please i need your urgent help and advise

[archosci3 0]

Im currently in the process of filling my adjustment of status and during the process of co mingling bank account together as part of requirement of bonafied marriage, a funds was sent to my bank account and my spouse took the money without my conscient and denied knowing anything about the money .. i guess with the influence of her sister,

Presently i should be geting my EAD in a week or two more and going for my interview soon ,

Already i felt bad and i dont know if i should wait till when i get my green card approved later and divorce her or confront her for now or seek a marriage counsellors advise regarding this case

as a matter of fact the amount we are talking about is 8000 usd...

the amount alone is quite much for an immigrant who is not working... now she put me on a debt of 8000usd .. and for prove, i have a document from my bank account which showed that she made the withdrawal of the said sum in my our joint account

my other question is that , if i divorce her after getting my green card based on this ground , will it be considered an immigration fraud because she already made me feel bad for her stealing from me in the first place and by her not telling me and denying the fact that she took the money from my account

FYI ... she said the IRS levy my bank account as a result of the amount she owed the IRs.. But i checked and confirmed and the found out that the IRS never took the money ,, even the bank said she was the one who took the money .

[Meg&Andrew 297]

Im currently in the process of filling my adjustment of status and during the process of co mingling bank account together as part of requirement of bonafied marriage, a funds was sent to my bank account and my spouse took the money without my conscient and denied knowing anything about the money .. i guess with the influence of her sister,

Presently i should be geting my EAD in a week or two more and going for my interview soon ,

Already i felt bad and i dont know if i should wait till when i get my green card approved later and divorce her or confront her for now or seek a marriage counsellors advise regarding this case

as a matter of fact the amount we are talking about is 8000 usd...

the amount alone is quite much for an immigrant who is not working... now she put me on a debt of 8000usd .. and for prove, i have a document from my bank account which showed that she made the withdrawal of the said sum in my our joint account

my other question is that , if i divorce her after getting my green card based on this ground , will it be considered an immigration fraud because she already made me feel bad for her stealing from me in the first place and by her not telling me and denying the fact that she took the money from my account

FYI ... she said the IRS levy my bank account as a result of the amount she owed the IRs.. But i checked and confirmed and the found out that the IRS never took the money ,, even the bank said she was the one who took the money .

You need to address this issue NOW with her. You can't go to the interview and lie, and act as if all is fine. Period.

[Caryh 5,206]

Wow, sorry no advice on what you should do, just sympathy for you over a situation that is seriously messed up.

[Cheezees 1,514]

So she claimed not to know anything about the missing money (reason #1) AND she also claimed that IRS took it (reason #2) when in fact she withdrew the money (reason #3)?

Wow. I don't think you have much of a marriage to begin with. Your spouse stole from you and lied about it. How can she expect you to go on living like normal with this huge lie staring you in your faces every day? Is this the person you're confident with taking to your interview? Will she show up? Will she vouch that your relationship is genuine? Can you?

I really don't know what you should do right now. Getting divorced soon after getting your GC is a huge red flag and you will have to prove that your marriage was bonefide. This would be a dealbreaker for me. I would divorce her now and move back to my country (assuming you came here based solely on marriage). What else can you do?

[Tomideosho 1]

let go of her

Edited May 31, 2016 by Tomideosho

[Cheezees 1,514]

OK, what is going on here?

Are you archosci3 from Ghana?

Or are you Tomideosho from Nigeria?

Or are you a troll from who knows where?

[Cheezees 1,514]

Tomideosho, on 31 May 2016 - 10:12 AM, said:

Im really screwed in this situation and to enlighten more,we sleep and wake up together on the same bed .. and i dont even leave the house without her knowledge and i showed and prove my trust to her in everyway for her to know i have good intention and the marriage was in a good faith .

but from what i was told, her parent are giving us a huge pressure and making me feel i got married to her cuz of my GC.

Now she just ruined a marriage that was entered in a good faith with just a token of 8kusd which we would have made if we live and build our future together.

I even plead with her to help me borrow so i can even pay part of the debt and she keeps giving me excuses .

i willl learn to deal with it and see what she got to offer because i believe in second chance, but my fear is her doing something even worse

OK, what is going on here?

Are you archosci3 from Ghana?

Or are you Tomideosho from Nigeria?

Or are you a troll from who knows where?

[Cheezees 1,514]

It seems the OP has multiple accounts and forgot which one they first posted from and wrote a "follow up" from a 2nd account, which I caught but they quickly edited. Can a moderator look into this please?

TBoneTX?

Happy Chic?

Holla at me!

[Merrytooth 5,748]

I wonder what is the purpose of 8000 usd transferred from overseas?

To pay off debt in US? What visa status is OP adjusting from?

[Cheezees 1,514]

I wonder what is the purpose of 8000 usd transferred from overseas?

To pay off debt in US? What visa status is OP adjusting from?

Which OP?

[archosci3 0]

i never knew the situation would turn out like this , i entered the marriage with good faith of building a life and future together, but here i am been spit by her.

Her family been puttin pressure to leave me alone as well so she can get away with the money issue thinking i could not press charges against her

but i think i will have to learn to handle it and deal with it and probably give her a second chance and see if i can be getting the money off from her little by little for the time being so as to be able to pay my debt because if i leave her now , i have no other way to get money and cuz i cannot work based on ma B1/B2 visa

[EM_Vandaveer 2,408]

Technically I doubt you can press charges if it's a joint account. Technically you both can take the money. (I understand it was yours and she took it.)

[Michael and Ganna 104]

WOW.....

[Merrytooth 5,748]

i never knew the situation would turn out like this , i entered the marriage with good faith of building a life and future together, but here i am been spit by her.

Her family been puttin pressure to leave me alone as well so she can get away with the money issue thinking i could not press charges against her

but i think i will have to learn to handle it and deal with it and probably give her a second chance and see if i can be getting the money off from her little by little for the time being so as to be able to pay my debt because if i leave her now , i have no other way to get money and cuz i cannot work based on ma B1/B2 visa

What kind of debt you have in US since you are supposed to prove that you are able to fund your US trip on Tourist visa?

And where did you get the 8000 usd from?

[archosci3 0]

the debt of 8000 uSd is what im talking about because the money wasnt meant for me , i was meant to make withdrawal of the funds and use it to buy a car for someone in my state, the money was sent from another state to my account because i want buy a car for the person who own the money .

where the money coming from is not the issue, but as for the next thing to do is what im thinking now ..

The money is not mine..