Anyone adopted a foreign born child?

[iceyspots 0]

Has anyone every considered adopting a foreign born child? I hope I'm posting this on the right board! Me and my fiance are interested in adopting a child, maybe an american child or maybe a foreign born. Does anyone know around how long it takes ?

[gimygirl 0]

i am not really familiar in adoption ... but i would think your 'length of marriage' would be taken into consideration.

i do believe that foreign adoptions are quicker (and sometimes cheaper) than american adoptions.

best of luck to you both!

[kc456 0]

My co-worker adopted a baby girl from China. The whole process (from decision to adopt to bringing their daughter home) took 18 months.

This is probably not the right message board, I'm sure there are ones that focus on adoption specifically. Unfortunately, I don't know any.

[mawilson 2,133]

Be a patriot, adopt American!

[Donna A 4]

i wanted to adopt from guatmalla which is supose to be pretty fast but my husband said it is forbidden in islam to adopt so he refuses.

[Boiler 45,466]

i wanted to adopt from guatmalla which is supose to be pretty fast but my husband said it is forbidden in islam to adopt so he refuses.

I am 99% certaion that is wrong, but him not wanting to adopt may well be correct.

[iceyspots 0]

i wanted to adopt from guatmalla which is supose to be pretty fast but my husband said it is forbidden in islam to adopt so he refuses.

It is NOT forbidden in Islam to adopt. Children who are orphans should go to their extended family first, and if they do not accept that child, then the child can be adopted. Since we are muslim we would prefer adopting muslim children. However if you do decide to adopt muslim children you can never tell them that you are their real parents and the child has to keep their original fathers last name. Hope this helps.

[mawilson 2,133]

Since we are muslim we would prefer adopting muslim children.

There's no such thing as a "Muslim child". Religion is not passed through DNA.

[iceyspots 0]

Since we are muslim we would prefer adopting muslim children.

There's no such thing as a "Muslim child". Religion is not passed through DNA.

If their parents are muslim, it's moreeeeeee than likely their parents intended for the child to be muslim. you can't just raise a child with no set of religious values and expect them to make a decision when they turn of age.

[mawilson 2,133]

If their parents are muslim, it's moreeeeeee than likely their parents intended for the child to be muslim. you can't just raise a child with no set of religious values and expect them to make a decision when they turn of age.

Yes, but it's going to be your decision and nothing to do with the child's biological parents and their intentions.

[sparkofcreation 0]

Just be careful if you adopt from China, the Washington Post had an article a couple weeks ago ... basically people in the West still think there are tons of baby girls who are left to die in China so lots of Western couples go to China to adopt them; but that's not really true anymore, so people are kidnapping baby girls to fill the demand by Western couples who want to adopt a baby girl from there. Western couples pay something like $3000 per adoption, so orphanages want to keep that money coming in so they buy babies with forged papers and stuff.

There were interviews with families whose baby daughters were kidnapped right out of their strollers, and also with American parents who found out the paperwork saying their daughters had been abandoned was probably forged. It was really sad, but there's no way to trace back and find out where the baby actually came from—some Chinese couples who were interviewed said the police wouldn't even take a report.

[Boiler 45,466]

Just be careful if you adopt from China, the Washington Post had an article a couple weeks ago ... basically people in the West still think there are tons of baby girls who are left to die in China so lots of Western couples go to China to adopt them; but that's not really true anymore, so people are kidnapping baby girls to fill the demand by Western couples who want to adopt a baby girl from there. Western couples pay something like $3000 per adoption, so orphanages want to keep that money coming in so they buy babies with forged papers and stuff.

There were interviews with families whose baby daughters were kidnapped right out of their strollers, and also with American parents who found out the paperwork saying their daughters had been abandoned was probably forged. It was really sad, but there's no way to trace back and find out where the baby actually came from—some Chinese couples who were interviewed said the police wouldn't even take a report.

The whole concept always struck me as odd, after all a few hundred years ago buying people was called slavery.

[dani_christine 0]

wow.

the insensitivity of a couple of you on this thread just turns my stomach. obviously, you have not experienced the heartache and devestation of infertility.

firstly, and MOST importantly....no one is BUYING these children. the fees paid in foreign adoptions go to the orphanage to cover the cost of raising the child up to that point. (children adopted overseas are usually over at least 1 year old).

secondly, comments like, "adopt american" are insensitive and ignorant. if there were more babies available for adoption in the US, i doubt many folks would subject themselves to the uncertainty and hassles of foreign adoption. unfortunately, if a woman in the US gets pregnant and doesn't want the baby, she can have it sucked into a sink for $300. and for the record...the cost of domestic adoption is MUCH higher than the cost of foreign adoption.

lastly, considering the nature of THIS visajourney board...i'm pretty sure people here should understand...going overseas to adopt a child is really not much different than going overseas to find a spouse, now is it?

iceyspots, i wish you all the best in your adoption journey!

[Boiler 45,466]

1. I do not understand why you would have to pay the orphanage anything, after all you are taking an ongoing cost off them.

2. If you pay them anything then the potential for corruption mentioned above is not only possible, it is pretty much a certainty.

3. As far as I am aware there is no shortage of children requiring adoption within the US, I know my Town has a month long campaign every year trying to get people to come forward.

4. Obviously there is a problem if you can buy a child outside the US for less than it costs to adopt here.

5. With a Spouse you have consenting adults, who take a view where they want to live, obviously this boards deal with those going to the US, but the 'trade' goes both ways.

http://adopt.org/servlet/page?_pageid=289&...schema=PORTAL30

I am sure there are many, many more, first up on google.

[dani_christine 0]

did you notice that those children are all about 9, 10 and 11 years old? i'm not saying that there's not good reason for them to be adopted...but c'mon. it's sad but true...most of these kids have grown up in very abusive homes...many are drug-exposed before they're born...nearly all of them have deep emotional problems.

there very well may be many people who would love to adopt these kiddos. but can you fault someone for wanting to adopt a BABY?? c'mon. you can't possibly be *that* insensitive, can you?