing about it while ago. Check that thread out:

 

 

We were planning to do the ceremony with her family first BUT after the visa process was all over and done with and it had been approved... I guess we will keep that hush hush at interview 😆 Do you see this situation being a problem? We haven't had any ceremony yet remind you. 

Edited April 18, 2017 by mkm1993

[pattyandvern 282]

4 minutes ago, mkm1993 said:

We were planning to do the ceremony with her family first BUT after the visa process was all over and done with and it had been approved... I guess we will keep that hush hush at interview 😆 Do you see this situation being a problem? We haven't had any ceremony yet remind you. 

Well, the decision is yours. Keep in mind though that your immigration process is not finished just with K1 visa. And what You are trying to do is kinda fraud. If it ever would come out you can be denied of your post-process applications, even citizenship of your future wife. I personally wouldnt start my journey with a lie. But I know people that kept it in secret and it worked. Just make it through the thread I send You and check out what people wrote there. Like I said. The choice is yours.

[Eric&Olya 881]

9 minutes ago, mkm1993 said:

We were planning to do the ceremony with her family first BUT after the visa process was all over and done with and it had been approved... I guess we will keep that hush hush at interview 😆 Do you see this situation being a problem? We haven't had any ceremony yet remind you. 

It's not a good idea.

If you search the forum, you will find a lot of stories how similar ceremonies turned out to be a problem.

You'll end up being too married for K-1 and not married enough for the spousal visa.

[mkm1993 92]

4 minutes ago, Eric&Olya said:

It's not a good idea.

If you search the forum, you will find a lot of stories how similar ceremonies turned out to be a problem.

You'll end up being too married for K-1 and not married enough for the spousal visa.

Wow, that's insane... well I guess this is something we will for sure have to reconsider then. Thanks for the tip and for the thread you sent me to. Very insightful