How often do people get denied?

[MadeinIndia 2]

Yes, they call this the "lonely hearts" scam.

Just heard from my friend. As I expected, she got a Notice of Intent to Revoke letter...

[JFH 12,190]

Just heard from my friend. As I expected, she got a Notice of Intent to Revoke letter...

I hope she finds happiness soon with someone who loves her for who she is, not where she lives.

[MadeinIndia 2]

So she sent me the NOIR letter she got and I am attaching it here after editing out identifying details. I don't have the heart to tell her it is a losing battle but now she is gearing up to get a lawyer, getting affidavits from the man's family and friends, her family etc, vacations taken together details etc etc to submit additional evidence before 30 days. Do you think she has a chance?

[Harpa Timsah 13,258]

The sad thing about these scams is that by this point the victim is already in so deep they can't believe it's fake. It's so easy to rationalize things, think of yourself as Romeo and Juliet, you against the world. The US Embassy in Morocco has a page about romance scams that shows this is a real problem from the US Gov, but doubt your friend would be receptive. Sorry, hard place for you to be.

[Boiler 45,488]

I would be very surprised if it was overturned. I have seen some really strange things happen.

What is her plan assuming it does not, is she planning to move?

[Merrytooth 5,748]

So she sent me the NOIR letter she got and I am attaching it here after editing out identifying details. I don't have the heart to tell her it is a losing battle but now she is gearing up to get a lawyer, getting affidavits from the man's family and friends, her family etc, vacations taken together details etc etc to submit additional evidence before 30 days. Do you think she has a chance?

You said the man's family received a car from the USC, their neighbours do not know anything about it?

[MadeinIndia 2]

You said the man's family received a car from the USC, their neighbours do not know anything about it?

That guy took it with him to Delhi where he has a job ;-)

I would be very surprised if it was overturned. I have seen some really strange things happen.

What is her plan assuming it does not, is she planning to move?

Well, all she says she won't give up! She cannot move there because she needs to work here or no livelihood! That guy makes $250 a month in India!

[MadeinIndia 2]

The sad thing about these scams is that by this point the victim is already in so deep they can't believe it's fake. It's so easy to rationalize things, think of yourself as Romeo and Juliet, you against the world. The US Embassy in Morocco has a page about romance scams that shows this is a real problem from the US Gov, but doubt your friend would be receptive. Sorry, hard place for you to be.

The problem is, you can't tell that directly to someone you know. Before anything happens, we will become the bad guys so I am trying to be supportive. I have a strong feeling about that guys bad intentions but keeping it to myself.

[Boiler 45,488]

What are his career prospects? When will he earn enough to support her?

Edited May 18, 2016 by Boiler

[MadeinIndia 2]

What are his career prospects? When will he earn enough to support her?

I asked her this a long time ago. My friend has a transport business and it seems he planned to work along with her if he comes here....

I feel bad for her but being an Indian myself, I know how their minds work...It really is a stretch that a guy who lived all his life in a small village in North India, can hardly speak English found love with an American woman 23 years older than him. I mean it is not impossible, stranger things have happened but in this case...something ain't right...

[JFH 12,190]

I asked her this a long time ago. My friend has a transport business and it seems he planned to work along with her if he comes here....

I feel bad for her but being an Indian myself, I know how their minds work...It really is a stretch that a guy who lived all his life in a small village in North India, can hardly speak English found love with an American woman 23 years older than him. I mean it is not impossible, stranger things have happened but in this case...something ain't right...

That's how we all see it. Yes, opposites attract, people find love in the strangest of places, etc... But some things just don't sit right. He really was naive too and very underprepared for the interview if he couldn't even tell them how they met, the first time he saw her photo, etc.

She dodged a bullet, really. If he had been more astute and bluffed his way through the interview and been approved, she would not have been truly happy with him. How can you be if the person only wants to be with you for a green card?

It's for the best in the long run.