Differing Libidos

[mmarlo 1]

I think the key is (with the men) the men havent found this yet those answering are women, then all you guys can have your hey day the battle to see who can be the most gross.

Ha. I wasn't trying to have a teenage who-can-be-the-grossest contest. I hope it doesn't devolve into that! I'm already trying to save face for the shaving polls!

[Fandango 1,439]

socially retarded. Completely.

Seriously? That's a bit of a low blow, especially coming from someone with 7116 posts on the online forum.

Aww you checked me out. How cute.

Yes, seriously...socially retarded. Not wanting to discuss sex drive does not mean people are repressed. Illogical leap. And pushing the envelope for the sake of being the 'limit breaker' or the 'guy who hasn't gotten any' doesn't really accomplish much but let everyone know how badly you need a cold shower.

Edited March 17, 2007 by LisaD

[Fandango 1,439]

I can respect the fact that you don't want to hear about it, but I don't think sexual repression (of men or, on the other hand, sexual oppression of women) is the right avenue. Perhaps a temporary fix, but not a longterm solution, and can result in more serious problems. For me, joking about it is a coping technique for being away from my love for a long time.

But, to respond to your post, I hate cold showers. Had to deal with that in Kenya. I can get used to it if I have to, but if there's an option, no thanks! :-)

So, anyone who doesn't respond to your thread is sexually repressed? Dearie me.

No, that's not what I mean at all. Humans are sexual, like all other animals. Men have desires that may or may not be satisfied. Pretending that they don't, or worse, saying that they shouldn't, have those urges is sexual repression. Whether you want to respond to the thread or not is completely orthogonal to that issue. I thought the Savage Love article was entertaining and a bit provocative, and it concerned how men should deal with having more of those desires than their partners. You're free to respond to it or ignore it. Sorry for the misunderstanding.

No one said anyone shouldn't have urges. Just most people won't talk about it with a stranger. You started two threads on how each sex grooms their genitals. Are you actually interested in the answers, or what? And when you got a negative response, it's 'puritans' and 'sexual repression'

Most people are just fine with their sex lives and don't need to bleat on about it.

[Sofiyya 1,687]

Claimed! I made that image with my own two fingers.

[Fandango 1,439]

Honestly, I've just never encountered RL situations where people are so open with details about their intimate lives.

Well, apparently we live very different lives. Sex always comes up when I'm together with other men, whether it's with other men in my family or my friends--most of whom are academics. Among my female friends, there's definitely less graphic talk about sex, but it probably depends on the particular group of people. It's different when I'm with my mom, who used to be a bit wild, but isn't anymore, compared to my sisters, who are missionaries, compared with my drinking buddies, fellow graduate students, etc.

And the same holds true here, but you just jumped in with 'how much hair's on your vajayjay?' without knowing your audience.

Thus proving my earlier 'socially retarded' comment

GEG...that one was a goodun....me likey

Edited March 17, 2007 by LisaD

[JayJay 4]

What's a vajajay?

*runs away* :P :D

[Fandango 1,439]

What's a vajajay?

*runs away* :P :D

Would be you if you lived in Virginia

[JayJay 4]

OMG LISA! You're calling me a Vajajay? I am shocked and outraged.

Not really

[mmarlo 1]

Honestly, I've just never encountered RL situations where people are so open with details about their intimate lives.

Well, apparently we live very different lives. Sex always comes up when I'm together with other men, whether it's with other men in my family or my friends--most of whom are academics. Among my female friends, there's definitely less graphic talk about sex, but it probably depends on the particular group of people. It's different when I'm with my mom, who used to be a bit wild, but isn't anymore, compared to my sisters, who are missionaries, compared with my drinking buddies, fellow graduate students, etc.

And the same holds true here, but you just jumped in with 'how much hair's on your vajayjay?' without knowing your audience.

Thus proving my earlier 'socially retarded' comment

GEG...that one was a goodun....me likey

Fair enough. I notice the "Nose hair" poll the other day and some other totally random polls the other day, so yeah I didn't have an accurate gauge of what people are comfortable joking about here. So, yeah, I overreacted with the Puritans comment. I think there are good reasons to discuss sex on this site and others, but maybe the pubic hair question should be left for my drinking buddies.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

You reallllllllly dont have a clue do you????

Edited March 17, 2007 by brnidokiegurl

[Alex+R 0]

Wow, I'm really really surprised at the reaction mmario has gotten for these polls and this thread. Steven and Jinky, for one, actually made pretty much exactly the same poll a month ago and got a little heat but not nearly as much. When I saw the polls I thought "eeeww" but they didn't require posting, just voting in them at most.

I would not choose to respond to something about pubic hair, but I know a lot of people would. And this thread? Totally tame. Totally Steven and Jinky territory, actually. But talking about women and men's libidos does not have to be a personal discussion at all. Nobody has to say "OMG that is so not true I jump my fiance's bones 400 times a day" although some have already been explicit (their choice).

Seriously, guys, what's the big deal?

[Ban Hammer 13,346]

Wow, I'm really really surprised at the reaction mmario has gotten for these polls and this thread. Steven and Jinky, for one, actually made pretty much exactly the same poll a month ago and got a little heat but not nearly as much. When I saw the polls I thought "eeeww" but they didn't require posting, just voting in them at most.

I would not choose to respond to something about pubic hair, but I know a lot of people would. And this thread? Totally tame. Totally Steven and Jinky territory, actually. But talking about women and men's libidos does not have to be a personal discussion at all. Nobody has to say "OMG that is so not true I jump my fiance's bones 400 times a day" although some have already been explicit (their choice).

Seriously, guys, what's the big deal?

so where is this poll about pubic hair, since you mentioned it

[Alex+R 0]

Go figure Charles, it's in "General Polls"

[Ban Hammer 13,346]

Go figure Charles, it's in "General Polls"

i'm on the way, ty

[sereia 0]

Wow, I'm really really surprised at the reaction mmario has gotten for these polls and this thread. Steven and Jinky, for one, actually made pretty much exactly the same poll a month ago and got a little heat but not nearly as much. When I saw the polls I thought "eeeww" but they didn't require posting, just voting in them at most.

I would not choose to respond to something about pubic hair, but I know a lot of people would. And this thread? Totally tame. Totally Steven and Jinky territory, actually. But talking about women and men's libidos does not have to be a personal discussion at all. Nobody has to say "OMG that is so not true I jump my fiance's bones 400 times a day" although some have already been explicit (their choice).

Seriously, guys, what's the big deal?

agree 110%! i voted, just didn't reply (to his polls) ... all anonymous anyway.