Do I have it Made or not?

[JR loves JR 196]

Do yourself a favor, go to your first thread and pretend that you didn't post it so you can honestly address it without the emotion you're going through. Read everything that the "OP" posted about "his" relationship and then give "him" some advice. Write that advice down and then take your own advice. It's time to put into action the plan you made way back in December. Because things haven't really changed in the last 6 months, and they definitely won't change for the better in the next 6 months.

[vermont77 12]

I think I liked it better when I was visiting my wife in the DR. Sending a chica money and visiting her country is a lot easier than having her come and live with you. I really enjoyed the exoticism of leaving my mountain home to come to a tropical country. Now, there is no exoticism. It is the daily boring grind of life.

[soulstriker 274]

Wow ive defiantly had some exes that were like that sort of , the materialistic , im a diva not a life partner type , smh those types just drain your life energy all together swiftly. Get out while you can in my opinion ,someone decides to marry someone and not expect to be a life partner? lol i blame parenting on this ####### ,ive seen happen to many ppl and it ends up bad always. I totally disagree with the mindset of role setting ,your living in the same temple with your wife/husband yall should put all full attention on all roles to further yourselves as a team , theres no I in team and theres a reason for that .

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

I think I liked it better when I was visiting my wife in the DR. Sending a chica money and visiting her country is a lot easier than having her come and live with you. I really enjoyed the exoticism of leaving my mountain home to come to a tropical country. Now, there is no exoticism. It is the daily boring grind of life.

Thats called a CHAPIADORA you had and have. She got you for her money to go party with other men get her hair done and nails please read what you write let jesus grab the wheel....

O Lord

Edited June 6, 2016 by Anitafeliz

[MrsBurgz 104]

Grab popcorn....?

[vermont77 12]

Popcorn is $10.99 for a large, movie theater prices.

[Merrytooth 5,748]

OP's story is trilogy movie.

Now is only part 2 (after his Dec 2015 thread).

[MrsBurgz 104]

I went to go search for past post just so I could catch up to this new series....!

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

Grab popcorn....?

[Anitafeliz 1,133]

OP's story is trilogy movie.

Now is only part 2 (after his Dec 2015 thread).

Twilight got nothing on this

[SB&RH 19]

I think I liked it better when I was visiting my wife in the DR. Sending a chica money and visiting her country is a lot easier than having her come and live with you. I really enjoyed the exoticism of leaving my mountain home to come to a tropical country. Now, there is no exoticism. It is the daily boring grind of life.

I believe the answers you seek can only be obtained by you seeing a psychiatrist & or a psychologist. Please consult your health plan for Doctors in your vacinity and network. Good luck!

[Scandi 4,166]

Still a better love story than Twilight.

[dawning 212]

I find it puzzling how many of the people here are determined that the OP's wife will never change, and can only possibly be stringing him along for a green card. Obviously, according to the OP she has changed a lot since December... in the other thread he said she was the laziest person in the world, in this one he says she's a hard worker, and her boss's star employee. (And hotel housekeeping is hard work). And she could remove conditions on her own in any case if they divorce.

Also, I find it puzzling that it's seen as so selfish and entitled to want to save money to a car for herself. If she is doing all the cleaning cooking and work around the house, and paying $400 a month for food, it doesn't seem so unreasonable to want to keep the rest of the income. After all, hiring someone to do all that housework would cost a considerable amount. Also, if she has a car (and a driver's license) it would save the OP almost an hour and half a day compared to having to drive her. (Unless he doesn't want her to have the freedom of her own transportation?) It seems like it would be a benefit for the household as a whole.

I am sometimes overly optimistic about human capacity, but it seems to me entirely possible that both the OP and his wife have entered into the relationship more or less in good faith, and are two strong-willed individuals with relatively transactional approaches to relationships, and (possibly unconscious) strong expectations of gender roles, relationship norms, et cetera. While it could be read as abusive or exploitative by either side, only the individuals involved really know their own intentions, and how worthwhile living with the other is. It's seems like there as an opportunity for continued learning and adjustment on both sides if each sees it as worthwhile. Ultimately, that's a question that only they can answer for themselves.

People have touched on cultural differences regarding expectation of division of labor, men being providers, et cetera. I think it might be useful to also acknowledge that different cultures and different individuals have very different levels of tolerance for drama in interpersonal relationships.

I do agree that's it better to put off buying/moving to a larger house and having a baby until there is more shared understanding about financial goals, if that ever happens.

[SB&RH 19]

Thats called a CHAPIADORA you had and have. She got you for her money to go party with other men get her hair done and nails please read what you write let jesus grab the wheel....

O Lord

There's only so much you can advice person. My grandmother used to say" you can force a jackass to the river, but you can't force it to drink" #realtalk!

[vermont77 12]

Part 3 coming soon - may take a couple weeks to type my story line. Stay tuned folks.