i am facing a dilemma

[Ban Hammer 13,282]

I haven't seen her online these past 3 days either.

that speaks volumns.........

that means she probably doesn't want to talk to me?

though i still keep in contact with her cousins and grandma, but she doesn't talk to them much if any either.

have you two ever gone 3 days without talking before? probably not. therefore, her not being online sounds like she's moved on with her life.

[JenT 0]

I haven't seen her online these past 3 days either.

that speaks volumns.........

So does him saying "I am already currently looking for new prospects."

[Mrs.J06 4]

I hear many people say move on or give it another chance. Its a tough decision, but I will just move on. I am already currently looking for new prospects.

Good thing she decided not to come, then! Wise lady....

[Chris H 0]

I hear many people say move on or give it another chance. Its a tough decision, but I will just move on. I am already currently looking for new prospects.

Good thing she decided not to come, then! Wise lady....

this was thought of just these past few days....and besides i dun think she is too serious with me anymore and moved on.

Edited April 5, 2007 by Chris H

[Moonie 0]

Wow what a mess...

[Chris H 0]

I sent her in the mail a sealed tin filled with Marshall Field's Frangos! She loves chocolates and perfumes, but I just sent the frangos for now and I also sent her a letter in there I am thinking about her.

Is that okay to win her back?

[TracyTN 237]

Never mind.

Edited April 6, 2007 by TracyTN

[featherB 1]

I sent her in the mail a sealed tin filled with Marshall Field's Frangos! She loves chocolates and perfumes, but I just sent the frangos for now and I also sent her a letter in there I am thinking about her.

Is that okay to win her back?

Nobody can tell you that. Nobody can tell you 'yes, that will do the trick, for sure!' - what they can tell you is that, if she's moved on, and really doesn't want to be with you anymore... there's nothing you can do that will change her mind. Good luck.

[Ban Hammer 13,282]

I sent her in the mail a sealed tin filled with Marshall Field's Frangos! She loves chocolates and perfumes, but I just sent the frangos for now and I also sent her a letter in there I am thinking about her.

Is that okay to win her back?

i think it matters about as much as a fart in a tornado. time for you to move on.

[Chris H 0]

I sent her in the mail a sealed tin filled with Marshall Field's Frangos! She loves chocolates and perfumes, but I just sent the frangos for now and I also sent her a letter in there I am thinking about her.

Is that okay to win her back?

i think it matters about as much as a fart in a tornado. time for you to move on.

lol i like this analogy!

One side of my mind says I wanna give up and move on, the other side of my mind says give another chance and tried to resolve this.

I feel like calling her dad, tell him about what I've been thinking these past few days. However, I think he is still upset and frustrated over what happened. I just hope he doesn't give her too much pressure again. I still have emotions for her.

How long should I wait to call again? I was thinking calling this weekend or should I give more time for her to think more over.

After all we've gone through, why give up so easily like this? She even thought we had some chemistry together, although some lack of understanding and pressure I think made her think about this a lot and give up. After all her dad did tell me she wait for me to take her (marry and bring to the US) for over a year and a half.

There still has to be at least some emotional feeling within her about me. Most likely she is just insecure about the future and the lack of understanding between us....

[knowledge 0]

I sent her in the mail a sealed tin filled with Marshall Field's Frangos! She loves chocolates and perfumes, but I just sent the frangos for now and I also sent her a letter in there I am thinking about her.

Is that okay to win her back?

i think it matters about as much as a fart in a tornado. time for you to move on.

lol i like this analogy!

One side of my mind says I wanna give up and move on, the other side of my mind says give another chance and tried to resolve this.

I feel like calling her dad, tell him about what I've been thinking these past few days. However, I think he is still upset and frustrated over what happened. I just hope he doesn't give her too much pressure again. I still have emotions for her.

How long should I wait to call again? I was thinking calling this weekend or should I give more time for her to think more over.

After all we've gone through, why give up so easily like this? She even thought we had some chemistry together, although some lack of understanding and pressure I think made her think about this a lot and give up. After all her dad did tell me she wait for me to take her (marry and bring to the US) for over a year and a half.

There still has to be at least some emotional feeling within her about me. Most likely she is just insecure about the future and the lack of understanding between us....

Of course there is emotional feelings...that's why she is hiding...otherwise, imagine being indifferent to you, she would have talk like if nothing happened...I don't agree with other posters...that it's obvious that she is not interested in you...because only her can say what is in her heart...talk, write to her, not her parents...let parents aside a bit...they are too much in between you guys..how can you make space to know each other...without the others in your hair...space..If she is not talking to her parents, that mean...she feels it has been too much intrustion in her private space...A young girl is pudique..what's the word in english...let her time a little bit and approach her...little by little...or let her know in a letter you'll wait for her (if this is how you fell) a bit..that she comes back to you...and let her know you do not want anymore parents in between you but you want her true feelings for you...either yes, no, or i don't know...all these people in between you guys...it's confusing..and you have to learn the right strategy......romance, love strategies...i don't know why, i fell she must feel lonely now...better to check!!! only with her...

[JohnK 0]

I thought I posted this before... but it seems to have vanished. Or I'm just too stupid to figure out where I put it. LOL

Anyway, I'm not into playing games but some people say this is game playing. But really, the best way to win a woman back is to let her see you being happy and moving on without her. It works even better if she sees you being happy spending time with another woman. I don't know why this works, but I know it does because I've put the theory to the test several times and a lot of my friends have done so as well. Obviously it's harder to do this long distance.

I really think you need to just leave her alone for a while. By now, she knows how you feel so you don't need to keep reminding her. If she is truly over you, then you are just wasting time and money and harassing her. If she in NOT over you she WILL contact you, in her own time. Give her time to think and to start missing YOU.

And just think about how you might feel if you were in her shoes... you were planning on leaving everything behind to move to China, but you got cold feet and started second guessing it... but she kept putting pressure on you to do it despite your discomfort. And the more you said "no" the more she said "yes". Wouldn't that put you off?

[Nagishkaw 510]

I agree with JohnK. Leave her alone. The more you push, the farther away she is going to go. It is a turn off . Take a break and let her come to you . Of course, prayer helps.

[knowledge 0]

I agree with JohnK. Leave her alone. The more you push, the farther away she is going to go. It is a turn off . Take a break and let her come to you . Of course, prayer helps.

The parents should leave along the kids to know each other. She doesn't talk to them either...so that's the sign to me where the problem is...If they intrude like that...maybe she doesn't even know how to say whatever she has to say...My opinion!

[NYGirl 0]

I think she's extremely upset with you for putting her parents in the middle of it. She feels pressure from you and them and she probably feels that her parents should be on her side and not yours since they are her parents. That might be the reason why she's hidding on computer. Give her some time and if it's meant for you to be together then you will be. Time will show everything just have patience. Whenever my parents liked someone and I didn't and they tried to convince me to be with him, the more it pushed me away from this guy.

Forcing her won't do any good to both of you.

Good luck!

Edited April 8, 2007 by NYGirl