Recent relationship and would want to marry

[JFH 12,190]

Thank you all for the answers!

My thoughts are now of a person that is in love with this girl.... when I first knew her, we did not discuss about visa lottery and this possible situation. And now this happened and... it's very difficult to decide, especially that the embassy could not believe us ! We may have the courage to go ahead and fight for a new life there, but we could get banned ! That's not fair. She has to be there alone! However, I will not insist...

If you love each other that much then she can stay in your country and give up the visa opportunity. If you're planning on marrying she should love you more than a visa anyway.

Seriously, I would not wish this separation on the worst of my enemies. If you have the option to be together in your home country, do it.

Please don't think the rest of us here don't know what it's like to be deeply in love with someone and living in different countries. We wrote the book. I've been doing this for 4 years but many have been doing it a lot longer than that. It can destroy even the strongest.

Edited May 23, 2016 by JFH

[Caykay1 71]

Thank you for your answer!

We were thinking the same, that it might look suspicious. We are rushing the marriage because otherwise it's quite impossible to be together and create a family.

And it's very strange because she could win as single, and maybe she could find an interesting guy in July 2016, or in September... by your explanation, means she can't have any serious relationship leading to marriage with a local guy till interview... and even after interview she will leave and still will be unable to have a local guy marrying her because of long waiting time for F2A ! They will need to stay separated.

And I say this because we thought also of marrying after her interview... but it's too much to wait... about one year till the interview and another 2-3 years till you get GC as spouse of a GC holder (

As proofs I mentioned moving together, pictures from different events and vacations (we are freelancers so no work schedule), joint bank account, Facebook pictures of us together, maybe online conversations printed...

What should we do?

Thank You!

Go ahead and do what you want. Good luck tho and stay prepared. I know people who just falsely marry people they never knew before sake of DV lotto success and pay them. At least she's your boyfriend and this is just coincidence. I wish you best of luck.

Thank you for your answer!

We were thinking the same, that it might look suspicious. We are rushing the marriage because otherwise it's quite impossible to be together and create a family.

And it's very strange because she could win as single, and maybe she could find an interesting guy in July 2016, or in September... by your explanation, means she can't have any serious relationship leading to marriage with a local guy till interview... and even after interview she will leave and still will be unable to have a local guy marrying her because of long waiting time for F2A ! They will need to stay separated.

And I say this because we thought also of marrying after her interview... but it's too much to wait... about one year till the interview and another 2-3 years till you get GC as spouse of a GC holder (

As proofs I mentioned moving together, pictures from different events and vacations (we are freelancers so no work schedule), joint bank account, Facebook pictures of us together, maybe online conversations printed...

What should we do?

Thank You!

Go ahead and do what you want. Good luck tho and stay prepared. I know people who just falsely marry people they never knew before sake of DV lotto success and pay them. At least she's your boyfriend and this is just coincidence. I wish you best of luck.

Thank you for your answer!

We were thinking the same, that it might look suspicious. We are rushing the marriage because otherwise it's quite impossible to be together and create a family.

And it's very strange because she could win as single, and maybe she could find an interesting guy in July 2016, or in September... by your explanation, means she can't have any serious relationship leading to marriage with a local guy till interview... and even after interview she will leave and still will be unable to have a local guy marrying her because of long waiting time for F2A ! They will need to stay separated.

And I say this because we thought also of marrying after her interview... but it's too much to wait... about one year till the interview and another 2-3 years till you get GC as spouse of a GC holder (

As proofs I mentioned moving together, pictures from different events and vacations (we are freelancers so no work schedule), joint bank account, Facebook pictures of us together, maybe online conversations printed...

What should we do?

Thank You!

Go ahead and do what you want. Good luck tho and stay prepared. I know people who just falsely marry people they never knew before sake of DV lotto success and gets paid. At least she's your girlfriend and this is just coincidence. I wish you best of luck. Edited May 23, 2016 by Caykay1

[NikLR 13,227]

As my cousin once said, what is a year or two in a lifetime.

[tiss25 1]

Go ahead and do what you want. Good luck tho and stay prepared. I know people who just falsely marry people they never knew before sake of DV lotto success and gets paid. At least she's your girlfriend and this is just coincidence. I wish you best of luck.

So, They do it for money and what's the result? Maybe they win in this case, not knowing the other one... And I should better not try this (considering most of the posts here). At least interesting I could say...

Edited May 24, 2016 by tiss25

[Asia 2,498]

I'd say - don't worry Get married and go to the US together.

From what I've read in the Polish forum, no couples with the sutiation identical as yours (married right after the lottery results/before the interview) had any issues in getting the visas at the embassy.

If your relationship is genuine and getting marriend is just a matter of time, I'd say there's nothing to worry about.

She may call the embassy and get a closer info too

[Unidentified 2,930]

Well you guys are adults so you do what you want. Just keep two things in mind: a) they might think you're committing marriage fraud or b) you will be among the many people who has barely met, get married and realizes that it was a huge mistake and contribute to the high divorce ratings in the US. Don't want to be mean but so many people seem to take marriage so lightly these days, especially when there's a ticket to the US involved.

You can also decide to wait and get married when you know each other more than just a few months. Like my very wise step mother-in-law once said to me and my now husband: "It takes years to fully know someone". And it is so true. You may think you know her after a few months but you don't. And living together is a whole other ball game.

So, They do it for money and what's the result? Maybe they win in this case, not knowing the other one... And I should better not try this (considering most of the posts here). At least interesting I could say...

I hope not because that's marriage fraud.

[Adil & Jeanne 296]

I am one who believes totally in love at first site as my late husband of 20 years proposed 2 days after we met but i had found out after our meeting that i knew his family and they were respectable / adding to that we were both USC and from the same culture

this marriage now to my moroccan husband was a lot different / we took over nine month stalking before we met in person / and married more than a year later / immigration took us over 6 years total and we were willing to go the distance as our relaitonship was sincere

whatever you decide, take the time to get to know her / do you want the same future in your life

kids?

education?

travel

housing

city or country life?

religion is a biggy

dreams?

even what plans you see for retirement

and we all wish you the best of luck as everyone here belives in true love

[Gabi e Celo 2]

Secondly... what about having a newborn child? Will she raise him alone there? Will I stay alone with him at home ? Really??? Oh... wait for the child at least 3 years from now, or maybe 4.... it doesn't sound to me too constructive or feasible

Well, as someone that's raising a child "alone" while we are waiting, it's been almost 2 years since she was born and dad just got to come 3 times to see us... I'd say it's hard, OMG it's VERY VERY hard, but look, we're all alive! And our love, too...

I'm not saying you should do the same, cause only the wearer knows where the shoe pinches, I'm just saying it's hard as hell, it hurts a lot to be without the love of your life, but it's possible and you'll survive. Your love will survive and get stronger with every and any difficult that may arise.

Wish you guys luck, strength to face the challenges of whatever decision you make and lots of love!

[lkerky 25]

If you are in love and want to be together, then get married. Listen to the above suggestions by continuing to gather proof of your relationship.

I think a lot of people on the forum get mad/upset/jealous that they had to wait a long time and then some people don't.

Some of us had to wait longer than others, welcome to immigration.

Either way you guys have a decision and only you two will know what to do.

[NikLR 13,227]

Love is love, and it can certainly happen quickly. At least you have responses that allow you to think ahead and prepare yourselves.

[blondedoc 35]

It's possible also your way but I am sure that if we take 100 cases of our situation (hypothetical) if he/she leaves alone, and the other stays, you'll get 75% or more of cases with relationship ending forever.

The same 100 cases if they both go together to a new life and help each other being together.... you will get maybe 90% win rate (let's say 10 will end).

Is it relevant? numbers are just for example... hope you understand.

Secondly... what about having a newborn child? Will she raise him alone there? Will I stay alone with him at home ? Really??? Oh... wait for the child at least 3 years from now, or maybe 4.... it doesn't sound to me too constructive or feasible

So don´t have a kid until you get together! Condoms, pills and IUD´s exist for that!

I was with my now husband in US for some months before we decided to start the stuff to be together, I was removed when I got back, we were even more sure that we wanted to be together after that, we got married abroad, we filled the I-30, I´m waiting it´s been more than a year with all these situations AND I´m almost about to have no more age to have a kid... I´m crazy to have a baby with my husband, but I´ll wait until we get together...

And you know what? I´m suffering a lot, he´s suffering a lot, but we realized that all of it made our relationship more than strong!

Think about it!

Numbers are just numbers...

Be denied is horrible, you feel much worse than be away from your loved one...

[Unidentified 2,930]

It's possible also your way but I am sure that if we take 100 cases of our situation (hypothetical) if he/she leaves alone, and the other stays, you'll get 75% or more of cases with relationship ending forever.

The same 100 cases if they both go together to a new life and help each other being together.... you will get maybe 90% win rate (let's say 10 will end).

Is it relevant? numbers are just for example... hope you understand.

Secondly... what about having a newborn child? Will she raise him alone there? Will I stay alone with him at home ? Really??? Oh... wait for the child at least 3 years from now, or maybe 4.... it doesn't sound to me too constructive or feasible

She is knocked up already?

[tiss25 1]

Thank you guys for all you support !

It's a tough decision and of course we wouldn't want a rejection or a ban. However I think the odds are better for a positive answer... we are still thinking to go on together as married couple and risk it all.

However, in US nobody will wait us with cakes and free home... it's very difficult there too. So if we are to be rejected, we can continue living here too.

[SusieQQQ 11,586]

Thank you guys for all you support !

It's a tough decision and of course we wouldn't want a rejection or a ban. However I think the odds are better for a positive answer... we are still thinking to go on together as married couple and risk it all.

However, in US nobody will wait us with cakes and free home... it's very difficult there too. So if we are to be rejected, we can continue living here too.

If you are genuinely wanting to be married, of course go ahead and apply as married, making sure to keep all the evidence you can. I think the concerns here are more about rushing into things, with the decisions seemingly influenced by the DV win . If you are more focused on a life together than the US, that's a good start. Good luck.