AOS not started/WIfe wants to go back Home

[caliliving 606]

She has been here for 7 years and u never applied for her aos? She probably feels ur holding her hostage and she will never get it so what's the point! You are unreal!!!!!

 

Does she realize once she leaves she will have a 10yr ban snd won't ba able to come back tonamerica?

 

Did you even have any intention on getting her Greencard or r u just holding her hostage???? If she had a job she would make friends and she would be able to go home and visit!! She could be a citizen by now!!!! You are unrral!

 

 

 

U just need to get a one way travel document from the usa embassay...I have done it...it will get you back to her home country so no need to worry about a passport 

 

Did you ever have any intention on filing her paperwork????? I r going to put her in immigration lingo if she leaves!!!!

[AM268 23]

If you are in love with your wife, i would strongly suggest moving to the Phillipines with her. Yes your job is in America and bla bla bla, her life was in the philipines and you brought her to the states and allowed her to be without work for 7 years, either by will or circumstance either way. Take a risk if you love her. Pack your stuff and move, see what its like. You never know, maybe you might find a better life with the woman you love in her home country

 

[Chowking 20]

I hope you guys will work on your relationship, I mean try to apply for AOS so she can able to go home and spend time with the family then she can go back here again. I don't know but even I've been here in 3 years and have regular communication with my family I still feel homesick and miss them. Last year I was able to visit my family and I almost doesn't want to go back here but I love my husband that's why I'm here. Its definitely important for us to be with our family and I know you know that. Try to talk and hopefully she will understand you.

[blue_angel_29 108]

I'm filipina. You can pm me if she just want to talk to a kabayan..

[Pinkbutterfly1988 1]

oh no! .. please tell her don't do that.. I know she missed her family .. but none of em can help her if she go back to Philippines.. but I was just wondering if she been here for while why she haven't done the AOS?.. I been here for almost 6 years and didn't have my green card too.. I go nuts knowing no green card on this country while her other friends has.. mine got denied way back due to lack of income.. but lesson learn now i have to do it again... tell her she is not alone.. please have her AOS done.. i bet she will be happy she might want to work, and teach her to be independent and trust her. my husband never did.. i wasn't able to work due too much controlling.. i know not all guys does but please teach her.. u will sacrifice too if u don't.. my husband and I in process of divorce because of that.. not able to grow.. i wanted to work and help him, while he wants to control me in everything I do...

[Pinkbutterfly1988 1]

3 hours ago, caliliving said:

I agree with caliliving ... AOS is most important it should already be done is she came here K1 visa or whatever visa she has when she came here...

have her AOS i bet she will be happy.. time been waste for not able to grow and work....

 

 

 

She has been here for 7 years and u never applied for her aos? She probably feels ur holding her hostage and she will never get it so what's the point! You are unreal!!!!!

 

Does she realize once she leaves she will have a 10yr ban snd won't ba able to come back tonamerica?

 

Did you even have any intention on getting her Greencard or r u just holding her hostage???? If she had a job she would make friends and she would be able to go home and visit!! She could be a citizen by now!!!! You are unrral!

 

 

 

U just need to get a one way travel document from the usa embassay...I have done it...it will get you back to her home country so no need to worry about a passport 

 

Did you ever have any intention on filing her paperwork????? I r going to put her in immigration lingo if she leaves!!!!

 

[NikLR 13,227]

Guys, please don't attack.  The AOS is filed by the beneficiary not the petitioner.  The petitioner has do the I-130 (if needed) and the I-864 but we have no idea if his wife has even made any effort herself to AOS in the last 7 years.  Maybe she never brought it up or said she didn't want to or it didn't matter.  Yes he should have done it regardless, but we don't know the whole story here and attacking isn't helping him with his marriage or getting immigration straightened out.  Maybe she did want to AOS and he didn't do it, well now she want to leave him which I'm sure hurts a great deal and would be deserved in that case.  Either way, we can word our responses appropriately and tactfully, while still being honest and candid. 

[blue_angel_29 108]

File for AOS with EAD and AP and explain to her that the EAD and AP onlyntakes about 90 days, just 3 more months of waiting.. 

 

If she wants to talk to a kabayan, PM me. Maybe she just really want to talk to a filipina..

[Everlast 49]

Janet & Lyle, make her feel at home, file AOS for her for a start. Also think couple therapy is over due. 

Wish you guys well.

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

I have to agree with the other posters on here as well. What did you think your wife would do after being here for that many years and still not doing AOS for her? My wife was kinda like that as well being homesick until she got her greencard and DL, now she misses it but understands she can help herself and her family more by being here. Before you do anything about sending her back I would have a LONG conversation with her about the ramifications of this and seek marriage counseling. She probably feels like you are keeping her a slave or something which is sad. So get her out and about, file for AOS. 

[caliliving 606]

5 hours ago, NikLR said:

Guys, please don't attack.  The AOS is filed by the beneficiary not the petitioner.  The petitioner has do the I-130 (if needed) and the I-864 but we have no idea if his wife has even made any effort herself to AOS in the last 7 years.  Maybe she never brought it up or said she didn't want to or it didn't matter.  Yes he should have done it regardless, but we don't know the whole story here and attacking isn't helping him with his marriage or getting immigration straightened out.  Maybe she did want to AOS and he didn't do it, well now she want to leave him which I'm sure hurts a great deal and would be deserved in that case.  Either way, we can word our responses appropriately and tactfully, while still being honest and candid. 

 

sorry,  no one comes here on a K1 and wants to be out of status for 7 years!!!

he has been posting BS topics the past 5 years always asking quesitons about AOS and how he is 'almost ready to send it in' 

he has been a member since 2008! I didnt go through all his posts, but it seems as though hes either a-lazy or b-just wants the con trol and is scared when she gets a. GC she will leave...

reading his posts he just seems like he will never end up doing the AOS..

 

 

He brought her here.. she isnt working she has no friends and no money.  how is SHE responsible for this??? 

whether she wants to continue to be with him or not, she has been here for 7 years she deserves him to petition for her and get her a GC and see if that will change anything... 

[Boiler 45,488]

Past posts are often educative.

[Chowking 20]

8 hours ago, NikLR said:

Guys, please don't attack.  The AOS is filed by the beneficiary not the petitioner.  The petitioner has do the I-130 (if needed) and the I-864 but we have no idea if his wife has even made any effort herself to AOS in the last 7 years.  Maybe she never brought it up or said she didn't want to or it didn't matter.  Yes he should have done it regardless, but we don't know the whole story here and attacking isn't helping him with his marriage or getting immigration straightened out.  Maybe she did want to AOS and he didn't do it, well now she want to leave him which I'm sure hurts a great deal and would be deserved in that case.  Either way, we can word our responses appropriately and tactfully, while still being honest and candid. 

I agree with you. we should hear something from OP and wait for his response.

[NikLR 13,227]

@caliliving

I'll be honest I didnt read his past posts. But I still dont believe attacking someone helps.  It's an emotional response to the situation.  As I also stated, if it is his fault, then he deserves the heartbreak and all that entails.  She deserves to be happy too.  

 

Again though, the adjustment of status petition is the beneficiary's petition.  I would have gathered everything, put the I-864 in front of my spouse and said sign this, thanks.  Never would I have waited 7 years for someone else to control a vital part of my life.  He does not deserve all the blame unless his wife was truly hostage, locked up inside the house. 

Edited January 9, 2017 by NikLR

[TBoneTX 45,288]

Folks, the OP has made his bed and is lying in it.  He's been chastised in other threads.  Please avoid further judgmental posts.