What to do if my husbands family trys to stop us from catching our flight to the US?

[Krissyb93 27]

7 hours ago, N-o-l-a said:

Might seem extreme, but if they lock you in your room, could you just call the US embassy from your cell phone?  

 

Or like others have suggested make up some BS story about needing both of you to present at the embassy or the embassy is going to get the police involved because they are concerned over the safety of a citizen.  

 

Windows have bars or are high up I presume?

The only problem with the embassy thing is they may not help my husband since he's not a US citizen.

 

Yeah, 4th story. Doors locked from the outside at night. People always around during the day. A few days ago my husband went out to get something, and for some reason his (absolutely insane) mother thought we were going to leave, she locked us in the house from the outside and called his brother home to make sure we weren't leaving.

[Krissyb93 27]

13 hours ago, Georgia16 said:

What if you say that only you leave and he will just take you to the airport? 

 

Can see it's a while ago that the visa got approved, what date does it say he has to use it by?

 

Can't you guys find some kind of excuse that you need to go to the embassy for some issues with the visa something something so you can be alone and then take off?

His  visa expires March 21. We're waiting for our 2nd anniversary on March 11th to go. We have tickets for the 12th.

[NikLR 13,227]

Why not fly to another country together than then fly from there to the USA after your anniversary if you're that worried about ROC?  Or go stay in another city? What exactly HAVE you done so that you can leave without issue?   Does ROC really matter so much you're willing to stay for another month and a half?

[Georgia16 2,858]

3 hours ago, Krissyb93 said:

His  visa expires March 21. We're waiting for our 2nd anniversary on March 11th to go. We have tickets for the 12th.

Well to be honest if it's that bad then they will just not let you go at that time either.

 

If you have the chance GO. Screw the plan tickets date and just GO as soon as it's possible.

[Lemonslice 4,838]

Any friend from your husband to invite you over (could be a pretend reason) and you leave from there?

 

I'm afraid you'll  both have to be a bit more proactive/secretive/manipulative and just get out ASAP. ROC is easy, should you come before your second anniversary, it's nothing at all compared to being locked up. 

Edited February 1, 2017 by Lemonslice

[kzielu 1,149]

16 hours ago, Krissyb93 said:

"This smells fishy" because most of your "vaguely remembered" information is wrong. My husband was not granted a visa before, nor has he travelled to the US. Maybe you should do your research before calling someone phony. In the city I am currently in, my husband and I have been told we cannot book a hotel in our city because of that "law" by many hotel owners. Why would I lie about that??? I'm glad you've had better experiences in India than we have, but maybe keep the pretension to yourself. I've come here for help, no need to make anything "fishy" up. 

 

Have a good day (:

Can you book a room (instead of we) being a visitor there ?

[Ortolan 381]

Why not book 2 hotel rooms, one for you, one for him. Meet up at the airport. Can you do that?

[Amy_and_Victor 159]

21 hours ago, Krissyb93 said:

 My husband and I are afraid that his parents will lock us in our room (which they've done before) the day of our flight. I don't trust the local police. We've dealt with them before and they're really skeevy, you can also bribe them to do just about anything, and my husbands family has much more money than we do. Im afraid if I get the US embassy involved they would only help me, and not my husband since he's not a USC. If I leave him here I know they will hurt him (very long story), so Im not going to do that. What should we do? They lock the door from the outside at night so we can't leave, and there are always people here during the day.

Can your husband simply kick the door out in the night before your flight and leave with you? Is it some kind of a safe door that he can't break through or you're afraid that his family will attempt and is capable of to violently stop you both? Like you know, I respect my parents, but if they would try to lock me in the bedroom with my wife to prevent us from catching flight when I'm a grown up married man and is responsible for my life decisions, I would break this door in a minute and leave with my wife right away to the airport. Is it possible for you and your husband?

 

- Victor from Russia

Edited February 1, 2017 by Amy_and_Victor

[Boiler 45,486]

Does sounds like a couple of ten year olds in time out.

[Auds 223]

30 minutes ago, Amy_and_Victor said:

Can your husband simply kick the door out in the night before your flight and leave with you? Is it some kind of a safe door that he can't break through or you're afraid that his family will attempt and is capable of to violently stop you both? Like you know, I respect my parents, but if they would try to lock me in the bedroom with my wife to prevent us from catching flight when I'm a grown up married man and is responsible for my life decisions, I would break this door in a minute and leave with my wife right away to the airport. Is it possible for you and your husband?

 

- Victor from Russia

Which city are you in?  Will try help.  Northbor South India?

 

This nonsense abt waiting for 2nd anniversary is not acceptable. 

 

You can pretend to be seiously ill or something and get admitted - all hospitals want to make money read up about some condition and fake symptoms for a while.  Once you are admitted plead to doctor to ask them to have your husband stsy overnight with you.  Inlaws leave you get on a flight.  

 

 

 

 

[Chardon Ne' 71]

Holding someone against their will is considered kidnapping. Before making any assumptions speak with the legal authority as to what your options are. You are just assuming right now that the family has some influence over the police, however I do not think that India will want to engage in a potential international incident for one family. Call the police anonymously and ask them what you should do and if possible Start recording them (family, authorities) and threaten to use it to file a human rights complaint against them... Sometimes you have to use the same tactics as your enemy. As for embassy yes you are a US citizen and your situation includes your husband so by them helping you he reaps the benefit of the relation. It is no different than contacting a congressman to assist with AOS applications. The immigrant spouse cannot call for assistance, however they benefit from it by default. Not written in stone just what I would do. Sorry this is happening best of luck. 

[Auds 223]

I am at some risk of honour killing myself so I understand but yet try to be cool about it.

 

you say if you leave they will do something horrible to him!!  Are you currently being his protector??

 

from what i see he belongs to a Punjabi family and they dont want him to go thats all.

 

If you cant leave togther - you get embassy help and LEAVE.  he is a guy goes out i am sure he can disappear.

 

believe me i know why you are behaving the way you are.  I did - i was the one earning and yet i was being abused everyday by ex and inlaws, i travelled the world for work at Exec level on business class even and at home behave just like you are - believing i couldnt leave. 

 

They have put fear in you - wake up, leave excuses behind, go any day you can.

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

22 minutes ago, Auds said:

 

You can pretend to be seiously ill or something and get admitted - all hospitals want to make money read up about some condition and fake symptoms for a while.  Once you are admitted plead to doctor to ask them to have your husband stsy overnight with you.  Inlaws leave you get on a flight.  

 

 

 

I like this idea.  Maybe severe abdominal pain that will take them a while to diagnose?

Edited February 1, 2017 by N-o-l-a

[Corey911 37]

I guess we will find out the end of this story on Feb 12th. 

[IcezMan_IcezLady 582]

I think this will be the least of your troubles if your husband cannot man up and come up with a plan. How hard is it for him to disappear with you to another city?

 

Seems like we women are always fighting battles that are not meant for us.

It is your husband's family and he should be the one handling them. Not you out here trying to device a get away plan.

What is he doing?

You need to have some serious talks with your husband. Cos if he isn't matured enough to handle his family meddling in his relationship, guess what, the family will manipulate him here all the way from India.