Abusive Wife

[Boiler 45,525]

Look for alternative accommodation and find a divorce lawyer.

[firebird00 66]

Look for alternative accommodation and find a divorce lawyer.

I am looking for an apartment to move ASAP.

[kris&me 572]

you say she is being treated for mental issues and they are not related to you but have been her problems since a teenager

So, this is the proof you need

seek a lawyer and tell him you did not know about the mental problems when you married

[firebird00 66]

you say she is being treated for mental issues and they are not related to you but have been her problems since a teenager

So, this is the proof you need

seek a lawyer and tell him you did not know about the mental problems when you married

Ya she is going to counseling and psychiatrist and taking depression and anxiety pills daily, she has quit her job because she 'can't do it anymore'. She is sabotaging everything in her life, she sabotages her relation with her family, her job and now her marriage.

[galephys 12]

Ok. Your case sound a lot like my first marriage. My USC ex-husband had issues and was unstable: he'd one day be super jealous and mean, another day would cry and crawl on his knees to apologies. He had fits of unpredictable anger, suicide threats, ridiculous demands and so on. I went to therapy to fix my marriage, but instead found out I am being abused (I didn't realize). As soon as I figured it out, I started preparing: I recorded our conversations, I called police on every suicide threat, I got things in writing with him even over text or email of facebook chat. Check laws for your state if you can record a conversation between you and another party without telling them. In my state I can.

Then find a place to live, check for divorce requirements for your state - you may have to be separated for a year or so. Get property that's yours and only yours. Joint accounts, joint cars and similar things will be divided in court. If you have a direct deposit into a joint bank account - stop it. Alert her family so they can take care of her kids, but be prepared that you are the enemy now.

Now a bit of fishy part, I don't know what the law says about it, but I figured if my ex had medical records in a shared filing cabinet at the house right next to mine, I could access it. Not like I went hacking into his computer or medical account online. If she keeps her records at home, get some sort of proof she is on medication and she is seeing a therapist. Take a picture of medicine containers with her name and type of meds on it. Find any written proof why she quit her job. Maybe she texted you around that time and talked about it.

Also make copies of joint property, cards, letters, bills - anything that you may need to remove conditions from your GC. You will need to show that your marriage was in good faith, but things didn't work out even after you tried to fix it.

If you kept copies of previous immigration packages - get these. Remove all your documents from the house. Basically, prepare for the worst.

Once you got all you need at the house - move out and start a divorce process. That's what I did, and I ended up with a good property distribution and a I-751 waiver approved on the spot. PM me if you have specific questions.

[Boiler 45,525]

He has a GC.

[Ontarkie 14,227]

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[firebird00 66]

He has a GC.

Yes I have a GC got it in 2015

Edited April 30, 2016 by firebird00

[firebird00 66]

Ok. Your case sound a lot like my first marriage. My USC ex-husband had issues and was unstable: he'd one day be super jealous and mean, another day would cry and crawl on his knees to apologies. He had fits of unpredictable anger, suicide threats, ridiculous demands and so on. I went to therapy to fix my marriage, but instead found out I am being abused (I didn't realize). As soon as I figured it out, I started preparing: I recorded our conversations, I called police on every suicide threat, I got things in writing with him even over text or email of facebook chat. Check laws for your state if you can record a conversation between you and another party without telling them. In my state I can.

Then find a place to live, check for divorce requirements for your state - you may have to be separated for a year or so. Get property that's yours and only yours. Joint accounts, joint cars and similar things will be divided in court. If you have a direct deposit into a joint bank account - stop it. Alert her family so they can take care of her kids, but be prepared that you are the enemy now.

Now a bit of fishy part, I don't know what the law says about it, but I figured if my ex had medical records in a shared filing cabinet at the house right next to mine, I could access it. Not like I went hacking into his computer or medical account online. If she keeps her records at home, get some sort of proof she is on medication and she is seeing a therapist. Take a picture of medicine containers with her name and type of meds on it. Find any written proof why she quit her job. Maybe she texted you around that time and talked about it.

Also make copies of joint property, cards, letters, bills - anything that you may need to remove conditions from your GC. You will need to show that your marriage was in good faith, but things didn't work out even after you tried to fix it.

If you kept copies of previous immigration packages - get these. Remove all your documents from the house. Basically, prepare for the worst.

Once you got all you need at the house - move out and start a divorce process. That's what I did, and I ended up with a good property distribution and a I-751 waiver approved on the spot. PM me if you have specific questions.

I dont have access to her medical documents but I read them once, from when she was a teenager, she already made suicide threats in 2015 and I told the cops and they contacted her but the denied that she did. She is not working and I am working and paying the bills, today before this incident happened she said she is going to take me off her checking account, i told her i want the bank statements for the past months, because I have the right to get them since the money was mine and you were not working she said she will not give me anything. We also tried counseling and she wont sign a release so I can obtain evidence that we tried marriage counseling.

[N and J 88]

I dont have access to her medical documents but I read them once, from when she was a teenager, she already made suicide threats in 2015 and I told the cops and they contacted her but the denied that she did. She is not working and I am working and paying the bills, today before this incident happened she said she is going to take me off her checking account, i told her i want the bank statements for the past months, because I have the right to get them since the money was mine and you were not working she said she will not give me anything. We also tried counseling and she wont sign a release so I can obtain evidence that we tried marriage counseling.

Hate to break it to you but JOINT ACCOUNT does not make the money yours in a marriage. Everything you both accumulate after you got married is both of yours. Also, she does not have to sign a release if you were there with her and the therapist. They can release a letter stating you were in for couples therapy that does not necessarily mean she was part of it. It is not breaking her confidentiality.

[firebird00 66]

Hate to break it to you but JOINT ACCOUNT does not make the money yours in a marriage. Everything you both accumulate after you got married is both of yours. Also, she does not have to sign a release if you were there with her and the therapist. They can release a letter stating you were in for couples therapy that does not necessarily mean she was part of it. It is not breaking her confidentiality.

The bank account was already hers before I come here and the bills were set up on it, so when I came she added me on it, today she removed me and I don't have the authority to get the statements, I called them and asked, same with counseling, the lady said they can't give me anything without all parties consent, unless with a court order.

[pch1 64]

I would have let her talk to your father's wife or even call your father's wife and let her speak to her and find out the truth, why didn't you do that? Maybe you were talking to another girl.

Either way, you definitely in need of a lawyer ASAP.

[firebird00 66]

I would have let her talk to your father's wife or even call your father's wife and let her speak to her and find out the truth, why didn't you do that? Maybe you were talking to another girl.

Either way, you definitely in need of a lawyer ASAP.

I told her you can talk to her she said how can I know that's her, plus she can be really her but I cant know her real intentions. She just doesnt make any sense.

[belinda63 3,038]

Her mental issues are not relevant to anything unless you have children together. Find a place to live and file for divorce.

[N and J 88]

The bank account was already hers before I come here and the bills were set up on it, so when I came she added me on it, today she removed me and I don't have the authority to get the statements, I called them and asked, same with counseling, the lady said they can't give me anything without all parties consent, unless with a court order.

I would get off visa journey and start looking for a divorce attorney.