Non-immigrant male married to a drug addicted USC Wife

[malenonimmigrant 10]

I respect the moderator for removing some of these "hateful" posts that attacked me personally. But to answer to the haters, here you go:

I love my wife, and I married her because I saw a future together with us. I was not aware of the extent of her addiction to Xanax until she moved in with me after we got married. She kept this hidden from me during our courtship. I tried a lot of ways in helping her, but she did not want me involved, and always stated that she has her own therapist that is helping her deal with the situation. Every time I tried to help, I was met with hostility. I even tried to call the police, and she threatened me and told me she would report me as the abuser. So if you are telling me that I do not love my wife, I want you to think again. I have tried every possible venue in seeking a solution. The reason I sought a psychologist is because I was suffering both emotionally, and physically (loss of appetite, night sweats, insomnia, panic, depression, weight loss, etc.). I went to a psychologist because my friend told me to go to one. I felt like my life was over and that because of this marriage, I was also going to be deported eventually because she would not appear for the green card interview. It wasn't until a lawyer told me I could qualify for a VAWA petition. Even then I did not want to go that route. I have tried to work things out with my wife, but she's a ticking time bomb waiting to happen. Some days she is normal, other days she goes into one of her "episodes". I have done my best to support her, to even pay for her therapies, which have financially drained me because I haven't received my EAD yet and I am currently unemployed. She expects me to pay her medical bills.

I am an educated individual that researched the VAWA pathway, and tried to build my case so that I am prepared in the event I have no choice but have to go the VAWA route. The sexist immigration lawyer told me I had a weak case, and the fact that I am a male, made it even harder for her to see this going through. I did my part to gather as much as I could for a VAWA petition. For those hating on my good moral character: not only do I have a clean police record, I have letters of support from elementary schools, and homeless shelters that discuss my volunteer work and good character.

I am broken, but I am not giving up on my life. I have worked too hard to just let it go to waste. So for those who are criticizing me for being so organized in this VAWA petition, what else do you expect me to be?

I have not currently divorced my wife. We live separately but I try to be in her good graces by keeping small talk with her, and not questioning her too much about her therapy or addiction as those tend to aggravate her.

[TBoneTX 45,273]

OP, much respect and sympathy to you.

[blest.but.strest 50]

I respect the moderator for removing some of these "hateful" posts that attacked me personally. But to answer to the haters, here you go

Hey bro,

I am a male and was victimized by a woman, I successfully went the vawa route and obtain my GC. I personally suffered major physical abuse as well as some mental abuse. Without physical abuse it's a little more difficult to prove but it is definitively not impossible. Psychological/mental abuse is a very real thing and many got their vawa petitions approved with only a good psychological evaluation. Your lawyer doesn't seem to be qualified to help you, get a new one if you absolutely want one. Looking at the evidence you will submit, I think that you will be fine. If you have any question please don't hesitate to contact me and join the VAWA 7 forum, you can get plenty of info just reading people's past experiences.