Advance, Advance Parole?

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I'm hoping someone might be able to guide me on what route I take next.

Over a Year ago I proposed to my U.S. Fiancee and shortly afterwards started my K1 Visa journey expecting that later this year, once approved I would travel to the US, get married and remain there while my Adjustment of Status (I-485), Employment Authorization (I-765) and Avance Parole (I-131) was granted so I could take care of things like selling my house etc.

Not long after starting the process my father died of cancer and I took repsonsibility for settleing his affairs. I also spent a lot more time with my mother while she grieved and helping her out more around the house. However I started to notice changes in her behaviour that seemed a little ecentric, at first I just put down to grief, it was things like buying more than enough food for one person, plus I live the other end of the country so only saw her once a month.

The week after I had my K1 Interview and it approved my mother went to the doctors for an appointment I had arranged as I thought that the final 5 years of my fathers life when he had suffered with his cancer, had put my mother under a lot of stress and that this was the cause of her eccentric behaviour.

The doctor believes that she may have dementia but requires more tests.

My problem is that I would like to still continue with the plans and arrangements I have already made but return shortly afterwards to put the support in place for my mother and take care of any issues that might come up and attend the appointments with doctors and social workers over the coming months before returning to the US.

Plan A: (Was!) Enter the US on a K1, Marry and submit my I-485, I-765 and I-131 then after several weeks later, when my AP is approved, return to finalise

(This would mean I couldn't attend the appointments and would delay her getting the right care).

Plan B: Enter the US on a K1, Marry and submit my I-485, I-765 and I-131, then once I have a Reference number and get an emergency AP.

(Entering on a K1 knowing that I will want to apply for an emergency AP feels a bit dishonest, I mean, then everyone would then do it just to get teh benefits of a K3 but faster).

Plan C: Enter the US on a K1, Marry then return to the UK, We submit an I-130, then DS-230, I-864, I-765 and an I-131.

(It means everything takes longer and is more expensive but gives me the time and flexibility to make sure my mother has the right support in place.)

I know this must seem a little heartless, leaving the country and moving thousands of miles away from my mother at this time, but she functions good on 90% of her daily life, with the right support and medication her quality of life should be good, but for the next 6 months, I need to meet with her doctor, social worker and probaly when needed a solicitor.

Have I missed something, is there a better way or should I play it safe and go with Plan C?

[Ontarkie 14,227]

How about plan D- Delay the the K1 some and use the full amount of time you have to use the Visa before entering? That may give you enough time to get your mother set up with care.

If not Emergency AP may work.

Edited June 26, 2016 by Ontarkie

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Plan D seems like a strong possibility. It could be right down to the wire and as long as there's nothing that can't bear my absence for 3 months it should be ok

[kris&me 572]

you will have within 6 months from the medical exam to travel

maybe this gives you enough time to settle things for your mom

my husband had to sell car and apartment so he took the extra time and came 5 months after his medical exam (about 4 months from the interview)

sorry about your mom / it is hard i know

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My passport and K1 arrives on Monday.

I'd estimate I have till Xmas.

I may have to gear everything towards December and return to sort anything else once AP is granted

[Penguin_ie 5,993]

D does seem the best plan.

B is not dishonest, but even with emergency AP (bring a letter from the doctor), it could take several weeks and you may need to return to the USA for an AOS interview and such.

[Boiler 45,525]

You make it sound like you are the only family that can help and will eventually be a long way away. These issues tend to get worse, is there a long term plan?

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Long term plan Is that once the social workers and carers get involved they will see her on a weekly basis.

I see her once a month but this will most likely be every 3 Months for a week and my brother who lives in France will come back once a month for a few days.

My Mother is a bit stubborn and so far the first meeting on Friday didn't go to well as my mother instead of giving any consent to get help, simply said, "I will see what my son says".

It's better that everything happens consentually, the only other option would be a protection order but that's unlikely to succeed as she's able to cope with some assistance.

It could be that this is how she will be for many years to come before there is any decline.

Once we have everything off the ground, she will have a community link officer, who is a named person I can call and ask how she is doing and make any arrangements through, she will have a carer once a week who visits her and I will have Lasting Power of Attorney so will be able to act on her behalf, when the need arises.

I just don't want to be in a situation where I'm miles away and for 3 months the social worker can't do anything because she wont give consent unless I'm there.

I should probably just go with plan D and try and make sure that there is support in place for 3 months.

Chances are everything will be fine, I just don't like feeling shackled till my AP is approved.