Need help pls

[Abdo shawky 0]

I came to the USA on a Fiance visa K1 , I got married to the petitioner and I discovered that she is sick and has a PTSD and was shouting all day long and made my life hell and threatened me with killing me ! So got seprated and our application got rejected at that time too cus she did not do anything under my name and no papers together at all cus she is paraniod !! I applied for a self perition based on abuse ( petition for Amerasian ) and they said no enough evidences of the abuse cus most the evidences are text messages and emails with the threats ! And they do not give it alot of wirght in my case !! Most of the abuse was mental abuse and aproced this by Therapist report but it seems still not enough !! Not sure what to do and what are my options to stay here and be legal without flying out USA if they refuse it in the next few days ?? I appreciate your help !!

[randrb 17]

If you still care about your wife and would prefer to get her help, rather than give up on her, I can tell you with 99%certainty that you should get her to a therapist who can do EMDR on her. EMDR can completely cure PTSD in just a few sessions.... No lie. My mother is a therapist in the army, so she deals with PTSD every day. She's even had clients who have been cured of it in just 1 session.

I'm sure it's awful to deal with her right now, but know that it doesn't have to permanently be this way. I hope this helps and good luck!!

[Dutchster 1,107]

As far as I know, if you continue to remain in the US after your denial date, you are accumulating what's known as days of unlawful presence. You're out of status. Are there any other reasons why you want to stay in America? In cases like denials, it's better to hire an attorney as I believe but I'm not sure what can keep you here if your wife won't sponsor you.

[Limey 551]

I came to the USA on a Fiance visa K1 , I got married to the petitioner and I discovered that she is sick and has a PTSD and was shouting all day long and made my life hell and threatened me with killing me ! So got seprated and our application got rejected at that time too cus she did not do anything under my name and no papers together at all cus she is paraniod !! I applied for a self perition based on abuse ( petition for Amerasian ) and they said no enough evidences of the abuse cus most the evidences are text messages and emails with the threats ! And they do not give it alot of wirght in my case !! Most of the abuse was mental abuse and aproced this by Therapist report but it seems still not enough !! Not sure what to do and what are my options to stay here and be legal without flying out USA if they refuse it in the next few days ?? I appreciate your help !!

You have to convince USCIS that your marriage was genuine, that you entered the US genuinely intending to get married and stay married.

How long were you together before coming to US on K1? How long were you married before separating?

[LionessDeon 2,060]

I am sorry to hear about your wife. I truly hope you stay with her and help her through this.

[Abdo shawky 0]

Thank you for helping but dealing with her or getting back to her is not an option ! She destroyed my life and I tried my best with her but she is sick ! She would send me 732 text messages while I am work cus I did not answer her phone call !! Yes 732 text messages on my phone and this when her PTSD is active ! And alot more of abuse like asking me to look at her eyes for 30 minutes without blinking and it is called Eye contact !! Look at her chart and ask me to do whatever the chart says etc... !! Alot of things can not be said here ! She made me almost lose my mind ! Strange things never experienced before even my American friends never heard of it !! Not an option

[randrb 17]

Thank you for helping but dealing with her or getting back to her is not an option ! She destroyed my life and I tried my best with her but she is sick ! She would send me 732 text messages while I am work cus I did not answer her phone call !! Yes 732 text messages on my phone and this when her PTSD is active ! And alot more of abuse like asking me to look at her eyes for 30 minutes without blinking and it is called Eye contact !! Look at her chart and ask me to do whatever the chart says etc... !! Alot of things can not be said here ! She made me almost lose my mind ! Strange things never experienced before even my American friends never heard of it !! Not an option

You didn't have an idea about this before you got married??? PTSD doesn't just show up all of the sudden. And what is the PTSD from? Did something happen to her recently or in the past?

[LionessDeon 2,060]

Did you know anything about this prior to marriage?

[Abdo shawky 0]

You have to convince USCIS that your marriage was genuine, that you entered the US genuinely intending to get married and stay married.

How long were you together before coming to US on K1? How long were you married before separating?

[Abdo shawky 0]

I known her for 2 years and for 8 month here in US after marriage and she completly changed when I arrived here and she was really nice when I was in Egypt still! Never got mad at me or showed me anything ! She mwntioned one time that her PTSD get activated when she deals with anyone and she has no friends at all and kept me alone from talking to any one too ! I wanna stay here cus I have a job here and life now ! I will start from zero if I go back to my country . She never told me about it and it is from the military service as she is a veteran !! They discharged her cus she can not work with ppl !! Never knew all that I wish I did

[Boiler 45,657]

I was thinking the same

When did you enter

When did you marry

When did you separate.

[LionessDeon 2,060]

You said she mentioned it once. Then you said she never told you about it. I had a feeling she was a veteran. God bless her. I pray she heals.

For better or worse, in sickness and in health means nothing anymore I guess.

Edited October 19, 2016 by LionessDeon

[randrb 17]

I known her for 2 years and for 8 month here in US after marriage and she completly changed when I arrived here and she was really nice when I was in Egypt still! Never got mad at me or showed me anything ! She mwntioned one time that her PTSD get activated when she deals with anyone and she has no friends at all and kept me alone from talking to any one too ! I wanna stay here cus I have a job here and life now ! I will start from zero if I go back to my country . She never told me about it and it is from the military service as she is a veteran !! They discharged her cus she can not work with ppl !! Never knew all that I wish I did

I'm sorry to hear you have to deal with this, but seriously, tell her what I told you. Even if you don't stay with her, tell her what she can do to help herself. You'd be amazed at the results. She can really become normal.

Good luck with yourself.

[Abdo shawky 0]

Enetered july 2014 got married same month and separated April 2015 .

Hope she heals too ! She never mentioned any before I come here and started telling me about it at somepoints when we were together after I arrived here .

[JenniferNangel 137]

I am sorry to hear about your wife. I truly hope you stay with her and help her through this.

I have PTSD and I'm so glad I have a supportive husband who sticks by my side and helps me through it rather than leaving. It's not easy living with PTSD it's not like I ever asked for the events to happen to me nobody does

Edited October 19, 2016 by JenniferNangel