K1 visa decided not to marry anymore and go back to the Philippines

[Mary Lou 681]

So the few female beneficiaries all have the same answer: they love their fiancé/spouse, which is the correct answer. Being with the one they chose to be with and love should override homesickness. You cannot have your cake and eat it too. This whining about being homesick is nauseating. It sounds like children that want ice cream before dinner and their parents won't allow it. They all need to grow up because all of us who entered this visa journey,which is unique, are involved in an adult situation that only adults can make it work. This includes my wife. I have been dealing with this homesick bs for 14 months now

It isnt as black and white as you want it to be. A co worker of mine has lived here in the US for 6 years now, she is from Russia. Guess what?!?!?!!? She still gets homesick.

So why did you choose a mate from the Phils? Just curious.

[TBoneTX 45,288]

The poster to whom you pose the question has another thread in another forum. It's best that we stick solely to the OP's situation. Maybe you can ask the above poster via PM.

[Eric-Pris 1,606]

I would give it more time, most people feel some homesickness and regret/change of mind at some point in the beginning. My wife had a major case of it, almost went back. But it passes.

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On a side note, I'm always amazed at the fact that USC bring foreign fiancees/spouses to the US and then "realize" that they can't afford to support them.

He can't afford a plane ticket? What a measly $1500? How does he plan to support you? I bet he's just stalling so you change your mind. I mean it's $1500.

Did he sponsor you or did he need a co-sponsor? I don't think co-sponsoring should be allowed at all, why should somebody in your extended family or friend be responsible for supporting your spouse if you can't, or worse, your ex-spouse. And the 125% of US poverty level should be raised to at least 200%. Nobody can survive on 25k per year.

[Lee&Ana 88]

I would give it more time, most people feel some homesickness and regret/change of mind at some point in the beginning. My wife had a major case of it, almost went back. But it passes.

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On a side note, I'm always amazed at the fact that USC bring foreign fiancees/spouses to the US and then "realize" that they can't afford to support them.

He can't afford a plane ticket? What a measly $1500? How does he plan to support you? I bet he's just stalling so you change your mind. I mean it's $1500.

Did he sponsor you or did he need a co-sponsor? I don't think co-sponsoring should be allowed at all, why should somebody in your extended family or friend be responsible for supporting your spouse if you can't, or worse, your ex-spouse. And the 125% of US poverty level should be raised to at least 200%. Nobody can survive on 25k per year.

A plane ticket is less than that. It isn't that he cannot afford the ticket, it is he just spent all this time and money and has nothing to show for it. He is tired of flushing his money down the toilet. My wife just booked a one way flight to the Philippines for $500 and she is leaving in November Edited July 27, 2016 by Lee&Ana

[subwayguy 100]

one way ticket to the Ph should cost no more than 1K. if he honestly didn't have that money, then I'd leave right away.

Life will be tough.

[subwayguy 100]

And the term "override homesickness" ..as if we are all robots that can switch things off and on .. The world is not black or white, it's not an all or nothing situation... I won't have less love for my spouse cause I'll be homesick... that's absurd!

Well, Speaking for myself. I don't feel that homesick at all.

If homesickness I should be feeling , it is being washed away by time and the wave of changes in my home country.

Born in British Hong Kong,we were taught UK was the motherland, then Thatcher made this terrible deal with China, 7 million of us became Chinese citizens over night,as a city , we witnessed the handover, then we became scared of the Chinese bullying followed by a decade-long identity crisis. We have the Hong Kong version of Chinese passports, yet we don't feel fully Chinese, we have the spayed version of UK passports, yet we are a second class national there.

My home, call it a city, call it a country , call it the SAR, the one I loved, after 12 years of absence , I could barely recongnise her.

I feel more comfortable eating subway than dim sum, my saving account is with CITI, not with HSBC, I fly United, not Cathay Pacific, I speak English more than I do in Cantonese, I watch CNN, not TVB, I have Netflix, not OPENRICE.

Futile the sickness, let it dock at the port.

[lifegoeson123 3]

he is saying he cant afford your ticket because he still loves you and wants you to rethink. Culture shock is tough but you should feel lucky because you have someone who supports you emotionally and will help you to think of US as the 2nd country! Try to learn and adjust, you can do it ! Dont lose hope !

[mossycade 4]

you should have ended your old relationship instead of fooling your fiance. imagine how much he went through and you never really planned to follow through with any or it. you can spin this long sad story, but you know what you have done.

you should leave our country and never be allowed back. did you also know that he will not be allowed to petition for another visa of any kind for 2 years? that is the additional cost of your game.

the money does matter because he is the one that worked and sacrificed. i am begging you to please please please leave my country and never come back, not even to visit.

[Unidentified 2,930]

you should have ended your old relationship instead of fooling your fiance. imagine how much he went through and you never really planned to follow through with any or it. you can spin this long sad story, but you know what you have done.

you should leave our country and never be allowed back. did you also know that he will not be allowed to petition for another visa of any kind for 2 years? that is the additional cost of your game.

the money does matter because he is the one that worked and sacrificed. i am begging you to please please please leave my country and never come back, not even to visit.

Oh it is your country huh? Are you Native American?

She says she doesn't have another relationship. I think you didn't read the first post.