When you fight, how long till you make up?

[Rob and Melinda 0]

All of us fight sometimes, just wondering how long in hours, days, weeks it takes before you make up. Who is usually the ffirst to initiate the make up?

Rob

[Dan J 277]

We never fight, just argue sometimes. And it feels bad already.

[chipsahoy 3]

None of us goes to sleep with anger.. Pride is not in our dictionary.

[Dean/Gra 0]

My sweetie and I have never had an argument, and I pray that we don't. That is not to say that we do not disagree occasionally, but we always resolve the matter without arguing. She listens to me and I listen to her.

I have never been angry at her and she has never been angry at me.

[keltic 1]

when disagreements occur, its usually miscommunication of some sort... and not due to language, just typical man/woman kind of stuff... its not often at all and rarely lasts more than an hour, if that long... we continue to try to understand each other and once we get there, we usually agree on the issue anyway, lol...

there are a few things that we do not share the same beliefs in, but we knew that before we got married and talked about them and chose to respect each other and to be with each other regardless... those issues have not caused any grief or arguments for us

[KarenCee 3]

All of us fight sometimes, just wondering how long in hours, days, weeks it takes before you make up. Who is usually the ffirst to initiate the make up?

Rob

We haven't ever had a fight. We've been together since 2003 (married almost a year) and so far no fights. However, we have had moments of misunderstanding. Some might say, what's the difference? Having been in a marriage where fights were a constant I know the difference, believe me. Usually it's either semantics, or just miscommunication of some sort. It never lasts more than an hour...it hurts too much for either of us to see the other with a sad look on their face. As to who initiates the first move to clear the air...we both usually end up saying something at the same time.

[Niels Bohr 72]

Never had a fight. For us, there's nothing to fight over. Small things don't get in out way. Like, why aren't you there last night? Or, why didn't you help me wash the clothes? Nothing is worth fighting in our family besides for our future. We both work hard together. I think it's because the both of us experienced many adversity in the past. We know what's it like to have nothing. I remember living in the States the first time at 8 years old. Our primary income was collecting bottles in the streets, and people spat at us because we're Asians. They say we eat grass, etc...The neighbors would do mean things to my immediate family. My family doesn't understand English. I had to learn it myself with no help. Remembered one time when I bought a brand new notebook so I can write. Well, I tore it in half when I got home because my dad don't know English.

My wife on the other hand have no parents. She was raised by her sister. Before I met her, she was selling water dug up from wells. She had to carry it on her shoulders and walk for miles making a measly 5 dollars/day in Cambodia. She went to Thai thinking that she could make a living there by cooking. But, the boss there kept her pay and her passport so she can't go home.

Both of our lives were difficult. We had nothing before. We had to work hard to get to where we are now. She and I were poor. I went to school with no support from my parents, and worked full time as well. Yet, I maintained high honors in school as well as college. Students who have money, and parents who helps them all the way sometimes don't put in their best effort. It's a major disappointment. My wife has no education whatsoever because she lives in country where the economy is different. She still worked hard, and never gave up on life.

We never fight because we both knew what to fight over, and what not to fight over.

Edited March 17, 2007 by consolemaster

[Fandango 1,440]

Hey Rob, you do get the jist of a 'poll', right?

Erm, to answer...when together, any fight is resovled before bed. Over a phone with a time diff, it's a lil more difficult...so sometimes they could linger for a few days, but we usually TRY to sort it same day. They're always stupid an petty, but we're both equally very passionate and very stubborn, so sometimes they're fun

[Aymerlu 3]

We haven't had a fight yet....I'll let ya know when/if it happens

[Caladan 19]

We're both people with pretty explosive tempers, but we try to talk things out before bedtime.

eta: It's a good thing we're both arguers, because I cannot understand couples that have never had an argument, or people that never argue, and can only assume that you are all are either very nice or on tranquilizers.

Edited March 17, 2007 by Caladan

[Together4ever 1]

Ohhhh we fight. Its part of the dance. He's a hot-blooded man with a passion and temper to match. I'm a very emotional person who has thankfully and finally learned that "fighting" is perfectly OK and normal... within reason. So yeah, we fight. We've had some dillies. The kind where people on the street stop and stare. The cause is generally a misunderstanding coupled with loss of emotional control. We're both still trying to get over our separation/reunion adjustment and the venting of all those pent-up frustrations this stupid visa journey can hammer into you. So the fighting is diminishing. Although I think some twisted part of both of us enjoys a good bought now and then. Its a release. And we make up. And that's the yummy part. We try to never go to sleep angry because that really sucks. Generally we get over ourselves within an hour or so.

[Alex+R 0]

Hey Rob, you do get the jist of a 'poll', right?

Erm, to answer...when together, any fight is resovled before bed. Over a phone with a time diff, it's a lil more difficult...so sometimes they could linger for a few days, but we usually TRY to sort it same day. They're always stupid an petty, but we're both equally very passionate and very stubborn, so sometimes they're fun

Us too

Oh, excuse me, no no we never fight. Fighting? Who us? Noooooo

[KarenCee 3]

We're both people with pretty explosive tempers, but we try to talk things out before bedtime.

eta: It's a good thing we're both arguers, because I cannot understand couples that have never had an argument, or people that never argue, and can only assume that you are all are either very nice or on tranquilizers.

Could it be that some people don't NEED to argue? There are more important things in this world than arguing. If you can talk and talk rationally then why does one HAVE to argue? There is a saying on the wall in the classroom of a fellow teacher: It's YOUR temper, please keep it." That says it all I think.

Edited March 18, 2007 by KarenCee

[Jenn! 918]

We're both people with pretty explosive tempers, but we try to talk things out before bedtime.

eta: It's a good thing we're both arguers, because I cannot understand couples that have never had an argument, or people that never argue, and can only assume that you are all are either very nice or on tranquilizers.

Could it be that some people don't NEED to argue? There are more important things in this world than arguing. If you can talk and talk rationally then why does one HAVE to argue? There is a saying on the wall in the classroom of a fellow teacher: It's YOUR temper, please keep it." That says it all I think.

Yeah, I think people just have different personalities and different ways of controlling/expressing anger/disagreement. Those of you who said you have never fought I would *guess* have probably not done too much fighting with family or friends either simply because it's not part of your nature.

I get worked up emotionally pretty easily, so that can lead to fights, but I'm working on it!

[KansasDragon 1]

Our disagreements (fights), are usually very brief, usually less than a couple hours. We always fight towards each other, trying to come to an agreement and understanding, because we want to resolve the problem with each other quickly.