why should I make my parents US residents?

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Haha you're biased about mami, and i'm like hell no my mother is not coming over here without fully convincing me that she actually wants to live here.

I havent cut the cord....a have never lived farther than 3miles of her....im glad this issue OP has is not something im in....people leave alot behind to come here.... must be tough mom took care of me i need to be close to pay it forward

And the womans flan is to die for..

HAHA. This seems to be a big difference between Americans and other cultures. Most adult Americans can't bear staying under the same roof of their parents for more than a week. Also, a lot of Americans sort of take a "bird's nest" approach to raising kids. Once they are old enough to care for themselves, parents are looking for them to leave for college/job and their own place/ military/ etc.

My wife and I discuss this a lot. Most of her family all live within a 3 mile radius in the D.R. Whereas, my family is spread out across the US.

My wife once asked me how often I visit my mother. When I told her once or twice a year, she gave me a look like I was the anti-Christ.

Edited June 23, 2016 by NuestraUnion

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

HAHA. This seems to be a big difference between Americans and other cultures. Most adult Americans can't bear staying under the same roof of their parents for more than a week. Also, a lot of Americans sort of take a "bird's nest" approach to raising kids. Once they are old enough to care for themselves, parents are looking for them to leave for college/job and their own place/ military/ etc.

My wife and I discuss this a lot. Most of her family all live within a 3 mile radius in the D.R. Whereas, my family is spread out across the US.

My wife once asked me how often I visit my mother. When I told her once or twice a year, she gave me a look like I was the anti-Christ.

Dominicans at least most dont play when it comes to our elders...

If i saw my mom once a year i might die she lives a brisk 5 min walk and i call her all day long....i actually to this day will not make important decisions with out her approval.

Moms the best shes 56 i hope inhave her for MANY years to come god willing.

And the food well lick your fingers good....

She was talking about retirement to Florida me and my brothers shut that down QUICKLY....

Edited June 23, 2016 by Anitafeliz

[NikLR 13,232]

If i even called my mother once a day she would ask me what the heck was wrong with me. I love her to death but shes 65 with her own very busy business. We love to visit and wish it was more often, but i never understand the attached at the hip thing to your parents. The point of raising a child is to be a functioning independent member of society, not to depend on you forever.

Jmho. I havent lived with my mother for longer than 2 months since I was 18.

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

If i even called my mother once a day she would ask me what the heck was wrong with me. I love her to death but shes 65 with her own very busy business. We love to visit and wish it was more often, but i never understand the attached at the hip thing to your parents. The point of raising a child is to be a functioning independent member of society, not to depend on you forever.

Jmho. I havent lived with my mother for longer than 2 months since I was 18.

Forget hip my ambilical cords still attached lol

I moved out of her home at the young age of 18 i am independent but our culture the parents are never far.

My brothers a police officer and the other a retiered disabled vet she raised three strong children on her own. My mom entered the USA in 1978 and had us on her own....our father was not much support she gave us everything as a non english speaking immigrant from Dominican Republic.

She came her leaving behind a very comfortable life so that her children can have a better future. Many people come here and leave a comfortable life too.

But hey everyone can love their parents their way it doesnt make you lesser of a good son or daugther.

But in my family full on stage 5 clingers we love our mom we have the code to the alarm and keys....she goes to DR leaves us in charge of her finances type of relationship its how we are. All dominicans can attest to what im saying lol.

Edited June 23, 2016 by Anitafeliz

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HAHA. This seems to be a big difference between Americans and other cultures. Most adult Americans can't bear staying under the same roof of their parents for more than a week. Also, a lot of Americans sort of take a "bird's nest" approach to raising kids. Once they are old enough to care for themselves, parents are looking for them to leave for college/job and their own place/ military/ etc.

My wife and I discuss this a lot. Most of her family all live within a 3 mile radius in the D.R. Whereas, my family is spread out across the US.

My wife once asked me how often I visit my mother. When I told her once or twice a year, she gave me a look like I was the anti-Christ.

lol I'm not a birthright USC, but I totally get what you mean and my views are very similar to most Americans. I do not get along with my mother very much at all now that I'm older, and the further away from her I am, the better. If she moved closer to me, I would have to set down some serious boundaries.

If i even called my mother once a day she would ask me what the heck was wrong with me. I love her to death but shes 65 with her own very busy business. We love to visit and wish it was more often, but i never understand the attached at the hip thing to your parents. The point of raising a child is to be a functioning independent member of society, not to depend on you forever.

Jmho. I havent lived with my mother for longer than 2 months since I was 18.

LOL yes I am at that point with my parents too. No news from me is good news. If I call, something is up. My mother still tries to be the overbearing parent because being a parent is her entire life, while I'm just trying to get away from that and be my own person, which she hates.

I haven't lived with my parents since I left for college at 18, and they are VERY difficult to live with now.

Edited June 23, 2016 by akihon

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

lol I'm not a birthright USC, but I totally get what you mean and my views are very similar to most Americans. I do not get along with my mother very much at all now that I'm older, and the further away from her I am, the better. If she moved closer to me, I would have to set down some serious boundaries.

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So i guess raymonds mom from everyone love raymond would not due for yall lol

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So i guess raymonds mom from everyone love raymond would not due for yall lol

If my mother lived across the street, I'm pretty sure my marriage will fall apart eventually if I never get the balls to set boundaries and tell her off. It's difficult for me to tell her off because she wouldn't listen (parents in my culture always believe that their children are subordinates and should never talk back) and it's ingrained in me that it's rude to do so.

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

If my mother lived across the street, I'm pretty sure my marriage will fall apart eventually if I never get the balls to set boundaries and tell her off. It's difficult for me to tell her off because she wouldn't listen (parents in my culture always believe that their children are subordinates and should never talk back) and it's ingrained in me that it's rude to do so.

I talked back once that went well ????

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So i guess raymonds mom from everyone love raymond would not due for yall lol

We live no where near either of our families on purpose. His creates drama and mine just do their own thing. At least if im a plane ride away she cant drop random ####### off on me like she does my sister. Lol

Im 35 years old... i love my mother but dont need her in my life everyday. My ex and i lived close to his parents and he worked with them too. I stopped the coming over without being announced one day flat because a comment was made about needing to vacuum. Dont like my house? Dont come here.

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We live no where near either of our families on purpose. His creates drama and mine just do their own thing. At least if im a plane ride away she cant drop random ####### off on me like she does my sister. Lol

Im 35 years old... i love my mother but dont need her in my life everyday. My ex and i lived close to his parents and he worked with them too. I stopped the coming over without being announced one day flat because a comment was made about needing to vacuum. Dont like my house? Dont come here.

I like our families, but I also like the distance. It is much better for the health of our marriage to not have meddling families.

Only downside that is that them not being close doesn't provide that instant support network of people to help you in a pinch. Friends can replace that in time, but it can be inconvenient.

[akihon 129]

We live no where near either of our families on purpose. His creates drama and mine just do their own thing. At least if im a plane ride away she cant drop random ####### off on me like she does my sister. Lol

Im 35 years old... i love my mother but dont need her in my life everyday. My ex and i lived close to his parents and he worked with them too. I stopped the coming over without being announced one day flat because a comment was made about needing to vacuum. Dont like my house? Dont come here.

I need to do this the next time my mother comes over and makes a comment about my apartment. She insists it's currently too big. Oh? Well if you don't like its size, don't stay here.

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I'd say the UK's similar to the US in this respect.

I live 400 miles away from my parents, I'm in Scotland, they're in Buckinghamshire.

If I were to call her more often than once a week she'd be suspicious and ask me what sort of trouble I'm in!

And I would say my relationship with my brothers is better when we don't live close.