LET'S TALK ABOUT YOUR RED FLAGS

[sereia 0]

i'm no authority, but i think you'll be fine!

[deadbird 2]

Well it's too late to go change the past 5 years, so now what? I'll be lucky if I could afford to go again by next year because it's so much more than a plane ticket, it's a week or two out of work etc etc.

Though if it's a one way ticket, well that's different.

[Together4ever 1]

Well it's too late to go change the past 5 years, so now what? I'll be lucky if I could afford to go again by next year because it's so much more than a plane ticket, it's a week or two out of work etc etc.

Though if it's a one way ticket, well that's different.

I want to comment on something. Its not just to benefit USCIS that its beneficial to visit your SO on his own turf. It will enable you to really know and understand where he's coming from. Granted you met on US soil, etc., but he's been back in Egypt these years and its a whole different world. If I had not spent the many months I did in Egypt I would never be able to make it through the transition my husband is going through here now. I understand on so many levels what he is going through emotionally. This way we can work through things together much more easily. I realize the costs is terrifying, as is actually GOING half way around the world. But if you truly want him here with you, its a sacrifice you'll have to make or USCIS won't consider your application, unfortunately, and its also a huge investment in the foundation for your marriage. Money and time off work are an issue, yes, but if you want it bad enough perhaps there are avenues you can explore to make it possible.

[mybackpages 0]

Well it's too late to go change the past 5 years, so now what? I'll be lucky if I could afford to go again by next year because it's so much more than a plane ticket, it's a week or two out of work etc etc.

Though if it's a one way ticket, well that's different.

According to your timeline, you should have no problems with USCIS approving your petition becuse you have met the guidelines. The large gap between the time you spent together in the US and one trip to Egypt (which was followed quicky by an engagement) MIGHT be a problem for the consulate. Those Vjers going through Egypt will better be able to give you advise there.

How well documented is your relationship in those 5 years before the engagement? Lots of contact via other means like e-mail, phone records? Perhaps you can offset this potenial red flag by having this documentation spelled out in advance of the interview? Nagishkaw is absolutely right in saying immigration does not care about lack of funds as a legitimate excuse, but perhaps there are other ways to present your case as to tone down the red flags?

Good luck.

[deadbird 2]

Well it's too late to go change the past 5 years, so now what? I'll be lucky if I could afford to go again by next year because it's so much more than a plane ticket, it's a week or two out of work etc etc.

Though if it's a one way ticket, well that's different.

According to your timeline, you should have no problems with USCIS approving your petition becuse you have met the guidelines. The large gap between the time you spent together in the US and one trip to Egypt (which was followed quicky by an engagement) MIGHT be a problem for the consulate. Those Vjers going through Egypt will better be able to give you advise there.

How well documented is your relationship in those 5 years before the engagement? Lots of contact via other means like e-mail, phone records? Perhaps you can offset this potenial red flag by having this documentation spelled out in advance of the interview? Nagishkaw is absolutely right in saying immigration does not care about lack of funds as a legitimate excuse, but perhaps there are other ways to present your case as to tone down the red flags?

Good luck.

Thanks--

I have printouts of emails from 2001-2002 but we both changed email accounts in college and neither one of us have records of emails from august 2002-september 2006, and until 2006 my cell phone was in my father's name so as a result I never got the bills and he didn't keep them. (We had some kind of problem with the house phone that's in my mother's name so besides a phone bill from September 2001 I have nothing). We did focus more on studies than each other through college as well, we really had no idea it might hurt us so much until we started looking into this process. After September 11 mail turned into such a problem for a while (he wouldn't get my letters & I wouldn't get his) that we stopped writing until last year as well, besides email is cheaper...and so was voice chatting, when we used it before we had cell phones. I think we're totally screwed. His cell phone has always been prepaid. We have a lot of documentation from September 2006 on though.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Its seems you will be fine, 9 times out of 10 they dont look at everything you take anyway. I do think tho the requirement to see within the last two years will stand. I know how it feels i need to go back this summer, now where to find the money, is the other problem.

[Together4ever 1]

I apologize. I didn't realize you had gone to Egypt once.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

yep me to seems you went lately, should be fine.

[sarah and hicham 3]

Its seems you will be fine, 9 times out of 10 they dont look at everything you take anyway. I do think tho the requirement to see within the last two years will stand. I know how it feels i need to go back this summer, now where to find the money, is the other problem.

Even if they say no thanks or say no try to do whatever you can to get those papers in front of the CO. Insist that they look at them.

[chiquita 0]

sooooo funny! Even thou my husband and I speak common language sometimes we still use the hand gestures ... and i use them all the times with the family. Who of course, with my luck...speak no french or german or english True love is when you do anything for that person. So I applaud you sister for taking the classes! Bravo!

We use them on words which require some sort of "finer" understanding of direction usually.. like one day he told me to be "at ease" and go ahead and "spread my legs." Now we were in the livingroom with his whole family, and of course I started to crack up! I used handmotions later that night to show him the difference between "stretch" and "spread" indicating "spread" in most uses indicates a side-to-side motion (spreading butter, legs, whatever heehee!)

:lol:

oh ladies you are too funny. brings back memeories of the words my husband used and still does use by accident.

[chiquita 0]

Well it's too late to go change the past 5 years, so now what? I'll be lucky if I could afford to go again by next year because it's so much more than a plane ticket, it's a week or two out of work etc etc.

Though if it's a one way ticket, well that's different.

According to your timeline, you should have no problems with USCIS approving your petition becuse you have met the guidelines. The large gap between the time you spent together in the US and one trip to Egypt (which was followed quicky by an engagement) MIGHT be a problem for the consulate. Those Vjers going through Egypt will better be able to give you advise there.

How well documented is your relationship in those 5 years before the engagement? Lots of contact via other means like e-mail, phone records? Perhaps you can offset this potenial red flag by having this documentation spelled out in advance of the interview? Nagishkaw is absolutely right in saying immigration does not care about lack of funds as a legitimate excuse, but perhaps there are other ways to present your case as to tone down the red flags?

Good luck.

Thanks--

I have printouts of emails from 2001-2002 but we both changed email accounts in college and neither one of us have records of emails from august 2002-september 2006, and until 2006 my cell phone was in my father's name so as a result I never got the bills and he didn't keep them. (We had some kind of problem with the house phone that's in my mother's name so besides a phone bill from September 2001 I have nothing). We did focus more on studies than each other through college as well, we really had no idea it might hurt us so much until we started looking into this process. After September 11 mail turned into such a problem for a while (he wouldn't get my letters & I wouldn't get his) that we stopped writing until last year as well, besides email is cheaper...and so was voice chatting, when we used it before we had cell phones. I think we're totally screwed. His cell phone has always been prepaid. We have a lot of documentation from September 2006 on though.

i dont have any experience with Egypt but it sounds like you will do just fine. i wouldnt worry to much.

chi

[brnidokiegurl 0]

He did try everytime she asked say, about the phone, he started to pull out the phone bills, she said no, he did this with more than one item, without cramming them down her throat she didnt want to and wasnt going to look, nothing i had sent in a folder she looked at...

[chiquita 0]

He did try everytime she asked say, about the phone, he started to pull out the phone bills, she said no, he did this with more than one item, without cramming them down her throat she didnt want to and wasnt going to look, nothing i had sent in a folder she looked at...

sounds so familiar. we follow the guidelines and provide so much proof...yet it is ignored.

WHY???????

who they h#ll are these people to not at least try to follow their own guidelines???

i'll tell you.

the CO's refuse to look at our proofs because they KNOW we can establish a VALID relationship.

then they (CO's) take our case to a higher officer (minus the proof our men were given back or never ASKED for) to get the second opinion that this is a sham relationship. (remember it takes 2 officers to AGREE the relationship is not valid) well well, it sure DOES appear this couple is not valid since no proofs were given.

how much can we take of this #######??? how can we get this illegal game against us stopped?? these CO are LIARS!!! i proved it in my case. yet they continue to get away with denying valid couples. i know that a case is decided prior to the interview. it has to be. why else would they refuse to see the proof? think about it.

ok ok i am done. this anger will never go away as long as this ####### keeps happening. it makes me so ashamed to be an American! i love my country but it is being bashed by a few employees who abuse their jobs!

chi

[chiquita 0]

He did try everytime she asked say, about the phone, he started to pull out the phone bills, she said no, he did this with more than one item, without cramming them down her throat she didnt want to and wasnt going to look, nothing i had sent in a folder she looked at...

brnidokiegurl

thanks for the link! i plan on signing it and passing it on to all my family and friends.

i hope everyone here checks ou the link to. it is way past time for immigration reform. time to look at all the couples who are denied based on prejudge!!

chi

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Yes, thanks it just started yesterday but i believe in time if enough cases are sited and called attention to hopefully someone will listen. It will just take that one person to draw attention to some of the practices going on now, with the rules and regulations also with the extended times taking so long. Way to many families being caught in the middle of all this paperwork. So everyone interested take time to read and sign. It may help not only your case someday but others to follow us.