LET'S TALK ABOUT YOUR RED FLAGS

[monnik 0]

As an outsider, who doesn't know anything about what happened, it looks like a frightening or strange situation. The thing that grabbed my attention was the picture of you wearing her engagement/wedding robes. Maybe you would like to pay tribute to her memory or show everyone that your fiance is moving on, but it can be perceived as one girl being brought in to finish what the first one started.

That belongs to the deceased wife?

wow.

In the 'mystory' new thread, BL wants to adopt the deceased wife's child.

Not the blue robe in her engagement pictures. Sorry for the confusion. The robe I am talking about is pictured in Heather's wedding photos and in Aimee's flicker album. It looks like the same robe, but could have possibly been rented from the same shop or made by the same tailor. It is a white/cream colored robe with flowers on it.

This is actually the only thing that seemed out of place to me. So, Aimee, if there is another explanation, I am sorry. But, as I said before, to someone who doesn't know all of the details, it looks like you were wearing her robe and taking pictures in it and that brings to mind the replacement factor of a possible fraud.

Peace to everyone involved in the story; past, present, and future.

[doodlebug 3]

Do you have receipts of all of the finest clinics that she was brought to? The girl was 22 years old and never mentioned a word of health problems to many of the people who knew her. I think she told a very different story than what you are telling but of course we cannot hear from her now, God rest her soul.

[tmma 467]

*WAVING BIG, HUGE, GIANT, BLOOD RED FLAG*

First of all, may she rest in peace. I, too, feel bad that she died so far away from her family. I try not to think about what my family would feel if I died here in Egypt. I surely wouldn't want them to take it out on my husband, but it is a tempestuous scenario nonetheless.

Your case doesn't have a red flag because of her death. It's because of the previous denial. It will be very hard for you to prove the first marriage was real, when she herself had trouble doing it. That doesn't mean you can't do it, but you have to realize what you are up against. You should be well prepared for the types of comments or questions that the consular may bring up. You should also be prepared on how to handle them.

I, at first, thought that this was some inside joke or fight from another board, but now that I see that the situation is very real, I can sympathize with all sides.

Please try to see things through the eyes of a consular whose concern is that a young man from a high fraud country filed a petition that got denied, then his wife/fiancee died in his country, he found a new love from the same country as his first one (probably in the same way as the first one), and he would like to petition again.

As an outsider, who doesn't know anything about what happened, it looks like a frightening or strange situation. The thing that grabbed my attention was the picture of you wearing her engagement/wedding robes. Maybe you would like to pay tribute to her memory or show everyone that your fiance is moving on, but it can be perceived as one girl being brought in to finish what the first one started.

Good luck in all aspects.

She will rest in peace in the country that she loved and near the man that loved her even more. Her family doesn't give a ####### about her then or now. They claim they do, but they didn't support her when she was alive. In my opinion, it's a little too late.

I'm not wearing her dress. Badr doesn't have any of her clothes. I rented the dress from a dress shop in town.

I do have access to her email account. I have emails that she sent to Badr and responses. I also have pictures. So it's those 2 things and our word against theirs. I know what I'm up against. I've already consulted a lawyer about our situation. Thanks for the advice.

Aimee

I am sorry but this is on my mind....

Here's the thing. He wants to move to the USA. She won't be "near the man that loved her" at all then. Also, why didn't his family have her shipped back to the US so her daughter can visit her grave/put flowers and remember Mommy? Why is is buried in Morrocco? How do you KNOW that her family does not give a ####### about her? Badr told you? If that were the case [they don't give a #######...etc] why was the child not made a ward of the court when her mother passed? Who from the States traveled to Morrocco to collect the child? if no one gave a #######, no one would have come for her.

Honestly this whole story is just spooky...And that's not even including the dress thing....

Please be careful.

[Mags 112]

I understand that Badrs Love's story is a controversial one, however I ask that you please all try to carry out the discussion in a respectful manner. Thanks.

[Mary Lou 681]

This is just so bizarre I actually felt ill reading Aimee's post on her "story" I dont know Aimee, nor Heather, but my god, my heart breaks for Heather and what she went thru with this family who supposedly loved her so much, may she rest in peace.

A few things i find so odd is how Aimee listed Heather's "medical condition" ie: poor dental hygiene........she explained it like she is a doctor or something

Another thing is why does Aimee have Heather's email password? This whole thing sounds too weird for me

Just when i thought i had seen it all.............wow

Good Luck though Aimee!

[Fandango 1,439]

This story has just shaken me to the core....Badr's Love, I realize you're prolly completely pizzed off right now, but please take this further and make sure you know what you're getting into.

Ray Charles can see something's wrong here.

[ya falaha! 0]

Lisa you crack me up!

[brnidokiegurl 0]

sorry to all those involved and especially for someone death of course but also was just sitting here thinking do we have any authors around on a daily basis think of the book that could be written by all on here again best wishes to you and please be careful in your decisions

[allousa 1]

Did you know Badr before this woman's death? If so, what was your relationship?

[deadbird 2]

sorry to all those involved and especially for someone death of course but also was just sitting here thinking do we have any authors around on a daily basis think of the book that could be written by all on here again best wishes to you and please be careful in your decisions

I've worked as a journalist but I've been writing for over 10 years. We certainly all could get together and publish a book on our experiences. I'd be willing to edit/offer constructive criticism

(We'll start a different topic if anyone really wants to pursue the idea)

[Ban Hammer 13,275]

wow. i can't believe the amount of bashing going on around here. then again, maybe i should be used to it.

[Fandango 1,439]

wow. i can't believe the amount of bashing going on around here. then again, maybe i should be used to it.

Charles, where's the bashing???? Why can't people express concern and question things without it being labeled as 'bashing'?

Edited October 18, 2007 by LisaD

[Ban Hammer 13,275]

wow. i can't believe the amount of bashing going on around here. then again, maybe i should be used to it.

Charles, where's the bashing???? Why can't people express concern and question things without it being labeled as 'bashing'?

don't see it? lemme schedule you an eye appointment.

[Fandango 1,439]

wow. i can't believe the amount of bashing going on around here. then again, maybe i should be used to it.

Charles, where's the bashing???? Why can't people express concern and question things without it being labeled as 'bashing'?

don't see it? lemme schedule you an eye appointment.

Your agenda is as clear as the nose on my face.

Keep on topic please!

Edited October 18, 2007 by LisaD

[Ban Hammer 13,275]

wow. i can't believe the amount of bashing going on around here. then again, maybe i should be used to it.

Charles, where's the bashing???? Why can't people express concern and question things without it being labeled as 'bashing'?

don't see it? lemme schedule you an eye appointment.

Your agenda is as clear as the nose on my face.

Keep on topic please!

you're a fine one to be talking. what's the topic again? berating badr?