Fiance abandoned me

[Merrytooth 5,748]

It isn't a matter of time. I suspect your approach is wrong here. Why the Philippines? What are you looking for in a wife? Why are you so desperate to have one that you can easily move from one foreign woman to the next and to another? They are freaking human beings not a new brand of cheese that you are trying.

I think you've really got to ask yourself what is going on in your own life that is making you such an easy target and maybe just work on being happy being single for a while.

He is detailed design engineer working in the nuclear industry, who seems to micro-manage his foreign other half judging from his previous threads. "She may turn out to be teachable in the long run."

Not too surprised that things happened, just that timing is so fast before marriage.

[N-o-l-a 7,167]

He is detailed design engineer working in the nuclear industry, who seems to micro-manage his foreign other half judging from his previous threads. "She may turn out to be teachable in the long run."

Not too surprised that things happened, just that timing is so fast before marriage.

So in essence, a case that VAWA was made for. It grosses me out as a mother and the mother of a part Filipino daughter that there are creeps preying on women in poverty because they know they are desperate.

Apparently, Filipinas are too smart for that, though.

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

Why are you restricting yourself to foreign women?

[Cheezees 1,514]

Why are you restricting yourself to foreign women?

Because it is easier to take advantage of someone who is new to the culture/country - to "teach" them, etc.

[Limey 551]

I will approach my quest for companionship at a method of my own choosing pal. ok? It's really not your business I'm just seeking support but I guess the world is too cruel for that.

Your original post didn't seem to be soliciting support - it primarily appeared to warn of scams by foreign partners.

Its admirable to want to warn others, but would you have taken such advice from others, if offered, before your latest k1? I think unfortunately people in these situations don't listen to advice, and make up their own minds.

I know that I would never marry anyone that I'd only spent 2 weeks with, I just don't think its long enough to really get to know someone. In my case my wife is the USC and I'm British so there was no thought of fraud, but I still want to get to really know someone before getting married. Its a massive decision.

I think if you're getting married to someone who you haven't spent much time with, and who is from a very poor country you have to consider that they have much to gain and little to lose from getting married to an American. At the very least I'd probably want to spend longer with them, and perhaps talk about me moving to their country for a while, rather than bringing them to the US - if only as a bluff to see whether marriage still interests them without the green card offer.

Edited October 31, 2016 by Limey

[soulstriker 274]

Dont complain about it being your business when your the one who made the post in the first place for opinions, support , and constructive criticism.

[Cheezees 1,514]

Your original post didn't seem to be soliciting support - it primarily appeared to warn of scams by foreign partners.

Its admirable to want to warn others, but would you have taken such advice from others, if offered, before your latest k1? I think unfortunately people in these situations don't listen to advice, and make up their own minds.

I know that I would never marry anyone that I'd only spent 2 weeks with, I just don't think its long enough to really get to know someone. In my case my wife is the USC and I'm British so there was no thought of fraud, but I still want to get to really know someone before getting married. Its a massive decision.

I think if you're getting married to someone who you haven't spent much time with, and who is from a very poor country you have to consider that they have much to gain and little to lose from getting married to an American. At the very least I'd probably want to spend longer with them, and perhaps talk about me moving to their country for a while, rather than bringing them to the US - if only as a bluff to see whether marriage still interests them without the green card offer.

Nonsense! Blasphemy!

[IcezMan_IcezLady 582]

I will approach my quest for companionship at a method of my own choosing pal. ok? It's really not your business I'm just seeking support but I guess the world is too cruel for that.

I've never seen any single Filipinas where I live. Not even any foreign single women either.

No single "foreign" woman you say?? Start looking outside of where you live you are open to going across the ocean.

You will be surprised at the number of single women that are there. Unless you are looking for one specific nationality then your chances are lower.

You ain't a fool yet..but you become one after the 3rd time.

Even if you choose to find your next spouse in Philippines, I would suggest you go and live there for a long time. heck, tell her you will have no plans of staying in the US but to live in her country. That should prompt some reaction.

Good luck to you but don't be a sucker!

[Las&kay 8]

Is that supposed to be the only solution? look for companion from another country? You are seriously searching when you have not come out of the last. Well I will advise you to relax, take your time if you really want to do the best thing and have at least long lasting maŕriage if not together forever. Secondly, check yourself very well, You could be the problem why those two ladies left you.

[jstryker 41]

I will approach my quest for companionship at a method of my own choosing pal. ok? It's really not your business I'm just seeking support but I guess the world is too cruel for that.

I've never seen any single Filipinas where I live. Not even any foreign single women either.

Milpitas, CA - 15minutes from where I live. The largest concentration of Filipinos that I know of... the entire Milpitas Police dept is Asian or white. Cheaper than going to the Philippines and they already here.

Also - hang around a hospital in the Bay Area - 95% of the nursing staff are Pinay. And I understand your interest for Pinays - I was bitten by that bug as well.

Not sure how are you meeting them - websites? Try a different site... there are a bunch that cater to your interests.

Edited October 31, 2016 by jstryker

[jstryker 41]

No single "foreign" woman you say?? Start looking outside of where you live you are open to going across the ocean.

You will be surprised at the number of single women that are there. Unless you are looking for one specific nationality then your chances are lower.

You ain't a fool yet..but you become one after the 3rd time.

Even if you choose to find your next spouse in Philippines, I would suggest you go and live there for a long time. heck, tell her you will have no plans of staying in the US but to live in her country. That should prompt some reaction.

Good luck to you but don't be a sucker!

"Tell her you will have no plans of staying in the US"... now that is brilliance.

[Adil & Jeanne 296]

no 15 months is not enough time as both scammed you

i spent 5 trips of 2 for a month, 2 for 3 months and 1 for a month and had to fight 6 years for spouse visa

for God's sake, get to know the person / or let them get to know you

and i am not being cruel or judgemental just being honest

and we do care as we all pay a lot of money for these fees and try to help each other

so, if you get some unwanted comments, be a grown up and take them

WE CARE about each other'

this is a hard process and we want all good and honest people to succeed

and i am very sorry for your loss

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

I was reading your previous thread....

I don't blame her, them and the future Mrs to come ...

ill stay quiet now....

Edited October 31, 2016 by Anitafeliz

[Jing&Kuting 137]

I'm sorry to hear that. But not all Filipinas are like that actually there are a lot of Filipinas that are good hearted. Try to check on the background of the girl before getting yourself involve and have your friends check her out, Another suggestion is to have lady friends so you can get an opinion of another female.

[Cyberfx1024 7,980]

I'm sorry to hear that. But not all Filipinas are like that actually there are a lot of Filipinas that are good hearted. Try to check on the background of the girl before getting yourself involve and have your friends check her out, Another suggestion is to have lady friends so you can get an opinion of another female.

That's the problem with him which we in the Philippine forum have had to deal with over a year now. He only wants to date some women that require a bar fine to date. Then he wonders why he gets screwed. He does not want to take advice at all and thus think he knows better.