Profanity in proof of ongoing relationship?

[Matt Deeley 4]

First of all, this is my first post on this site, but the site's already been invaluable to me, so thanks all for that.

 

Me and my fiance have plenty of photos together, passport stamps and chat logs etc, but we curse like sailors in the chat logs, so my question is this, could it hurt my case at all to have profanity in my proof of ongoing relationship? Should I blur the words out, or will that look more dodgy? 

 

Thanks

[Lenchick 133]

7 minutes ago, Matt Deeley said:

First of all, this is my first post on this site, but the site's already been invaluable to me, so thanks all for that.

 

Me and my fiance have plenty of photos together, passport stamps and chat logs etc, but we curse like sailors in the chat logs, so my question is this, could it hurt my case at all to have profanity in my proof of ongoing relationship? Should I blur the words out, or will that look more dodgy? 

 

Thanks

LOL

What kind of cursing forgive me my curiosity? Don't send those chats dialogues where you are not sure how it will affect your application.  For someone it might be a sign of endearment for others quite opposite. Sometimes some things could be misinterpreted if the person doesn't know you and your relationship well. So send only what shows your bona fide relatonship, not what would make your bonafide relationship look doubtful.

[Suss&Camm 2,213]

35 minutes ago, Matt Deeley said:

First of all, this is my first post on this site, but the site's already been invaluable to me, so thanks all for that.

 

Me and my fiance have plenty of photos together, passport stamps and chat logs etc, but we curse like sailors in the chat logs, so my question is this, could it hurt my case at all to have profanity in my proof of ongoing relationship? Should I blur the words out, or will that look more dodgy? 

 

Thanks

You can block some out.. We tried looking for ones where we were talking bout relationship or family stuff but those profanities would sometimes "interupt" (lol) .... so I blocked it out ... I don't think it looks "dodgy" it could even oppositely show that you have the ability to know that it's not suitable to leave it in there and it shows respect for them... I can imagine those black boxes would make someone smile a bit even... Most ppl curse more or less sometimes... we're just human... don't overthink things

Edited January 15, 2017 by Suss&Camm

[Matt Deeley 4]

20 minutes ago, Lenchick said:

LOL

What kind of cursing forgive me my curiosity? Don't send those chats dialogues where you are not sure how it will affect your application.  For someone it might be a sign of endearment for others quite opposite. Sometimes some things could be misinterpreted if the person doesn't know you and your relationship well. So send only what shows your bona fide relatonship, not what would make your bonafide relationship look doubtful.

Just general f-bombs and the like, it's just kinda part of our vocabulary, like, he got a promotion at work and I was like "**** man, that's great", or like "Oh ****! Happy birthday dude!".

 

I'm pretty sure it can't be interpreted as anything other than endearment, I just don't want to get anyone's backs up with it, and I wondered if there was official advice. I mean, we're all grownups haha, it just feels out of place on such a formal form.

[Lenchick 133]

1 minute ago, Matt Deeley said:

Just general f-bombs and the like, it's just kinda part of our vocabulary, like, he got a promotion at work and I was like "**** man, that's great", or like "Oh ****! Happy birthday dude!".

 

I'm pretty sure it can't be interpreted as anything other than endearment, I just don't want to get anyone's backs up with it, and I wondered if there was official advice. I mean, we're all grownups haha, it just feels out of place on such a formal form.

So send whatever would not make you worried sick and second guess afterwords

[Matt Deeley 4]

2 minutes ago, Suss&Camm said:

You can block some out.. We tried looking for ones where we were talking bout relationship or family stuff but those profanities would sometimes "interupt" (lol) .... so I blocked it out ... I don't think it looks "dodgy" it could even oppositely show that you have the ability to know that it's not suitable to leave it in there and it shows respect for them... I can imagine those black boxes would make someone smile a bit even... Most ppl curse more or less sometimes... we're just human... don't overthink things

Haha, that's the exact same problem I'm having. Alright, good to know, thanks.

[Oliversmom 250]

What i did was just send the first page of different dates throughout our relationship.  All that was on the first page was mostly things like hi how are you i missed you, etc. 

[Valabum 6]

Are you a US/UK couple?

 

I (US) provided three photos, a copy of my plane tickets and receipts of things I bought in the U.K. while I was there with my initial petition. My fiancé did not supply anything extra during the interview and we were fine. No chat logs whatsoever!

 

If your relationship seems rather easy to file (for instance, you've been together a while already, no police record, no medial issues, no children immigrating as well, etc) I'd suggest you just save the paper!

[Matt Deeley 4]

2 hours ago, Valabum said:

Are you a US/UK couple?

 

I (US) provided three photos, a copy of my plane tickets and receipts of things I bought in the U.K. while I was there with my initial petition. My fiancé did not supply anything extra during the interview and we were fine. No chat logs whatsoever!

 

If your relationship seems rather easy to file (for instance, you've been together a while already, no police record, no medial issues, no children immigrating as well, etc) I'd suggest you just save the paper!

Yeah, we are, we've known eachother for five years, so what you're saying certainly makes me a bit more confident.

 

And there was me all worried because our chat logs only go back a year and a half hahaha, thanks

[Jing&Kuting 137]

Just get excerpts as proof.. That's what we did...

 

 

[ZoeUK1989 35]

Matt Deeley, I went to my interview on the 8th December and I took photographs, boarding passes, letters, cards and chat logs... Thought I would go prepared.

I was worried because I didn't have much of a chat log as we tend to video call every opportunity we get and then used snap chat a lot in between so we could still see each other.

 

They did not ask to see one thing that I had taken with me for proof of relationship. I would definitely take things with you and as the others have advised if you cannot find part of the conversation where you didn't F and Jeff then just block the words out. Just don't be surprised if you go through all the trouble of getting these things together to then not be asked for them, It seems this is not uncommon at the embassy in London

 

Best of luck!   

[Andrea&Henry 311]

hahahahah I can't stop laughing!!! not making fun of you is just the situation itself...

 

I think we all went through this at some point...you know!! is pretty much normal to have a few bad words here and there plus not pG13 appropriate conversations hhahahahahahah...

 

Honestly, we didn't send any chat logs along our i129 petition but we did get copies for my k1 visa interview. What we did: we took a black marker and cross out the words of phrases we didn't feel like sharing.

 

In the end, the CO didn't request not even a single photo during my interview and I was approved on the spot...I think they all understand that as a couple you feel extremely comfortable with each other and the language is just a proof of it 

[Absolutely 34]

4 hours ago, Valabum said:

Are you a US/UK couple?

 

I (US) provided three photos, a copy of my plane tickets and receipts of things I bought in the U.K. while I was there with my initial petition. My fiancé did not supply anything extra during the interview and we were fine. No chat logs whatsoever!

 

If your relationship seems rather easy to file (for instance, you've been together a while already, no police record, no medial issues, no children immigrating as well, etc) I'd suggest you just save the paper!

Yeah this is exactly right.

 

We sent no chat logs whatsoever as initial proof. We sent a few photos, passport entry stamps, boarding passes and a screenshot of Facebook with a picture of us and my fiancees dad commenting on it for the initial I-129F and I simply just took the engagement ring receipt to the embassy as ongoing proof. Chat logs are very much secondary evidence that for the American Embassy in London more than likely will not want to see.

[amul 229]

15 hours ago, Matt Deeley said:

Me and my fiance have plenty of photos together, passport stamps and chat logs etc, but we curse like sailors in the chat logs, so my question is this, could it hurt my case at all to have profanity in my proof of ongoing relationship? Should I blur the words out, or will that look more dodgy? 

We went through the same thing, though we do not curse often, we have developed a way of chatting, a new lingo only we get so to speak. Inside jokes and all. Anyone else reading these chats will have a hard time getting the jokes, let alone that we are joking. So we tried not to include to many of those kinds of chats and tried to find ones that were easier to digest for everyone else. We chat so often so finding content was not the problem -- the challenge was trying to find  "clean" chats that showed the best of us amongst our 29 gigs of chat files. 

 

I stressed out to the max while preparing for our application. If I had to do it again, I'd not worry as much about the chats, I'd just pick 1-2 a month and be done with it. Good luck and keep cursing, errr, sailing on... 

Edited January 16, 2017 by amul

[BadCivilServant 10]

I wouldn't worry about. I'm pretty sure U.S. government workers cuss, too.

 

Except the ones who work for the F.C.C. 

 

I work for a railway. My USC trophy wife works at a restaurant. Believe me, friend, she can make a room full of longshoremen blush!