Wife wants to go back to Phil with our baby born in Phil, We're in US now

[Meg&Andrew 297]

Get an attorney asap. When my childrens father found out that I was dating someone outside of the US, we went to court and he had it put in the court orders that I can not move my children 50 miles away without going back to court, and having an approval of a judge. Also, I disagree with whoever said it sounds like you're trying to force her to stay. You didn't ask how you can make her stay, you are asking about your child. I get that the child needs her mother, but you are the father and you do have rights to that child as well. But before you jump the gun, make sure this is her plan 100% and that she's not just going through postpartum depression. That this isn't just a threat, or a way of trying to get your attention.

[RodDetroit 118]

what she may attempt to do is a felony and kidnapping (even if she is the mother), you better register the kid in the US under your name. It is not even legal to take your baby out of the state without your consent .

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

If the baby has a USA passport because of you how does the US not know your the Dad??

I would get a court order banning your child from leaving the US.

Once child's in Philippines you will have a hard time getting child back in US soil.

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=1&cad=rja&uact=8&ved=0ahUKEwiggob7xJ7QAhWowVQKHQceDJ8QFggoMAA&url=https%3A%2F%2Ftravel.state.gov%2Fcontent%2Fchildabduction%2Fen%2Fpreventing%2Ffaq.html&usg=AFQjCNE2-QgprwiiWPRGBe-G0HEziloUEA

I don't know if this can help. The court can hold the passport until custody is arranged.

Edited November 10, 2016 by Anitafeliz

[amigator 2]

Hi,

We don't know your whole story but I guess try your best to talk to her.. heart to heart.. ask her what's bothering her or why she is thinking of going back to Philippines. Maybe she feels homesickness! I have been here for 3 months and still battling with homesickness. It takes time to fully adjust with the kind of life you have here.

How old is the baby? When you are at work, is she and the baby left alone in the house? Again, we don't know your whole story but try to talk to her about the custody of the child.. Maybe she just said she will go back home because she can't feel the comfort, understanding, patience in her adjustment period. Back home, her family is there that can give her the warm full support that she might be looking for.

I am a Filipina and NOT all Filipinas are after the financial support. We are warm loving people, the warmness and emotional connection is more important to us. Maybe she can't feel that emotional connection from you in her transition stage so she prefers going back home, leaving everything here just to be with her family where there is love and care especially in raising the kid.

Try to put yourself in her shoes. You are in a strange place, no family here, no friends. Totally different of the simple life she used to. Simple but there is love and warmth.

[Everlast 49]

Is this not a case of "baby blues"? Have a heart to heart conversation with her.

You can not live on mere assumptions.

She is your wife, chat her up dude.

Wish you the best!

[Randyandyuni 2,682]

If you were not married when in the Philippines (and she arrived on a K1 so you were not) the baby is legally illegitimate in the Philippines and Philippine law allows her to do as she pleases with the child, You as the father have no rights even if on the birth certificate.

[mrx3214 4]

https://travel.state.gov/content/childabduction/en/preventing/abduction-in-progress.html

Best Answer! All the information needed in one place. I wouldn't put it off.. The process on your end. Should already be taking place. Good luck

[DeAnna and Jorge 7]

I would hide the child's passport ASAP. Then get a lawyer and start the process for custody.

[EM_Vandaveer 2,408]

If you were not married when in the Philippines (and she arrived on a K1 so you were not) the baby is legally illegitimate in the Philippines and Philippine law allows her to do as she pleases with the child, You as the father have no rights even if on the birth certificate.

That means nothing right now as they are in the US. She has no right to take the child out of the country without the father's consent.

[USAMorocco 143]

Sounds like question was written fast for answers from a man wno is upset and just didn't explain all things

and to all

she may have thought along with her family she could come and marry, go back and ask for money to support her and the baby

this may have been planned out in her country when the family found out she was pregnant

family may be more upset as you impregnanted her when she was not married to u

register the birth if you need to here in US

i doubt you do as there is a US passport

and see an attorney

many here have already said a wife can not take a child out of a state without permission of the father

how can she take it out of the country?

where is she getting money to buy the tickets?

let her know there is no way she can force you to send money to her if she leaves and ask her to see a counselor

It's very easy to take a child out of the country. All you show is a passport for you and the child. Airlines are supposed to ask for a letter from the parent who is not their but most do not. I just took my daughter out of the country and no one asked me for the letter which I had. It's not that hard. Which is scary.

[USAMorocco 143]

If you were not married when in the Philippines (and she arrived on a K1 so you were not) the baby is legally illegitimate in the Philippines and Philippine law allows her to do as she pleases with the child, You as the father have no rights even if on the birth certificate.

Doesn't matter once the baby has a USA passport and the baby is on US soil you go by US law not the Philippines.

[jakartausa 28]

Hire an attorney asap and have any and all passports seized.

Edited November 11, 2016 by jakartausa

[JimJesDuma 472]

Hello,

My wife (married less than a month ago) and i just got to the USA about a month ago.

we were married in the USA, but had a baby in the Phil. Our baby has her CRBA and USA passport.

My wife is here on a K-1 fiance.

I have learned that she married me and is planning secretly with her family in the Phil to go back to the Phil after our 30 day marriage is sealed (when its final).

she is planning on taking our baby back with her.

i signed the birth certificate in the Phil, but have not done anything here yet to claim paternity in the USA.

Can i stop her from taking my baby?

Pleasse HELP!!!!!!!!

Are you prepared to raise the baby without the mother and why on earth would she want to leave after going through all the trouble to get here.

This makes zero sense unless there is something you are not sharing here.

Jim

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

It's very easy to take a child out of the country. All you show is a passport for you and the child. Airlines are supposed to ask for a letter from the parent who is not their but most do not. I just took my daughter out of the country and no one asked me for the letter which I had. It's not that hard. Which is scary.

They are not supposed to ask for a letter and usually have no such policy except with travel to Canada and Mexico.

I travel with my daughter internationally quite a bit and only once, about 5 years ago at a land crossing, was I asked for a letter. I always have one, but it hasn't been an issue. Maybe the border guards can see that we travel and always return? I don't know.

Edited November 11, 2016 by N-o-l-a