Is this a shame?

[Ontarkie 14,440]

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[TBoneTX 46,067]

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[subwayguy 100]

I have been married to her for about 16 months. She is from Vietnam and I meet her through my neighbor, her cousin. She has had her green card since 11/15. Everything was fine except her parents always want money. I have caught her in a lie a couple of times for instance saying her father was very sick an at the hospital when in fact I just talked to him and he was home. In Feb. see went home to visit her family and wasn't the same, constantly saying she must work for her family. We have been sending a few hundred dollars a month but now she claims the need $1,000. I said I can only send $500 and she agreed. A few days later she disappeared, leaving the attached letter. I have only heard from her buy message, she will not do Facebook messenger or call. Her cousin said his mother was in Vietnam at the same time and someone agreed to give her parents money and my wife agreed to do work for this person to pay it back. She is thought to be around 30 minutes away. The note is what I came home to. O well to large to upload. But i did report her as missing to the police. How should I procede? She only took a few pieces of clothing and he wedding ring which she said she will wear anf left me the engagement ring. Said sorry, Ilove you and I will see you soon.

There are thousands of similar cases involving Vietnamese brides vanished in thin air in China and Taiwan. The pattern is : the husband paid dowry, then the two got married, girl moved to the husband's country, she then want some money to send home because of family emergencies, and then after few months , just disappear for no good reason. Many even left their babies behind!!!!!

Actually, I've seen advertisement from Taiwanese matchmaker promising another bride if your wife disappeared.

I honestly don't understand this. I think you are a victim of this type of scam. and I think you should just ignore the letter. How dare somebody heartlessly left the husband for no good reason and left a letter to haunt the husband ?

Move on!

most likely, one of those moderators will consider my response heavenly judgmental and remove it. But I am telling you the truth, thousands of similar stories out there, I wish you could read in Chinese and do some research.

Edited May 9, 2016 by subwayguy

[PeachesMagee 62]

She is here in PA. The debt and her agreeing to do work to pay it back for her parents was set up while she was in Viet. I had no idea till she left and my neighbors mother who was also there returned, she told me of this. I found out she is at a nice nail salon about 1 hr. away from here. She didn't tell me for fear I would not allow this. She said in her note that she will wear her wedding ring and will leave me the engagement ring, which she did plus she left almost all her expensive jewlery. Almost all her clothing is here. Even her suitcase from her trip that I didn't put away yet. Yes, I understand her culture and dedication to parents. She also said she will return in a few months.

I'm no expert, but would like to give my two-cents, if I may.

As the OP stated, she said she feared he may not allow this.

In some countries, the wife does as the husband bids, and she may have been raised this way. There is no way for us to know for sure.

Perhaps, when he said he couldn't give $1,000 only $500, she (as well as her family) may have thought that he was refusing to help.

She left her jewellery, most of her clothes, her credit cards haven't been used, etc.

If she were taking him for a ride, the cards would be maxed out, her clothes would be gone, and her jewellery would be in a pawn shop.

Perhaps the OP needs to talk to his wife, in a calm and level-headed way.

Find out if she was afraid he wouldn't allow her to work.

I think, after all they've gone through to get her to the US, spending a little bit of time finding out what exactly is going on in her mind, is the least they can do.

She's still communicating by way of Messenger, and Facebook, so clearly she's not hiding from him.

Just my two-cents.

[alanjm663 2]

Bottom line is you need to get her out of the situation she's in. If you believe her and still love her you need to be her husband and take care of her, go there and bring her home. Get the police involved if the situation calls for it. If you don't love her or can't trust her anymore then you need to alert the government so your not held with any responsibility when the S@#t hits the fan so to speak.

I am recently married(January) and my wife is from Peru. If something like this ever happened to her I would be furious, not at her but at the people keeping her against her will. If someone is really using her parents and their debt as leverage to make her work for them, then she is no different then any kidnapping victim.

Its a horrible situation, best wishes to you and your wife hope it all works out