Red Flag? Beneficiary 2nd recent divorce and filing so soon, with some other possible red flags.

[CM&KV 72]

My S.O.(the beneficiary) has been physically separated from his soon to be ex wife for 2 years, one year before him and I met(in the USA at where I work). Over the course of the 2 years they have off and on talked about getting divorced, there are text messages of her asking for the divorce as well. This will not be his 1st divorce, this is his 2nd one. I think the 1st marriage was about 5 ish years, and same with this marriage, legal wise. Both marriages had one child, so he has 2 children which will not be following him since we both know the mothers will not give consent, and none are USA citizens. Him and I are unsure if we will have kids, he is 34 and I am 30. I have been married before with no kids to a USA Citizen, I am a USA born Citizen.

This is one of the major red flags I can think of that my S.O. have. We do have a genuine relationship for the last 14 months, we have lots of face time we spend weekends at his place just playing video games on our laptops with each other and watching movies, but we rarely take pictures of ourselves, we aren't big on selfies, we have lots of receipts from stores and movie tickets, hotels for our out of town stays. We tried to not spend much money on our dates, since I was lacking work and he was paying for the expenses of his soon to be ex.

Another red flag I could see is him not meeting my family, he has met my mother when the car broke down at where he lives and stayed with her when the tow truck got there. My father passed away when our relationship was still considered new. He has been introduced to my grandmother when she was up here last, sadly I only have one good picture of them two together. I'm conflicted with my sister, and rather not have him met her. I rather not bad mouth her, but she is someone that I rarely want to interact with (my sister is usually over at where I currently live which is why we are mainly at his place.) And my best friend is dealing with medical issues that prevent her from getting out of bed and staying up long enough. I have met a few of his friends here that live in the area, and have gone on vacation with them, but no pictures with me and them(his friends), but I have pictures I took with them and him, and Him and I(if that makes any sense) with conversations about our trip there with tickets and so forth.

With the current USA stand in the area where his parents currently live, its advised for USA Citizens to not visit that part of the world, so I am unable to physically met his parents, and they can rarely afford traveling.

My S.O. and his soon to be ex wife are starting to gather what they need for a divorce, and he plans on sending me the info I need to start our visa, and I would be sending it off with in that week. Should I wait longer? I'm assuming for him to gather this last decree will take around a month (with it translated into English) and another week for mailing me the info.

What evidence should I provide to help prevent this red flag so it doesn't become a denial?

Also should I provide a relationship timeline? Affidavits of people that have met and know about our relationship? I plan on frontloading our package, but trying to figure out of what things to put in it, or what things him and I need to create now while he is still in the USA, he is currently on a J-1 which expires next month.

I tried to look at the Russian forums here on VJ, but I just feel like I can't find anything that matches.

[TBoneTX 45,288]

"Face time" is one of the strongest elements that you can have.

Constructing a relationship timeline is another good idea. Search the Vietnam forum (or ask there) for samples.

[KayDeeCee 4,893]

You must wait to file the I-129F until you have the official divorce decree and English translation. Also make sure there is no 2 year home requirement with the J-1.

[CM&KV 72]

I should have added those notes in the main post, but yes before I started anything more serious with my S.O. I looked at his J-1 papers and the papers and visa state no 2 years. My S.O. had asked me if I could file for K1 while he was going through divorce. I only replied with, "Once I get your divorce decrees and your paperwork in English in my hands" I'm trying to figure out what things I can have as digital copies from him and what things I need a wet signature from him. Trying to save money on shipping costs.

[CM&KV 72]

Also I'm currently working on the timeline, thank you for suggesting the Vietnam forums. Just trying to think of what milestones to put in. I'm placing our trips and events that happened, such as meeting someone or a death. I think it is not important when I ask him via whatsapp if he wants anything from the store on the timeline. If I did our timeline would be 20 pages long just asking if we need anything. But I might place it as for proof of ongoing relationship with chat logs with receipt tied to it etc.

[KayDeeCee 4,893]

I should have added those notes in the main post, but yes before I started anything more serious with my S.O. I looked at his J-1 papers and the papers and visa state no 2 years. My S.O. had asked me if I could file for K1 while he was going through divorce. I only replied with, "Once I get your divorce decrees and your paperwork in English in my hands" I'm trying to figure out what things I can have as digital copies from him and what things I need a wet signature from him. Trying to save money on shipping costs.

He can scan in the documents from him for you to print and include with your I-129F. If he is going to mail you his passport photo though, might as well just have him mail you copies of everything with 'wet' signatures.