Scared about background check

[caliliving 606]

was it a RED LIGHT ticket??? In california???

 

if so, those are run by an outside company and my husband received one, never paid and it was fine!  because california does not deal with red light tickets anymore, it goes thru arizona and there was a big law suit (you can google online about it and people will say they dont pay).

 

i think you will be OK with the ticket! i wouldnt even worry about it.. if it comes up when u go to the DMV then it comes up and u can tell ur story!!!! i assume that is what it was, so of course you can say you moved ect and u will be fine.. and that is IF it comes up! like i said, my husband we just ignored and its been 5yrs and no big deal:)

 

 

[David & Diana R 1,005]

10 hours ago, Amazing_journey said:

HI! Thanks for all your responses. To answer your questions, we met online accidentally in June 2016 and as a couple in Oct 2016. He came over and visited me in Dec 2016 and from there we really hit it off. would that be a red flag because of the short timeframe that we have known each other? we're planning to file it this march since his divorced will be released the same month. Plus i have 1 unpaid traffic ticket, i was unable to pay it becausse i was already in the phils when they sent it to my old address, only a friend told me about it and the car i drove at that time had been sold. Just want everything to clear before we finally file everything. please enlighten me

I would say your biggest red flag is you were dating him/living/sleeping with him in the Philippines BEFORE he was divorced.  That could very well be a red flag for the CO.  I would suggest he come visit you in the Philippines AFTER his final divorce decree is in his hand.  Then spend time together there.  It also never hurts for the spouse/fiance to be present at your interview in Manila.  Good luck and God Bless you both.

[Amazing_journey 5]

Thanks to you guys for making time to respond. Such a relief about the ticket being ignored by California. Crossing fingers on that one.

My USC fiancé was already separated (2yrs) long before they filed for a divorce. He only thought of filing since the time he met me. I hope this won't create any prob in the future

[David & Diana R 1,005]

3 minutes ago, Amazing_journey said:

Thanks to you guys for making time to respond. Such a relief about the ticket being ignored by California. Crossing fingers on that one.

My USC fiancé was already separated (2yrs) long before they filed for a divorce. He only thought of filing since the time he met me. I hope this won't create any prob in the future

 

Separated or legally separated?  They are two very different things.  There is a huge difference.

[Amazing_journey 5]

5 hours ago, David & Zoila said:

 

Separated or legally separated?  They are two very different things.  There is a huge difference.

As per my USC fiance, the moment the divorce has been filed, it is already considered legally separated. So he filed it even we became a couple. That's my understanding. Is that how divorce works there?

[Amazing_journey 5]

Do I still also have to have my passport name change? Since it is still under my ex hubby's last name Or it's still ok, I'll just submit my annulment papers?

[David & Diana R 1,005]

On 1/20/2017 at 9:46 PM, Amazing_journey said:

As per my USC fiance, the moment the divorce has been filed, it is already considered legally separated. So he filed it even we became a couple. That's my understanding. Is that how divorce works there?

Here is an excerpt from an article: 

 

LEGAL SEPARATION vs. DIVORCE

QUESTION:

My spouse and I are considering a separation, possibly a divorce. What is the difference between a

legal separation and a divorce?

ANSWER:

In your question, you have used three terms for changes in a marriage:

• separation

• legal separation

• divorce

“Separation” simply means living apart. You do not need to file court papers to separate. The law does not require

you to live with your spouse. However, separating from your spouse may affect your legal rights. The best way is

to talk to a lawyer before separating.

If you do separate, you will need to work out arrangements for the care of the children, support, and payment of

bills. A mediator or lawyer can help you and your spouse reach an agreement. A lawyer can advise you on your

legal options, if an informal agreement is not possible. If you are not ready to file for a legal separation or divorce,

but need the court’s help in getting child support or alimony (support for spouse) there is a special type of court

papers that can be filed. You may also seek court orders about custody and visitation without filing for a legal

separation or divorce.

“Legal Separation” is a major change in the status of your marriage. To get a legal separation you must file a

petition in your Superior or Family Division Court. It is a distinct legal product rather than being a first step to

getting a divorce. In fact, legal separation takes as long as a divorce (average time, 8-10 months), and costs just as

much.

In many ways, a legal separation is the same as a divorce. Both include final custody, visitation, child support, and

if appropriate, alimony orders. All the family assets and debts are permanently divided. (In both types of cases, it

is possible to get temporary orders about support and custody early in the case, if you need them.)

The major difference is that if you have a legal separation, you are still married. The wife may not resume her

former name. Since it costs just as much, takes as long, and requires the same major decisions, why would anyone

want a legal separation?

 

So, as far as I can see being physically separated, and even legally separated a person is still married.  It "might" concern the CO, however may not.  I will say that a divorce is not a divorce until the judge has reviewed and certified the FINAL DIVORCE DECREE.  Good luck, david

[Transborderwife 4,666]

Something that ive discovered is that legal separation are buzz words that don't mean a whole lot.

[KierenHby 899]

On 1/20/2017 at 9:17 PM, Amazing_journey said:

Thanks to you guys for making time to respond. Such a relief about the ticket being ignored by California. Crossing fingers on that one.

I wouldn't breather easier just yet. Apply and find out if you indeed qualify for relief. Skipping out on paying some tickets doesn't make it disappear. 

[David & Diana R 1,005]

On 1/20/2017 at 9:46 PM, Amazing_journey said:

As per my USC fiance, the moment the divorce has been filed, it is already considered legally separated. So he filed it even we became a couple. That's my understanding. Is that how divorce works there?

NO