ROC coming soon but we are separated

[squareleg 69]

Hi everyone.

So my ROC is coming soon, around 3 months from now. I've had issues with my wife and we tried to fix them while the divorce option was on the table, however few weeks ago I had to travel back to my country because my father's health is going worse and I needed to be there for many reasons. My question is I dont know if we are heading to a divorce and when if so, and i dont want to file for divorce just for the sake of using the divorce waiver (I have a lot of good faith evidence) As well as I dont want to end the marriage and lose my wife. If i go back to the US for couple of weeks can my wife and I file for ROC joint if we are separated (not legally separated)? knowing that I might have to return to my country untill I finish what I need to finish over there (such as legal matters about the family business and properties,etc). Both my wife and I dont know if we are heading to a divorce ans we are working on things, but as I said ROC is ahead of us. My legal address is still our marital home and I am receiving mail there, nothing changed. What do you suggest?

What do you suggest?

1. reconcile - file ROC.

2. if cannot reconcile - divorce > move back to your homeland to restart your life. Your intent to immigrate based on marriage would have failed at this point.

[newacct 688]

2. if cannot reconcile - divorce > move back to your homeland to restart your life. Your intent to immigrate based on marriage would have failed at this point.

The OP has already immigrated based on marriage. They do not need to "move back".

[firebird00 66]

What do you suggest?

1. reconcile - file ROC.

2. if cannot reconcile - divorce > move back to your homeland to restart your life. Your intent to immigrate based on marriage would have failed at this point.

My immigration based on marriage did not fail at all. Here I am, carrying an American GC which I can remove conditions on by a simple divorce waiver. I think you need to expand your knowledge, if possible.

[Harmonia 211]

What do you suggest?

1. reconcile - file ROC.

2. if cannot reconcile - divorce > move back to your homeland to restart your life. Your intent to immigrate based on marriage would have failed at this point.

Your second option is a personal opinion, and a bad one. There's no obligation to return home to restart his life if his marriage failed. He already restarted his life once coming to the US.

It amazes me that people want to ship their exes back, or recommend someone else leave voluntarily, when their (then) love of their life already made a huge sacrifice to leave their home, family, career, everything they know to move to the US, a place where they may not even speak the language. People can't be returned to sender. The OP has been in the US for what, 3 years? I assume he's established himself, and saying he should yet again "restart" his life is unfair and impractical. He may have no home to return to.

[firebird00 66]

Your second option is a personal opinion, and a bad one. There's no obligation to return home to restart his life if his marriage failed. He already restarted his life once coming to the US.

It amazes me that people want to ship their exes back, or recommend someone else leave voluntarily, when their (then) love of their life already made a huge sacrifice to leave their home, family, career, everything they know to move to the US, a place where they may not even speak the language. People can't be returned to sender. The OP has been in the US for what, 3 years? I assume he's established himself, and saying he should yet again "restart" his life is unfair and impractical. He may have no home to return to.

That's true. I already restarted my life when I moved to the US. I am not going to restart again just because someone wants me to, lol.