Please HELP,BAD NEWS

[aANDg 22]

4 hours ago, gwapa-loves-gwapo said:

I'm sorry this has happened to you. I am from Philippines and I can tell you that what your fiancée told you was a lie. First of all you do not need a marriage license for her to process her son's birth certificate at the hospital unless she was married to the father. There are kids that are born out of wedlock in the Philippines and such paperworks are not necessary. I don't want to judge her because I know few women who really just want to start a new life and move on from previous relationship. But it is not an excuse for her to lie to you and wait until up to this point. It seemed like she try her way around this situation and just hope that things will go her way but it didn't worked out. I know that you spent a lot already for her but I think it's best to re-assess your relationship with her. It's not fair to you to be paying the annulment for her and plus she was not honest with you in the beggining. What makes you think she will not lie to you about other things? This is a difficult situation for you and I hope you will think hard about it before making any sudden decision. Sometimes we need to take a step back to see clearly. If you really love her and she loves you she will owned up her mistakes and won't rush you into making decision. You will recover the loss that you spent working for her visa but if you pursue into helping her with the annulment you will spend much more than you can possibly think. Philippines is not known for having a fast process of things. Even wealthy people takes years for them to have it finalize. goodluck and I hope you decide wisely. 

Hi, I agree with this. It's just that you need to protect yourself too.. Good luck!

 

Always Trust your instincts, if you feel like there's something then NO. 

[debeers 6]

I am from the Philippines and I want to share with you my experience then maybe, you can get some insight from it. My dad went through annulment just to marry my filipina mom. Since dad's first marriage happened in the Philippines, also with a filipina. My father has money but that has nothing to do with the annulment's approval. It took 6 years for my father's annulment to happen finally. I on the other hand also got married at the age of 18 in the Philippines. Tried annulment but so many requirements that I cannot meet. There can only be certain reasons that annulment can be approved in the Philippines. I finally just decided to file for divorce here in the USA so I can marry my now husband. If you have the time, do your own research and do NOT believe everything that this lady is telling you because she is obviously lying through her teeth. 6 months then annulment can be approved? That is pure baloney. You are young and it breaks my heart that you are going through this. Listen to all the advices in this thread. If someone lies to you about a thing this big, that someone can most definitely do it again. RUN, fast! 

[MsCompE 50]

47 minutes ago, debeers said:

I am from the Philippines and I want to share with you my experience then maybe, you can get some insight from it. My dad went through annulment just to marry my filipina mom. Since dad's first marriage happened in the Philippines, also with a filipina. My father has money but that has nothing to do with the annulment's approval. It took 6 years for my father's annulment to happen finally. I on the other hand also got married at the age of 18 in the Philippines. Tried annulment but so many requirements that I cannot meet. There can only be certain reasons that annulment can be approved in the Philippines. I finally just decided to file for divorce here in the USA so I can marry my now husband. If you have the time, do your own research and do NOT believe everything that this lady is telling you because she is obviously lying through her teeth. 6 months then annulment can be approved? That is pure baloney. You are young and it breaks my heart that you are going through this. Listen to all the advices in this thread. If someone lies to you about a thing this big, that someone can most definitely do it again. RUN, fast! 

Agree. There are only 6 legal grounds for annulment in Philippines.

1. Absence of Parent's consent for 18years old and below 21.

2. Psychological Incapacity

3. Marriage consent is obtained by fraud

4. Marriage consent is obtained by force

5. Physically incapable of consummating marriage

6. Spouse acquired INCURABLE STD

 

NOTE: Infidelity is NOT a ground for annulment.

 

You would need a lawyer to support your claim. It's a long uphill battle. 

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Everyone wants to believe that the special someone we have found is just what they seem to be in our dreams.  Some of Us come with baggage that requires a "big talk"   Being able to have that talk is a sign of trust and love.  It could be that there is an illness , or a criminal history but our partner deserves that talk BEFORE we are at the alter  Maybe because you are young you don't know that yet.  

   In certain cases someone is so self centered that they ignore everything that should have been said and only thinks about their own interest and gain.  I think your girlfriend is one of those.  They will create a truth that makes you happy and not expose their ugly truths.  They think if they can get you in deep enough the truth will not matter.  In some extreme cases they don't even care how much the truth will hurt you.  Over the years we have seen countless immigrants that have managed to conceal a spouse for everyone so they can get their feet on US soil and all they truly hope for is a path to drag that hidden spouse here later.  Protect yourself.   If this women is "the one"  for you then the relationship will survive the time it takes for the annulment and you will both have time to mature.  If I were you I would seriously think of investing in a private investigator and poke a bit about how many of those tears are because she loves you and how many are because she has been caught and exposed.  You sound like you don't have a lot of experience in bad relationship and may be seen as an easy target.

[monki 0]

On January 31, 2017 at 8:25 PM, NewBrunswicker said:

You might be too quick on the process. Give it a little bit of time or call tomorrow.

 

On January 31, 2017 at 8:51 PM, Michael and Ganna said:

Sometimes it takes about 3 or 4 days for the system to allow you in the portal

 

On January 31, 2017 at 8:08 PM, 2001 said:

That's scary. What is your country of chargeability?

I was able to submit the payment thank god!!

[RhineMaiden 23]

let us bring this whole thing to the simplest form.

 

Annulment is VEEERRYYYYYY EXXXPEEEEN$$$$$$$IVEEE

it takes VEEEEEEERRRRRYYYY LLLLOOOOOOOOOONNNNGGGG!!! 

 

no sugar coating, no lies, just the hard fact. Your call.

[caliliving 606]

On 2/2/2017 at 2:25 PM, gwapa-loves-gwapo said:

I'm sorry this has happened to you. I am from Philippines and I can tell you that what your fiancée told you was a lie. First of all you do not need a marriage license for her to process her son's birth certificate at the hospital unless she was married to the father. There are kids that are born out of wedlock in the Philippines and such paperworks are not necessary. I don't want to judge her because I know few women who really just want to start a new life and move on from previous relationship. But it is not an excuse for her to lie to you and wait until up to this point. It seemed like she try her way around this situation and just hope that things will go her way but it didn't worked out. I know that you spent a lot already for her but I think it's best to re-assess your relationship with her. It's not fair to you to be paying the annulment for her and plus she was not honest with you in the beggining. What makes you think she will not lie to you about other things? This is a difficult situation for you and I hope you will think hard about it before making any sudden decision. Sometimes we need to take a step back to see clearly. If you really love her and she loves you she will owned up her mistakes and won't rush you into making decision. You will recover the loss that you spent working for her visa but if you pursue into helping her with the annulment you will spend much more than you can possibly think. Philippines is not known for having a fast process of things. Even wealthy people takes years for them to have it finalize. goodluck and I hope you decide wisely. 

You are only orthy of a gc. 

[caliliving 606]

People think there is a line.

 

sorry, no line exists 

 

get married and ur fine. If not, good luck:)