Marrying a Muslim

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Are you wishing GOOD luck or BAD luck???

[Ban Hammer 13,283]

Are you wishing GOOD luck or BAD luck???

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[chasnik 0]

Don't you just love the support you get from family and friends when you fall outside the "norm"??? Before I went it was they will kill you. I made it back so now its hes using you for a green card or so he can get here to blow us up. He will control you and not let you out of the house. Muslim men are overly jealous. Luckily my mom is an equal opportunity hater because when I mention an ex I had that flew into jealous rages she states "well he was a redneck" lol!!!

[RaspberrySwirl 20]

This is kinda funny to me as I experienced just the opposite.

My parents are originally from Turkey but I was born in Belgium. I was raised muslim, I'm not anymore.

Oh the things they had to say about me marrying some American boy I met online.

[monnik 0]

another kind of stereotype:

he can have up to 4 wives.

how do you know hes not already married?

he will come to usa to work and send money to his other wives and children.

he will find a new wife when he gets to america and he wont consider it cheating

he will cheat on you and then if you find out about it, he will marry her

Personally, I think any of these would be the worst situation to be in if it actually happened. But, its just a stereotype. Many men don't even consider additional marriages.

[Ban Hammer 13,283]

Many men don't even consider additional marriages.

cause it means more mother in laws

[cbd2cai 0]

Many men don't even consider additional marriages.

cause it means more mother in laws

Also means, since all wives are to be treated EQUALLY, that he has to buy the same things for each one . . . house for 1st wife, house for 2nd wife, new california king for 1st wife, oops, 2nd wife gets a california king too!!! You get the drift . . . it isn't double your pleasure, double your fun . . . it is double trouble!!!

[sarah and hicham 3]

another kind of stereotype:

he can have up to 4 wives.

how do you know hes not already married?

he will come to usa to work and send money to his other wives and children.

he will find a new wife when he gets to america and he wont consider it cheating

he will cheat on you and then if you find out about it, he will marry her

Personally, I think any of these would be the worst situation to be in if it actually happened. But, its just a stereotype. Many men don't even consider additional marriages.

[JVKn'CVO 11]

And I thought I got in trouble when I presented this to my family...

The other day I finally told my grandfather I am marrying an american (!!!!)

first thing he said, was "what worries me the most, is that americans don't take marriage seriously...just look at Britney Spears!"

I don't think Justin will ever forget that comparison...

[effortless 0]

Many men don't even consider additional marriages.

cause it means more mother in laws

Also means, since all wives are to be treated EQUALLY, that he has to buy the same things for each one . . . house for 1st wife, house for 2nd wife, new california king for 1st wife, oops, 2nd wife gets a california king too!!! You get the drift . . . it isn't double your pleasure, double your fun . . . it is double trouble!!!

It's very telling that you use the examples of material possessions required to "treat wives equally", as opposed to the emotional aspects of a marriage that are truly impossible to replicate, thus making the requirements for a man desiring multiple marriages completely out of reach. In light of that, it like totally makes sense to yammer on about material possessions, for sure. Right on!

[cbd2cai 0]

Many men don't even consider additional marriages.

cause it means more mother in laws

Also means, since all wives are to be treated EQUALLY, that he has to buy the same things for each one . . . house for 1st wife, house for 2nd wife, new california king for 1st wife, oops, 2nd wife gets a california king too!!! You get the drift . . . it isn't double your pleasure, double your fun . . . it is double trouble!!!

It's very telling that you use the examples of material possessions required to "treat wives equally", as opposed to the emotional aspects of a marriage that are truly impossible to replicate, thus making the requirements for a man desiring multiple marriages completely out of reach. In light of that, it like totally makes sense to yammer on about material possessions, for sure. Right on!

Ah, well, I was trying to reply to Charles' humorous comment regardin 2 mother-in-laws in a humorous vein . . .i.e. the material aspect of treating each wife equally.

BUT, you are perfectly correct . . . the emotional AND physical aspects of treating two wives equally would be impossible for 99.99% of men . . . it is hard enough when there is only one wife!

AND nothing "telling" about my comments in regards to "material possessions" . . . just trying to be funny is all!

[~Jackie~ 30]

I can't imagine Mohammed having a second wife! He has his hands full with me.

But seriously, we had that talk before we married. His father is devoted to his mother and they have been married forever. Not a concern for us.

Jackie

[peezey 0]

My parents are nearing 40 years together but I'm on my second marriage. There are infinite examples all around us of the same. Doesn't seem a parent's experience is relevant to the child's when it comes to how relationships will be.

Edited May 2, 2007 by peezey

[Mandolin_68 0]

-he will kidnap you

-he will kidnap your children

I actually got someone telling me "OMG! He will kidnap you AND your children!"

Oh yeah, I've heard "they kidnap your children and run away with them to the Middle East" NUMEROUS times LOL! And my SO is not even a Muslim! I'm like, "Well, he is Christian..." But they don't even let me finish, it's always, "It doesn't matter! He is from the Middle East and that is the culture he was raised in and that is the way they are!" Such blind bigotry....so sad.

[mybackpages 0]

-he will kidnap you

-he will kidnap your children

I actually got someone telling me "OMG! He will kidnap you AND your children!"

Oh yeah, I've heard "they kidnap your children and run away with them to the Middle East" NUMEROUS times LOL! And my SO is not even a Muslim! I'm like, "Well, he is Christian..." But they don't even let me finish, it's always, "It doesn't matter! He is from the Middle East and that is the culture he was raised in and that is the way they are!" Such blind bigotry....so sad.

Mandy, I am hoping you were typing quickly and didn't say what I read this to say- that because your SO is a Christian , that should be enough to convince these people he won't kipnap your children since Muslims do do this?