Change of Status in Process and cancelling it

[dawning 212]

Thanks for the replies - It would be laughable and ridiculous for him to claim any abuse or mistreatment from me (5'6) to his (6'2) stature. I'm pretty numb right now and I think it's absolutely disgusting that a man would try to pull something like this. It's a God send that the interview has been so delayed and that I also saw how he has behaved once he returned to his country for a visit. He has actually tried to tell me that he hasn't communicated well with me because his internet access is bad. No honey, you out with your wife and kids.

My post is not about a general public consensus on domestic abuse and I do not see anywhere in my post - where it was insinuated that domestic abuse was laughable in general based on size or that a smaller person was not capable of abusing another person with a larger physical stature. I only referred to myself and how it would be laughable for him to accuse me of that because I know the situation.. My post is about a man that I have fallen in love with, married and who also may be just using me for a green card. Do you understand that?

Yes I do understand, and you have my sympathy for your difficult situation.

However, if you re-read what you wrote "It would be laughable and ridiculous for him to claim any abuse or mistreatment from me (5'6) to his (6'2) stature", that does seem to imply that you think size is (obviously) critical in abuse scenarios. Otherwise, you might have written something like "It would be laughable for him to accuse me of abuse or mistreatment when I have never treated him with anything but love and understanding."

Again, I am sympathetic to your situation and wish you the best as you try to resolve it. But I don't think that means I have to ignore language that implies (even if unintentionally) a dismissal of barriers faced by many real domestic violence victims.

Good luck with your next steps, whatever you decide to do.

[Cheezees 1,514]

You keep asking what to do so I'll repeat my initial post:

"Yes, withdraw the petition in writing and head to your local USCIS office as well. Call them on the phone too. Then file for divorce/annulment. If he is still in his country I believe he will be turned back if he tries to enter (not 100% sure about this). If he already back in the US, do not give him any clue of what you are about to do. Many false VAWA claims are started when the foreign spouse fears that things won't go their way or the US spouse is on to their tricks and they claim "abuse" ruining the reputation and future of the US citizen.

Even if you are not sure that he has a family abroad, just the fact that you have questions and a negative gut feeling is enough IMHO to stop the AOS. To me the marriage is already tainted."

Pay particular attention to the emboldened parts.

Did you call, write, or walk in to withdraw the petition yet? Please note that the "closure" you seem to be seeking may come in the form of a domestic violence charge on your record. Don't let that happen to you.

[Bijou 5]

You keep asking what to do so I'll repeat my initial post:

"Yes, withdraw the petition in writing and head to your local USCIS office as well. Call them on the phone too. Then file for divorce/annulment. If he is still in his country I believe he will be turned back if he tries to enter (not 100% sure about this). If he already back in the US, do not give him any clue of what you are about to do. Many false VAWA claims are started when the foreign spouse fears that things won't go their way or the US spouse is on to their tricks and they claim "abuse" ruining the reputation and future of the US citizen.

Even if you are not sure that he has a family abroad, just the fact that you have questions and a negative gut feeling is enough IMHO to stop the AOS. To me the marriage is already tainted."

Pay particular attention to the emboldened parts.

Did you call, write, or walk in to withdraw the petition yet? Please note that the "closure" you seem to be seeking may come in the form of a domestic violence charge on your record. Don't let that happen to you.

Where do I keep asking what to do? I have been responding to other's posts. I understand and acknowledge everything that has been said with the exception of the professionally offended comment about my saying that I assumed all domestic violence should not reflect that a bigger person cannot not be a victim of such. As in typical forums (this one is no different and how silly of me) is no different before you turn on the OP and start behaving like ####### (some of you). I do not owe any of your an explanation of what I have decided. I simply wanted to know that outcome of a withdrawn petition. This is where I will bid you a good bye and thank you to those of you that were kind and factual. Consider this post closed. PEACE

[Bijou 5]

I do not keep asking what to do so I really don't know what you are referring to. To those of you that were nice and helpful - THANK YOU....To those of your that have not been....Glad I don't have to deal with you on a daily basis. .I don't owe anyone and explanation or detailed plan of what my next steps are. I simply wanted to know what the outcome would be if I withdrew my petition. Consider this post closed. Bye Bye.....

[Ontarkie 14,237]

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