Pinay wife doesn't want to help pay bills

[teddy k 35]

Hi my wife works and we share the bills and when she goes shopping for clothes or her filipino food she pays for it all.i pay my stepdaughters school and my wife pays all the other bills in the Philippines

[FxL 39]

Seems like you guys are against each other. You are married now... for a year. Remember that now that you two are PARTNERS in this life. Sharing one life. So it shouldn't be "####### for tat". If you both are aware of always meeting in the middle, compromising, and helping each other in your LIFE (not lives) then you guys are set for an amazing LIFE/marraige.

[TBoneTX 45,270]

She just bought her own plane ticket for her trip to the Philippines, one way.

Might this not be best?

[Greenbaum 12,259]

I agree with T-bone. I think she has made a decision.

[Lee&Ana 88]

I agree with her decision. But she is upset that she had to pay for her ticket. Now I just have to get along with her for the next 4 months. I wanted her to go home sooner than that, but she has a steady amount of work now and doesn't want to give it up.

I do think that once she goes home, she is going to want to come back.

Edited July 22, 2016 by Lee&Ana

[Randyandyuni 2,682]

Didnt you discuss expectations BEFORE she came? My fiance and i have, i think it only makes sense to plan ahead, not complain in arrears.

[TBoneTX 45,270]

I agree with her decision [...] I just have to get along with her for the next 4 months [...] I wanted her to go home sooner than that

This is a great way to live one's life. This was not a marriage made in heaven.

Why doesn't one of you move out for that time?

The sense of "I'm free!" is relaxing, invigorating, and incomparable.

[Lee&Ana 88]

Didnt you discuss expectations BEFORE she came? My fiance and i have, i think it only makes sense to plan ahead, not complain in arrears.

We discussed everything. I told her exactly what to expect and if she could deal with it. She told me what I wanted to hear. Once she got here, her attitude was different and felt that she had to "change" me.

[SennaBrigante 92]

If my husband charged me for driving lessons, that conversation will end quick too. Maybe I should charge him for the cooking and cleaning I do around the house. But thank god we're not that petty.

My guess is that she was keeping her money close to her chest because once she goes back home, there's no coming back. She might use that money to start a small business or open a sari-sari store or whatever. She did buy just a one-way ticket, right?

[Umka36 781]

Women are always trying to change men, that's nothing new. If both of you aren't happy in your relationship and it's beyond repair, then divorce and move on.

[Randyandyuni 2,682]

I think maybe your dream was a lie sorry to say

[Randyandyuni 2,682]

If you love her come to an understanding, if not cut bait and salvage what you can

If you love her come to an understanding, if not cut bait and salvage what you can

[rlogan 2,036]

Well hey, this is the internet age where you can meet someome online, have a fake "dating" and "fiance" period, then get married, and after that actually learn about each other.

It isn't a bad idea to have these threads around because the majority of relationships begin by meeting online and people ignore a lot of the red flags you would see far better if you lived right there to observe their daily behavior, their family and friends, school mates, etc.

Some of the other threads another person posted links to - geez. When you get together it ought to be about the happiest time of your life. Mine works her fanny off for our family and I am very, very grateful for her. She dropped whatever bad habits she had as an immature Filipina teen before we got engaged to marry. Sometimes these teenagers can be a handful for a 50 year old but if they don't behave, just get another one because there are millions to pick from and they make the best wives on the planet.

Edited July 23, 2016 by rlogan

[FxL 39]

Well hey, this is the internet age where you can meet someome online, have a fake "dating" and "fiance" period, then get married, and after that actually learn about each other.

It isn't a bad idea to have these threads around because the majority of relationships begin by meeting online and people ignore a lot of the red flags you would see far better if you lived right there to observe their daily behavior, their family and friends, school mates, etc.

Some of the other threads another person posted links to - geez. When you get together it ought to be about the happiest time of your life. Mine works her fanny off for our family and I am very, very grateful for her. She dropped whatever bad habits she had as an immature Filipina teen before we got engaged to marry. Sometimes these teenagers can be a handful for a 50 year old but if they don't behave, just get another one because there are millions to pick from and they make the best wives on the planet.

This was going good until the end

[Lee&Ana 88]

If my husband charged me for driving lessons, that conversation will end quick too. Maybe I should charge him for the cooking and cleaning I do around the house. But thank god we're not that petty.

I didn't charge her for driving lessons. We didn't get to that point. What I was referring to is that cars aren't free. Even if a car is paid off, there is gas, registration, insurance and other operating costs. If I added my wife to my insurance policy, the premium will double. There is nothing free in America or anywhere. If someone is in a partnership with another person, the expenses are shared. No necessarily 50/50, but there has to be some contribution.

As far as the cooking/cleaning, did you help pay the immigration expenses? If not, your husband was already charged for them(lol).

Might I politely inquire as to you and your husband's age?