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Why not give it a try? Halt the immigration process, move to India and have a kid.

It should resolve your concerns including your virginity. Subsequently, you can start the immigration process.

I'm sorry but seriously what is wrong with you? Having a child Never fixes a marriage and you should never bring an innocent child into a situation such as this. This is a very foolhardy comment and is just as bad as women thinking that having a baby will keep a man around. It doesn't and just causes more problems and the child is the one who ultimately pays the price. The OP clearly has some strong jealously and trust issues and this kind of solution would only exasperate this.

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1st Date we can File Naturalization (N400): 05/30/19

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  • Re-Scheduled Biometrics Appt. Letter Received (Electronic Notice): 12/10/2020 (Notice date of: 12/10/2020) - USCIS Biometrics Reuse Notice Received
  • Re-Scheduled Biometrics Letter Received (Hard Copy): 12/15/2020
  • Re-Scheduled Biometrics Appt. for: N/A - (USCIS is reusing previous fingerprints/biometrics from AOS)
  • Interview Appt. Letter Received (Electronic Notice): 12/29/2020 (Notice date of: 12/29/2020) - Document itself viewable online on 12/30/2020
  • Interview Letter Received (Hard Copy): 1/11/2021
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Hell yah a DNA test is a great way to mend a broken trust in a relationship. :rolleyes:

Perhaps OP should ask his wife for STD test results now. How about that, huh?

One should be cautious and request STD/AIDS/HIV test results. Or better, couple should go together to get tested. There is lot of awareness being generated about this.

DNA has mend or broken lot of relationships. It is also used in paternity cases as the evidence is applicable under court of law.

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I'm sorry but seriously what is wrong with you? Having a child Never fixes a marriage and you should never bring an innocent child into a situation such as this. This is a very foolhardy comment and is just as bad as women thinking that having a baby will keep a man around. It doesn't and just causes more problems and the child is the one who ultimately pays the price. The OP clearly has some strong jealously and trust issues and this kind of solution would only exasperate this.

It is far from foolhardy. You can collect the data set and run a trend for the marriages saved by having kids. Alternatively, you can also find the same guidance via marriage counselor or if you are religious then through your church/priest/mosque/mullah etc.

Not certain, how you arrive that conclusion single-handedly that OP has jealously and trust issues.

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Sweden
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It is far from foolhardy. You can collect the data set and run a trend for the marriages saved by having kids. Alternatively, you can also find the same guidance via marriage counselor or if you are religious then through your church/priest/mosque/mullah etc.

Not certain, how you arrive that conclusion single-handedly that OP has jealously and trust issues.

I am not going to discuss why having a kid is so bad in this situation because it's like talking to a wall...

So jealousy and trust issues let's see

  1. Has issues with the fact that he won't be her first
  2. Has issues with her spending time with the opposite sex
  3. Can't sleep because of above issues




Posted

So jealousy and trust issues let's see

  1. Has issues with the fact that he won't be her first - culturally valid to an extent to worry. nothing to do with trust.
  2. Has issues with her spending time with the opposite sex - could be valid concern if wife is cheating. how can you be 100% sure that she is not cheating? do you any proof?
  3. Can't sleep because of above issues - naturally if you are worried, you gonna loose sleep. doesn't establish trust issues.
Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Norway
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I am not going to discuss why having a kid is so bad in this situation because it's like talking to a wall...

So jealousy and trust issues let's see

  1. Has issues with the fact that he won't be her first
  2. Has issues with her spending time with the opposite sex
  3. Can't sleep because of above issues

Yes exactly, and the OP has stated himself that he has Jealousy and trust issues with his wife!! But the point is for the OP, don't bring a kid into the mix, talk to your wife openly about your concerns and listen to what she has to say as well. Again, marriage is a two way street and it takes both parties to make it work. You can't force someone else to love you and stay faithful, the other party has to make those choices and if you both cannot commit to the marriage and cannot see a life together, get out now, divorce and move on and find someone whom you are compatible with, love and trust and can spend the rest of your life with.

Edited by Prystine

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  • Delivery Confirmation: 09/16/2015
  • NOA1 Received (Electronic notice): 09/18/2015 (Sent to CSC)
  • NOA1 Received (Hard Copy): 09/26/15
  • NOA2 Received (Electronic notice): 10/06/2015
  • NOA2 Received (Hard Copy): 10/10/2015
  • NVC Received: 10/26/2015
  • NVC Case# Assigned: 10/30/2015
  • NVC Sent to Consulate: 11/02/2015
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  • Medical Paperwork Received by Embassy: 02/03/2016
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  • Visa Issued: 02/05/2016
  • Visa Received: 02/11/2016
  • US Entry (POE): 03/12/2016
  • Applied for SSN: 03/17/2016
  • SSN & Temp Card Received: 03/23/2016
  • Marriage Date: 04/21/2016

AOS/EAD/AP Process:

Spoiler
  • I-485/I-797/I-131 Packet Sent: 05/10/2016 (Sent to Chicago, IL Lockbox)
  • Tracking Shows Packet Delivered: 05/12/16
  • NOA1 Received (Electronic notices): 05/19/16 (for all 3: AOS, EAD & AP)
  • NOA1 Received (Hard Copies): 05/23/16 (Notice date of 5/18/16 for all 3)
  • Biometrics Appt. Letter Received: 06/10/16
  • Biometrics Appt. Scheduled for: 06/20/16
  • Biometrics Appt. Completed: 06/20/16
  • EAD/AP Approved: 07/28/2016 {Day 76}
  • EAD/AP Card Received: 08/03/16 {Day 82}
  • DL Tests passed & 1yr. DL issued: 08/18/16
  • AOS Approved: 08/29/16 (Interview waived & Approval notice received in the mail on 9/1/16) {Day 108)
  • 2yr. Greencard Received: 09/09/16 {Day 119)
  • Updated info. w/Social Security Office: 09/22/16
  • Updated info. w/DMV & New 4yr. DL issued: 09/22/16
  • New Permanent SSN Card Received: 09/28/16

1st Date we can File ROC: 05/30/18

ROC Process:

Spoiler
  • I-751 Packet Sent: 06/11/18 (Sent to California Service Center)
  • Tracking Shows Packet Delivered: 6/13/18
  • Check Shows Cashed: 6/28/18
  • NOA1 Received (Hard Copy): 6/30/18 (Notice date of: 06/26/18)
  • Biometrics Appt. Letter Received: 3/16/19 (Notice date of: 03/08/19) - USCIS Biometrics Waiver Notice Received
  • Biometrics Appt. Scheduled for: N/A - (USCIS is resusing previous fingerprints/biometrics from AOS)
  • Notice of Transfer Received: 3/21/19 (Notice date of 03/15/19 )- USCIS transferred case to the Potomac Service Center in Arlington, VA for processing.
  • Interview Date: N/A - (Interview waived, received Electronic notice on 4/18/19 of update to case. It was  the ROC Approval with and approval date of 4/17/19)
  • ROC Approved: 4/15/19 (Received Electronic notice on 4/18/19 with an approval date of 4/17/19. Received Hard Copy in the mail on 4/20/19 with a Notice date of 4/15/19)
  • 10yr. Greencard Received4/24/19

1st Date we can File Naturalization (N400): 05/30/19

Naturalization Process:

Quote
  • N-400 packet Sent: 3/13/2020 (Submitted online via the USCIS Website)
  • NOA1 Received (Elecctronic Notice): 3/13/2020 (Notice date of: 3/13/2020) - Document itself viewable online on 3/17/2020
  • NOA1 Received (Hard Copy): 3/20/2020
  • Biometrics Appt. Letter Received (Electronic Notice): 3/14/2020 (Notice date of: 3/13/2020) - Document itself viewable online on 3/17/2020
  • Biometrics Letter Received (Hard Copy): 3/21/2020
  • Biometrics Appt. Scheduled for: 3/30/2020 (OKC local Field Office) - Office closed due to COVID-19, haven't received cancellation/reschedule notice yet... 😭
  • Re-Scheduled Biometrics Appt. Letter Received (Electronic Notice): 12/10/2020 (Notice date of: 12/10/2020) - USCIS Biometrics Reuse Notice Received
  • Re-Scheduled Biometrics Letter Received (Hard Copy): 12/15/2020
  • Re-Scheduled Biometrics Appt. for: N/A - (USCIS is reusing previous fingerprints/biometrics from AOS)
  • Interview Appt. Letter Received (Electronic Notice): 12/29/2020 (Notice date of: 12/29/2020) - Document itself viewable online on 12/30/2020
  • Interview Letter Received (Hard Copy): 1/11/2021
  • Interview Date: 02/17/2021 (at 1:30pm; OKC local Field Office) - Office closed due to Hazardous Weather Conditions; waiting for reschedule notice. 😭
  • Interview CANCELLATION Notice Received (Electronic Notice): 2/17/2021 (Notice date of: 2/17/2021) - voicemail from USCIS advising of cancellation received on 2/16/2021; document itself viewable online on 2/20/2021
  • Interview CANCELLATION Notice Received (Hard Copy): 2/26/2021
  • Re-Scheduled Interview Letter Received (Electronic Notice): 2/22/2021 (Notice date of: 2/22/2021) - Document itself viewable online on 2/24/2021
  • Re-Scheduled Interview Letter Received (Hard Copy): 3/1/2021
  • Re-Scheduled Interview Date for: 4/13/2021 (at 8:45am; OKC local Field Office) - Received recommended for Approval paper from USCIS Officer, waiting for confirmation and oath ceremony to be scheduled.
  • Naturalization Approved: 4/13/2021 
  • Oath Ceramony Appt. Letter Received (Electronic Notice): 4/14/2021 (Notice date of: 4/14/2021) - Document itself viewable online same day.
  • Oath Ceramony Letter Received (Hard Copy): 4/23/2021 
  • Oath Ceramony Date: 4/27/2021 (at 1:30pm; OKC local Field Office) - Oath completed, naturalization certificate in hand :dance:
  • Update SSN Info Appt. Scheduled for: 6/4/2021 - update from LPR to US Citizen w/SS Office...Done, waiting on new ss card in mail.
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  • Applied for US Passport: / /

 

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Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Sweden
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Posted

So jealousy and trust issues let's see

Has issues with the fact that he won't be her first - culturally valid to an extent to worry. nothing to do with trust.

Has issues with her spending time with the opposite sex - could be valid concern if wife is cheating. how can you be 100% sure that she is not cheating? do you any proof?

Can't sleep because of above issues - naturally if you are worried, you gonna loose sleep. doesn't establish trust issues.

Let's say you were cheating, would you then take photos and show them to your husband? Sounds pretty dumb.

I mentioned jealousy AND trust issues. Him not being the first would go under jealousy.





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One should be cautious and request STD/AIDS/HIV test results. Or better, couple should go together to get tested. There is lot of awareness being generated about this.

DNA has mend or broken lot of relationships. It is also used in paternity cases as the evidence is applicable under court of law.

You don't get sarcasm, do you?

And, try asking for a STD, etc test in India. They'd laugh you out of the house.

..More to OP's point, he does seem to have trust issues; but at the same time, demonstrated valid concerns about his wife's behavior wrt to her keeping her lifestyle hush hush from the husband.

USCIS

January 16, 2015 I-130 Mailed, Chi lockbox January 20, 2015 Priority Date, January 21, 2015 NOA1 notice date, Assigned VSC, January 23, 2015 Check Cashed, electronically March 5, 2015 NOA2

NVC

March 27, 2015 NVC received April 6, 2015 Case#, IIN# assigned April 8, 2015 Paid AOS + IV fee Invoices May 5, 2015 AOS + IV package submitted May 11, 2015 Scan Date

June 11, 2015 DS-260 submitted June 25, 2015 False checklist (for ds260).. hello? June 30, 2015 Answered checklist Aug 5, 2015 Escalated to Supervisor review Aug 13, 2015 Case Complete

Consular

Sept 10, 2015 Interview Scheduled Sept 11, 2015 P4 Letter received Sept 21, 2015 file In transit from NVC Sept 23, 2015 file at Embassy

Sept 28, 2015 Medical Oct 14, 2015 Biometrics Oct 15, 2015 Interview (Approved) Oct 19, 2015 IV visa Issued Oct 23, 2015 Passport Pickup

POE

Nov 2, 2015 Entered the US Nov 16, 2015 Applied for SSN, walk-in Nov 20, 2015 Social Security Card recd Jan 15, 2016 GC received

Filed: Citizen (apr) Country: Ukraine
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Posted (edited)

OP...I'm a little embarrassed to ask this but has your relationship really never been consummated?

I know to some deeply religious people, fornication is specifically only for procreation.

If you haven't and I mean by multiple times, that could be where all your problems began.

Edited by gregcrs2
Posted

kierenhby - I actually did get my HIV and AIDS tests done in Mumbai. Yes, included whole suits of STDs as well. The hospital, my friends, my american spouse...I didn't hear anyone laugh.

Some of have more colourful life. So it's better to test!

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kierenhby - I actually did get my HIV and AIDS tests done in Mumbai. Yes, included whole suits of STDs as well. The hospital, my friends, my american spouse...I didn't hear anyone laugh.

Some of have more colourful life. So it's better to test!

Really?

Because I've never heard of one being asked for in India. Never!

USCIS

January 16, 2015 I-130 Mailed, Chi lockbox January 20, 2015 Priority Date, January 21, 2015 NOA1 notice date, Assigned VSC, January 23, 2015 Check Cashed, electronically March 5, 2015 NOA2

NVC

March 27, 2015 NVC received April 6, 2015 Case#, IIN# assigned April 8, 2015 Paid AOS + IV fee Invoices May 5, 2015 AOS + IV package submitted May 11, 2015 Scan Date

June 11, 2015 DS-260 submitted June 25, 2015 False checklist (for ds260).. hello? June 30, 2015 Answered checklist Aug 5, 2015 Escalated to Supervisor review Aug 13, 2015 Case Complete

Consular

Sept 10, 2015 Interview Scheduled Sept 11, 2015 P4 Letter received Sept 21, 2015 file In transit from NVC Sept 23, 2015 file at Embassy

Sept 28, 2015 Medical Oct 14, 2015 Biometrics Oct 15, 2015 Interview (Approved) Oct 19, 2015 IV visa Issued Oct 23, 2015 Passport Pickup

POE

Nov 2, 2015 Entered the US Nov 16, 2015 Applied for SSN, walk-in Nov 20, 2015 Social Security Card recd Jan 15, 2016 GC received

Filed: K-1 Visa Country: United Kingdom
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Posted (edited)

There were few other lies as well and interference from her step mother sisters giving her training on how to control husband. After living with her for 20 days and coming back to US as I found these lies I confronted her and lectured her a few times. I later checked her facebook history and all which showed she's searching for ex boyfriend name until this day on facebook. She also went to cafe with another friend who gets really close to her and almost leaning on her while taking pictures. I confronted her on that as well and now she's being more sneaky. I really don't want her if she don't have any respect for this marriage and want to keep sleeping with ex boyfriend or other guy friend. It's driving me insane, I can't sleep more then 4 hours each night. I haven't told her yet that I found out about her exboyfriend because her step mother wants the marriage to not work out and get alimony. I have worked way to hard to lose it all to this girl.

If you don't want to be paying alimony, I wouldn't be bringing her here.

Cancel the I-130 immediately.

Edited by Avery Cates

November 14th, 2013: She's here!

December 12th, 2013: Picked up marriage license.

December 14th, 2013: Wedding

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Filed: K-1 Visa Country: United Kingdom
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Posted (edited)

Why not give it a try? Halt the immigration process, move to India and have a kid.

And then... and then he said "you should have a kid with her."

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Seriously, if the poor guy can't sleep now, just wait until he brings here here and she was seeded by some other guy before showing up.

Edited by Avery Cates

November 14th, 2013: She's here!

December 12th, 2013: Picked up marriage license.

December 14th, 2013: Wedding

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