He slept all night outside, cheating yes

[zaynab 4]

I'm living with unrespectful critical husband since I came to usa, husband who do not give me a penny to shop or to be responsible for a any thing at the house. He is the one responsible for kitchen needs and small things at the house,

I found out from a long time ago that he doesn't care if I'm with him or not, no love like before, no affection , I'm the one I try my best to makes him feel like married, today he went outside like usual to smoke, I normally give him a call sometimes when he is outside I just give a quick callto say hello , and to send him kisses over phone and tell him I'm waiting for him, today I went with him to the store we came back I was a little tired.he went to smoke ,I slept for 1h i got up I found out he is not at the house, no calls from him, nothing, he didn't came home at all, I didn't call him I was just waiting to see if he coming or no, he never did it, it was 03.00am I knew he probably will show up to get his jobs equipments at 05.00, I couldn't sleep thiking may be something bad happened to him.

Finally at 03.15 he came, I heard somebody opening the door very slowly with no sound or voice, he thought I'm a sleep, he was very drunk, clothes full of water, his under short was out from one side , the second short was wet,the jacket was wet, I understood from what I saw, that he slept because of tiring feeling, then got up put messy clothes on went into a shower somewhere!! to be able to drive back home, I was in a shock he almost came with no clothes on,he went to the bathroom and went to sleep, I feel I'm disrespectul ,and lost , I feel I'm in a big mess,

What do you think? I have nobody to talk too, except VJ , he just cheated on me, and came back to his appt, what do I have to do?

[rawas 13]

Sorry zaynab, If I'm you i just leave him and move on

[nooha 16]

May God help you zaynab, so sad to see how some spouses treat their wives

[Penguin_ie 5,993]

I don't think what you say here means he cheated, but he is certainly disrespectful to the marriage, and that is very difficultt o deal with, especially with no local sounding board. Do you two share a faith, maybe a priest or imam could counsel you?

In terms of immigration, you have your ten year greencard, so you need not worry about that.

[zaynab 4]

Sorry zaynab, If I'm you i just leave him and move on

Thank you ,

Sorry zaynab, If I'm you i just leave him and move on

Thank you ,

[zaynab 4]

I don't think what you say here means he cheated, but he is certainly disrespectful to the marriage, and that is very difficultt o deal with, especially with no local sounding board. Do you two share a faith, maybe a priest or imam could counsel you?

In terms of immigration, you have your ten year greencard, so you need not worry about that.

I already have my 10 y green card. I worry about my marriage , my life, I'm very sure he cheated , because he never did it, and it's impossible to have a water over his clothes just because he was sitting and smoking, and under clothes out

[zaynab 4]

May God help you zaynab, so sad to see how some spouses treat their wives

I had a feeling that he probably has an affair, but I always was giving myself excuses, today I will need do it again

[joliejolie 0]

U have to relax & think, give urself a time, ND if he do not give an answer to what's happend & u become sure he's cheating save yourself respect and dynity

[zaynab 4]

U have to relax & think, give urself a time, ND if he do not give an answer to what's happend & u become sure he's cheating save yourself respect and dynity

You can't imagine how I feel! I feel so bad

[joliejolie 0]

You can't imagine how I feel! I feel so bad

Don't feel bad , u will be OK

[Sandra G. 5,048]

You don't have to give excuses to yourself. What is the point of living with someone who doesn't respect, love and care about you?. People usually say "because I love him/her " or "I am trying to save my marriage" well you need to love,care and respect you more.

Marriage should be is based on respect, trust and love, without these things there is no reason to continue.

Edited August 9, 2016 by sandranj

[Cheezees 1,514]

Please just divorce and leave him. You deserve so much more than this.

[joliejolie 0]

You don't have to give excuses to yourself. What is the point of living with someone who doesn't respect, love and care about you?. People usually say "because I love him/her " or "I am trying to save my marriage" well you need to love,care and respect you more.

Marriage should be is based on respect, trust and love, without these things there is no reason to continue.

You are right, Edited August 9, 2016 by joliejolie

[Ebunoluwa 6,136]

Talk to him and tell him that you suspect he is cheating. Suggest counseling to open communication between you both and if he

refuses move on. You do need to learn how to communicate your thoughts to him.

Assuming is not enough, you need facts. Let him know that you will not be disrespected with him sneaking in and not telling you

ahead of time where he is going or the marriage is over.

[zaynab 4]

Talk to him and tell him that you suspect he is cheating. Suggest counseling to open communication between you both and if he

refuses move on. You do need to learn how to communicate your thoughts to him.

Assuming is not enough, you need facts. Let him know that you will not be disrespected with him sneaking in and not telling you

ahead of time where he is going or the marriage is over.

Unfortunately, i gave up , i'm not going to do anything anymore, he always fight and stop speaking to me for few days , i if don't take initiative to speak to him he can stop speaking for months,

yesterday when he came back , i asked ! about whats going on? he know i think he was cheating on me , but no words from his part, no answer, he didn't went to his job because he had to sleep, he was packing some of his stuffs in a big box, i asked him are you leaving?no answer!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! , i'm tired i'm just wasting my time , i deserve better , he can find another woman and he can cheat on her and insult her too like he does, he don't know what means communication