Life and ROC after divorce.. depressing

[austindivorce 0]

Hi everyone,

I needed your help in understanding my situation, I have gone through a tough divorce with my ex wife. The divorce was file stamped into the system on June 26th 2016, she had filed on April 24th 2016. The divorce decree was pretty simple, we both decided to do a settlement and exchanged some wedding gifts, i didn't go after her assets or anything she made as i wanted to heal and move on in my life. I wanted to fully understand my situation. I will put down the dates of my relationship with her so you can better understand

Met eachother in october 2012

Started dating in august 2013

moved in together Jan 2014

Engaged in Feb 2014

Married on aug 29 2014

Applied for change of status and filed petition on Dec 19 2014 ( i was on valid H-1 B)

Received temporary green card nov 12 2015- it took long because i went through a long security check

Separated April 12 2016

She files for divorce april 26

Divorce finalized with decree on June 26th 2016

We both had met each other in Ny, and the relationship had always been tough after we moved in together in early 2014 but we both loved each other a lot and tried to make it work. Things got really bad after we married as my financial condition worsened as i suddenly lost my job. She wanted to move to Austin texas where all her immediate and distant family was and i reluctantly agreed to do so. After i got there we were forced to live at her fathers house as she demanded that i pay for the rent to a new apartment even though she made 6 figure yearly income. I was unemployed for first 4 months as i had not recieved my work permit, anyways things got really bad as we had personality clashes and her joint family was meddling in our affairs and it was tough living with 6 other people in a house although the house was big n comfortable. I wanted to move back to NY where all my friends were but she didn't want to do that. In feb of 2016 i went back to visit my family as i hadnt seen them since they came for my wedding, i spent some time thinking of the relationship and i decided to land back in NY as i had a couple of offers lined up to restart my career through some old college friends. She came to nY FOR work in early april and we stayed together all be in on an air bnb for 10 days and we had a good time but once she went back to austin she exploded on me and things got out of hands and she ended up filing for a divorce late april. Anyways i was still deeply in love with her, i borrowed more money and decided to move to austin and i really tried hard to reconcile with her, lived close to her and even went to a couple of therapy sessions but she just wouldnt yield and kept on being rude and just dismissive of my attempts to reconcile with her. Her family refused to talk to me and didnt respond to my messages or phone calls. She would come visit me everyday spend the day with me have sex cook eat and live like a wife but leave at night, we would go for movies and dinners do all the things a normal couple would do but in early june when i was getting tired of just trying and not getting through i pressed her to take out the filing and start living together. Anyways things escalated and she completely shut me out and lawyered up with one of the best lawyers in ausitn texas. I was heart broken by how abruptly she ended things literally, pretty shattered actually for the last 3 months, that a human who could be in ur bed 48 hours ago could just end things on a snap of a finger. I have decided to move on and since moved back to NY where ive improved my financial standing again and gotten back into my social circle slowly but its still a long distance to go. My question to you guys is since the last couple of weeks some tax issues have come up from 2014 and she has emailed me and threatned me numerous time that shell write to USCIS saying our marriage was a farce or scam if i dont pay the taxes owed which actually stem from her breaking her 401 k in 2014 and not reporting to IRS that amount, also in our decree it clearly states that the person who mis reports will be liable for the penalities and taxed owed for that mis reporting. Does she have any legs to stand on?

also, i have the following documents from my marriage, if you can tell me if they are enough ( i know nothing is definitive but would like a rough estimate) and also when can i apply for my permanent Green card. Some people have said i can do it now or i can wait till 3 months before my temporary expires which would be on nov 12 2017.

Docs from my marriage

Divorce Decree- its pretty clean, we did a decent settlement agreement

Joint Car insurance

Joint Bank account not a lot of activity is in here as she kept her salary in her account and i was unemployed for a large part of 2015.

Joint Health insurance

Joint Tax returns for 2014 and 2015

Some counselling sessions but they were after she filed for divorce

Went on trips to colorado and other cities, i have hotel receipts pics etc

Wedding Pics, we had a 3 days massive event in austin included a cruise

lots of gifts exchanged which she kept to herself

Pretty much the whole relationship saved in whatsapp from the day we met till it ended

I have friends who could write letter for me.

I have no lease agreement as i was living with her family and the lease was under her name the 3 months after we married in NY. will that be a contention?

I know this is long but would appreciate any response to any of the questions.

thanks

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Your list is a bit short, check this list in the link to see if you may have more you aren't thinking about:

http://www.visajourney.com/content/751guide (scroll down)

I can't answer your tax question, ask an accountant.

You can file before the 30 days window when divorced.

Edited September 16, 2016 by Ebunoluwa

[Eric-Pris 1,606]

I can help you with the tax question.

You are NOT responsible for her tax problems. Even though you filed joint (but are not divorced), you can request "innocent spouse relief" from the IRS.

Read this, it explains it: https://www.irs.gov/taxtopics/tc205.html

You will need to file this form with the IRS to separate yourself from her tax bill: https://www.irs.gov/pub/irs-pdf/f8857.pdf

DO NOT PAY HER TAX BILL FROM HER OWN DOING.

There is nothing she can do to get you deported, she's using empty threats to get you to pay HER tax bill.

Edited September 21, 2016 by Eric-Pris