Do you impose rules on your SO?

[Fandango 1,439]

Come on then. Let's discuss

yikes wrong forum, someone move pls!

[Niels Bohr 72]

No. I will let her be free, except for cheating.

[Jenn! 918]

I'm not sure how to answer yet.

There's one issue that we've been round and round over. He wants a rottweiler. I hate big scary dogs. Luckily, we can't possibly have a rottweiler in our apartment. But when we do have a house, I'm afraid the issue will come up again. Now, I'm pretty confident that when it comes down to it, he won't go out and buy a rottweiler when I've expressed how much I dislike them. But at the same time, he also doesn't understand what my problem is. This might be an issue that will come to me "disallowing" a rottweiler in the house.

So, I guess as of right now, those words aren't in our marital vocab, but I can't say that they won't be added in the future...

[William33 110]

A good relationship demands 50-50 participation in decision making.

Imposing your will on your SO is just wrong and would not fly in our house.

[RaspberrySwirl 20]

I'm not sure how to answer yet.

There's one issue that we've been round and round over. He wants a rottweiler. I hate big scary dogs. Luckily, we can't possibly have a rottweiler in our apartment. But when we do have a house, I'm afraid the issue will come up again. Now, I'm pretty confident that when it comes down to it, he won't go out and buy a rottweiler when I've expressed how much I dislike them. But at the same time, he also doesn't understand what my problem is. This might be an issue that will come to me "disallowing" a rottweiler in the house.

So, I guess as of right now, those words aren't in our marital vocab, but I can't say that they won't be added in the future...

Ugh, we have a new neighbour in the apt building with a rottweiler. You never know how it's going to react to you getting out of your car with groceries or going to check the mail. Sometimes it'll come towards you all excited wanting to be petted and other times it leaps at you, stopping half way barking and growling.

They're scary and she's driving my cat nuts whenever they let her run around the building.

I almost cried this morning when I was heading outside to put bills in the mail. Stupid thing was running at me and hiding between parked cars growling and barking and doing the whole ready for attack thing.

[Alex+R 0]

Friendly enough thread for now...how long til it gets closed?

[Jenn! 918]

I'm not sure how to answer yet.

There's one issue that we've been round and round over. He wants a rottweiler. I hate big scary dogs. Luckily, we can't possibly have a rottweiler in our apartment. But when we do have a house, I'm afraid the issue will come up again. Now, I'm pretty confident that when it comes down to it, he won't go out and buy a rottweiler when I've expressed how much I dislike them. But at the same time, he also doesn't understand what my problem is. This might be an issue that will come to me "disallowing" a rottweiler in the house.

So, I guess as of right now, those words aren't in our marital vocab, but I can't say that they won't be added in the future...

Ugh, we have a new neighbour in the apt building with a rottweiler. You never know how it's going to react to you getting out of your car with groceries or going to check the mail. Sometimes it'll come towards you all excited wanting to be petted and other times it leaps at you, stopping half way barking and growling.

They're scary and she's driving my cat nuts whenever they let her run around the building.

I almost cried this morning when I was heading outside to put bills in the mail. Stupid thing was running at me and hiding between parked cars growling and barking and doing the whole ready for attack thing.

Thanks for this anecdote. Rest assured it will be used in a future discussion.

[Peggy 1]

I'm not sure how to answer yet.

There's one issue that we've been round and round over. He wants a rottweiler. I hate big scary dogs. Luckily, we can't possibly have a rottweiler in our apartment. But when we do have a house, I'm afraid the issue will come up again. Now, I'm pretty confident that when it comes down to it, he won't go out and buy a rottweiler when I've expressed how much I dislike them. But at the same time, he also doesn't understand what my problem is. This might be an issue that will come to me "disallowing" a rottweiler in the house.

So, I guess as of right now, those words aren't in our marital vocab, but I can't say that they won't be added in the future...

Ugh, we have a new neighbour in the apt building with a rottweiler. You never know how it's going to react to you getting out of your car with groceries or going to check the mail. Sometimes it'll come towards you all excited wanting to be petted and other times it leaps at you, stopping half way barking and growling.

They're scary and she's driving my cat nuts whenever they let her run around the building.

I almost cried this morning when I was heading outside to put bills in the mail. Stupid thing was running at me and hiding between parked cars growling and barking and doing the whole ready for attack thing.

Aren't dogs suppose to be tied up? I dont like big dogs either

[Alex+R 0]

Jenn, why does it have to be a rottie? Could he be convinced to get a larger shelter dog? Rottweiler is not the best breed to have around, especially if you want to have kids, although I know some people just love them.

[RaspberrySwirl 20]

I'm not sure how to answer yet.

There's one issue that we've been round and round over. He wants a rottweiler. I hate big scary dogs. Luckily, we can't possibly have a rottweiler in our apartment. But when we do have a house, I'm afraid the issue will come up again. Now, I'm pretty confident that when it comes down to it, he won't go out and buy a rottweiler when I've expressed how much I dislike them. But at the same time, he also doesn't understand what my problem is. This might be an issue that will come to me "disallowing" a rottweiler in the house.

So, I guess as of right now, those words aren't in our marital vocab, but I can't say that they won't be added in the future...

Ugh, we have a new neighbour in the apt building with a rottweiler. You never know how it's going to react to you getting out of your car with groceries or going to check the mail. Sometimes it'll come towards you all excited wanting to be petted and other times it leaps at you, stopping half way barking and growling.

They're scary and she's driving my cat nuts whenever they let her run around the building.

I almost cried this morning when I was heading outside to put bills in the mail. Stupid thing was running at me and hiding between parked cars growling and barking and doing the whole ready for attack thing.

Aren't dogs suppose to be tied up? I dont like big dogs either

That's what I thought. Oh well, I hear the landlord is having problems with them not paying their rent on time so hopefully they won't be here for much longer! I think we're the only ones in the building who get their rent cheque in on time every time.

ANYHOW.

On topic: erm I don't.

The only kinda rule we have that goes for the both of us is: always let the other person know where you're going and how long you'll be.

D. has lost two friends/relatives to train accidents and he used to walk to work and had to cross the tracks and I used to go for bike rides and sometimes had to cross there too, so that's kinda the reasoning behind that implicit rule.

[Jenn! 918]

Jenn, why does it have to be a rottie? Could he be convinced to get a larger shelter dog? Rottweiler is not the best breed to have around, especially if you want to have kids, although I know some people just love them.

Believe me, I wish I knew. I don't know why he likes them so much, it's not like he's even ever had a dog. I'm hoping it's some odd phase that he will grow out of.

[Nagishkaw 510]

We are only prisoners of love. We don't follow rules because there isn't any, and no way would I want to be shackled to a ball and chain, and neither does he. He don't sign my paycheques and I sure don't sign his. It just works for us that way.

[Mary Lou 681]

How i see it, i am not his mother, nor is he my father. We are in a 50/50 relationship. When issues come up for discussion we both share our feelings and opinions on the matter and make a decision together.

[Alex+R 0]

Jenn, why does it have to be a rottie? Could he be convinced to get a larger shelter dog? Rottweiler is not the best breed to have around, especially if you want to have kids, although I know some people just love them.

Believe me, I wish I knew. I don't know why he likes them so much, it's not like he's even ever had a dog. I'm hoping it's some odd phase that he will grow out of.

Hehe let's hope so. Slowly make him feel guilty for wanted a purebred dog.

[brnidokiegurl 0]

Hes not here yet but we are good to talk things over. To forbid sounds like you rule or are the boss, thats not the way i see it.