So surreal...

[RosaMystica7 0]

So, my baby's comin home tomorrow... after 15 months of being apart it just doesn't feel real. It's been so hard on him, saying his goodbyes and not knowing when he'll return to France. To think that this time tomorrow we'll have been together again for a few hours is just... whoa! What does he need to have on the plane with him again? The brown do not open envelope... isn't there something else?

It's funny, the 15 months we were apart flew by so fast... but now the reality of it is kicking in. The memories we have together are from 2005 - and now it's 2007. It seems (and is) so long ago... I don't remember what his hug feels like anymore... I don't even remember what it feels like to stand there and look up into his eyes. And that all finally ends tomorrow... wow... it's just so many combinations of feelings. Excited and relieved... worried about finances... sad for him having to leave his friends and family... on edge because of all the fighting we've done lately (15 months apart will do that to ya)... burned out because of a few bad weeks in work... combine them all together and I actually sort of feel numb. I don't know which one to feel first lol. I think I'm scheduling us for two back massages this weekend.

Eh, I'm just rambling. It just doesn't feel real that our K1 journey is ending, and then the AOS journey will begin. I guess, after 15 months of reading on the K1 forum, I just got used to being a "preparing to file K1" person. So it really, really doesn't feel real that he'll be flying in on his K1 tomorrow!

Did any of that actually make sense?

[flutter95 4]

I - as many others here do understand how you feel!

We were never apart THAT long but still long enough to forget things...and it all felt surreal for me when we met up again. It will be great and you'll be smiling so much tomorrow!

At least you are now prepared for the AOS part!

congrats!

Oh and by the way, he just needs the envelope, passport ofcourse...thats what I had

[dora_david 0]

So, my baby's comin home tomorrow... after 15 months of being apart it just doesn't feel real. It's been so hard on him, saying his goodbyes and not knowing when he'll return to France. To think that this time tomorrow we'll have been together again for a few hours is just... whoa! What does he need to have on the plane with him again? The brown do not open envelope... isn't there something else?

It's funny, the 15 months we were apart flew by so fast... but now the reality of it is kicking in. The memories we have together are from 2005 - and now it's 2007. It seems (and is) so long ago... I don't remember what his hug feels like anymore... I don't even remember what it feels like to stand there and look up into his eyes. And that all finally ends tomorrow... wow... it's just so many combinations of feelings. Excited and relieved... worried about finances... sad for him having to leave his friends and family... on edge because of all the fighting we've done lately (15 months apart will do that to ya)... burned out because of a few bad weeks in work... combine them all together and I actually sort of feel numb. I don't know which one to feel first lol. I think I'm scheduling us for two back massages this weekend.

Eh, I'm just rambling. It just doesn't feel real that our K1 journey is ending, and then the AOS journey will begin. I guess, after 15 months of reading on the K1 forum, I just got used to being a "preparing to file K1" person. So it really, really doesn't feel real that he'll be flying in on his K1 tomorrow!

Did any of that actually make sense?

congats! is cool u ednded this all proces..u should feel happy is all over...is not like that or i understand wrong? did the things changed alot between u 2 in all this time? we will start soon with our proces and i know it would take a while and im nervous about all this time spent appart...do u feel diferite now? did your feelings changed in all this time?

[Otto 83]

Did any of that actually make sense?

Makes perfect sense...means you're going to cry from happiness when you get to feel that warm hug...

Enjoy the happy feelings...

[RosaMystica7 0]

I - as many others here do understand how you feel!

We were never apart THAT long but still long enough to forget things...and it all felt surreal for me when we met up again. It will be great and you'll be smiling so much tomorrow!

At least you are now prepared for the AOS part!

congrats!

Oh and by the way, he just needs the envelope, passport ofcourse...thats what I had

I feel like I'm missing something. Is the xray in the envelope? I thought I read something about him having the envelope, xray, and passport. *scratches chin* Not like I'm thinking very clearly at the moment. At this point I'm just trying to think of how we'll carry around his cello, stereo system, computer, etc. etc. through the airport, AirTrain, and rush hour railroad.

It's so odd, I go from being excited and giddy to crying to numb and back and forth again. I wish we could just smash our two worlds together, France on one side of the street and New York on the other side. So he could just walk across the street and there's his country, his culture, his friends and family, his language... I'd say I wish we had been born in the same country but the two cultures add so much spice to the relationship, and will make life really interesting. So I can't honestly say that. I just wish there were another way...

congats! is cool u ednded this all proces..u should feel happy is all over...is not like that or i understand wrong? did the things changed alot between u 2 in all this time? we will start soon with our proces and i know it would take a while and im nervous about all this time spent appart...do u feel diferite now? did your feelings changed in all this time?

You know, it's strange, in a way I almost wish we had more time before moving him here. More time for him to say goodbye and to spend with his friends and family. But at the same time, of course we don't want that, and we're excited that he's finally moving here. We've been fighting a LOT lately, yes. A LOT. But we still love each other. It's just getting harder and harder to love each other as the months go on. As much as we try to hold onto the memories it's just... I don't know. I kept a shirt of his so I could smell it and remember his smell, and every time I sniffed it I felt him hugging me. But once the smell was lost I couldn't remember the feeling of his hug anymore, and I tried to remember his smell but I couldn't. We choose to love each other, and at times it's been a hard choice, but we always come back to it. And you know, we've considered breaking up a few times... and every time we considered it we hated the idea so much that it brought us closer together.

So yeah, things have changed - we've grown. And I think, in the end, our relationship will benefit from that growth. It's really solidified us, and it's given us a good taste of what it's like to not have each other - so the first time we fight after he moves here we'll think "do we want it to be like that again?" and we'll say no way.

I say... don't worry. See each other as often as you can afford (if possible), talk as often as you can, be honest and communicate, don't hide things from each other, DON'T LIE!, and hold onto that love that you have. You'll make it through. It'll be hard, but people say on this forum all the time that once you're together it all melts away and is just a memory. Honestly, that 15 months didn't feel like 15 months - it's just starting to feel heavy now that it's over, like wow, we really WERE apart for that long!

[bora bora 1]

My man and I were separated for 8 months while we were working on the visa. However, as soon as we were back together again it felt as if not even a day had gone by.

It's soooooo nice to be living together in the U.S. I don't care that my apt isn't as clean as it used to be because he's here!! It's going to be great Angela. Enjoy every second of it - and you both will.

Congratulations!

[flutter95 4]

With the x-ray,he can carry it on hand luggage if he wants, I didnt...the results are in the medical, not many CBPs are going to be able to read it and understand it, thats why I didn't carry it in my hand luggage, its whatever feels better for him really. *shrug*

I used to keep a shirt with the smell on it too and felt the exact same as you, I forgot how it felt and what it all meant but I DID know that I loved him and we fought alot at times when we were apart but when you see eachother, it'll be great!

At least your understanding about his country, don't ever forget that!

[RosaMystica7 0]

Dora_david and bora_bora, how must you wanna bet I'm gonna get you two mixed up?

Congrats on being together again Meredith! I don't even know how to picture tomorrow, you know, just trying to imagine what it's gonna be like. This visa process has made me a planning control freak. Too bad I haven't started cleaning my room yet! And I need to go to bed early, he'll be calling me at 4:30am my time so we can talk a little before he boards his plane. So I really SHOULD be cleaning! But instead I'm sitting here thinking about what tomorrow will be like.

[msu17 0]

I am so excited for you! I definitly know what you mean about fighting! We start doing that once we have been apart for more than 2 months... We rarely fight in person though Stupid long distance just gets to you after a while and then you start taking the frustration out on each other! At least thats what we do As of tomorrow though you'll no longer be in the long distance class!!! WOO HOO! I hope you both all the best with the move and I hope you have a beautiful and amazing wedding! After 15 months you freaking deserve it!

[RosaMystica7 0]

With the x-ray,he can carry it on hand luggage if he wants, I didnt...the results are in the medical, not many CBPs are going to be able to read it and understand it, thats why I didn't carry it in my hand luggage, its whatever feels better for him really. *shrug*

We'll have to see if he can fit the xray somewhere. His bags are really jammed! If it's required we'll make it fit somewhere but if not, umm, well, we'll have to see just what we can do with it.

I used to keep a shirt with the smell on it too and felt the exact same as you, I forgot how it felt and what it all meant but I DID know that I loved him and we fought alot at times when we were apart but when you see eachother, it'll be great!

At least your understanding about his country, don't ever forget that!

We both know that being together again will end - or at least curb - all these fights. Not like we expect to never fight again, but it just won't be this bad... or this ugly. We get really angry and say things to each other that I honestly don't think we'd be able to say to each other's faces. And so many times the solution to a fight would have been a hug, but we don't have that option.

True about being understanding about him leaving his country... I feel bad being the cause for him being torn away from it, honestly. I wish his family would understand that it's his choice, it's not something I forced him into.

I am so excited for you! I definitly know what you mean about fighting! We start doing that once we have been apart for more than 2 months... We rarely fight in person though Stupid long distance just gets to you after a while and then you start taking the frustration out on each other! At least thats what we do As of tomorrow though you'll no longer be in the long distance class!!! WOO HOO! I hope you both all the best with the move and I hope you have a beautiful and amazing wedding! After 15 months you freaking deserve it!

Yeah, in person we had a single fight. After turning our backs to each other for a while he put his hand on my shoulder and left it there... til I gave in and fell into his arms. It's hard to stay angry in person lol. And yeah, taking the distance frustration out on each other is a good way to describe it. Just crumbling under the stress, really. We both need each other, then I get mad that he's not helping me and he gets mad that I'm not helping him, then we feel like "you're not helping me so therefore you don't love me", and off it goes.

The wedding... we can't even think about it right now. At this point we don't remember what it feels like to be together and we're fighting all the time, so how can we think about getting married? But my approved time off from work for our civil marriage (which I had to apply for 4 months in advance and had to pull a LOT of strings to get) is April 4th - 16th! Our lunches have been cut in half for a month, they won't give me that much time off if I try to push the time back, and we really need a vacation right around now anyway. We're just going to leave it be for a while. If, when the time comes, we REALLY don't feel ready I'll bump back my time off from work. But I have a feeling that a week or two of being together and we won't want to bump it back.

And anyway, I HAVE been thinking an awful lot about that dress...

Edited March 22, 2007 by Angilla

[chasnik 0]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!! I know exactly what you mean... Ive had some stress due to work lately and my SO and I have fought alot as well. Some days I think I take it out on him on purpose... like it is his fault he was born in Morocco and not here lol. But you kept it together and now he will be here..dont look at it as he is loosing anything.. look what he is gaining!!!Again, congratulations!!!

[ppfkl 0]

Hi Angilia,

I know exactly what you mean. When I go back to Beijing to visit my fiancee we always have about 5-10 minutes of sur-reality . It always passes quickly and things feel really natural. I expect when my sweetie and I are on the plane back to the US we'll have the same feeling, but atleast we'll be together.

Best of luck and congratulations!!!!!

PPFKL

[flutter95 4]

We still had fights once I got here, but they were different, and your right, the hug makes it a difference, but the fights will ebb. My husband unfortunately isn't the greatest about understanding that I miss England and that I'm adjusting, so for us that can cause some friction, but on a whole, not much.

When your at the airport waiting for him you won't believe its real...and you'll see him and you'll be like this

Don't worry about the x-ray if the bag really is that jammed, mine was too and I just chucked it in my packed bags!

[Dan J 277]

Love... makes everything surreal for the logic part

But it's for REAL! Be happy and cherish every bit of the moment !

[amorcito 0]

So, my baby's comin home tomorrow... after 15 months of being apart it just doesn't feel real. It's been so hard on him, saying his goodbyes and not knowing when he'll return to France. To think that this time tomorrow we'll have been together again for a few hours is just... whoa! What does he need to have on the plane with him again? The brown do not open envelope... isn't there something else?

It's funny, the 15 months we were apart flew by so fast... but now the reality of it is kicking in. The memories we have together are from 2005 - and now it's 2007. It seems (and is) so long ago... I don't remember what his hug feels like anymore... I don't even remember what it feels like to stand there and look up into his eyes. And that all finally ends tomorrow... wow... it's just so many combinations of feelings. Excited and relieved... worried about finances... sad for him having to leave his friends and family... on edge because of all the fighting we've done lately (15 months apart will do that to ya)... burned out because of a few bad weeks in work... combine them all together and I actually sort of feel numb. I don't know which one to feel first lol. I think I'm scheduling us for two back massages this weekend.

Eh, I'm just rambling. It just doesn't feel real that our K1 journey is ending, and then the AOS journey will begin. I guess, after 15 months of reading on the K1 forum, I just got used to being a "preparing to file K1" person. So it really, really doesn't feel real that he'll be flying in on his K1 tomorrow!

Did any of that actually make sense?

Good day to all of you on this thread: My Yana will be coming home tomorrow too (from Ukraine) here in San Diego at around 1159pm. It is five months four days when we said goodbye, and yes I know exactly how it feels.

All of your experiences and predicaments are very accurate and the truth of the matter is, like any long distance relationships, we have special degrees of stress levels, frustrations and the holidays and our birthdays fall under this timeframe of K1 process.

We also have phone fights, let me take it back......disagreements when I open up cans of worms about previous relationships and it better not be at special time of the months. But after things have been said, she will be meek and gentle like a kitten and I will be like a boy in the candy store.

Funny, but Yes, she kept my unwashed shirt and she tucked in my luggage her pair of Victoria's Secrets (Ukrainian version of course). Love and relationships are very strange and varies at times, but our behaviour as loving couples mirror image one another.

My best to all and goodluck to yet another adventure to come.