re: CR1-visa entered the country without my knowledge

[Unidentified 2,930]

You can search public utility databases in the Boston area, as well as criminal/civil law databases - all public. Easy to find someone if you really want to.

Would be foolish if the OP found out where she is and went to see her. Makes it easy for her to file WAVA. OP should just stay away. Divorce and move on.

[souladventurer 2]

thank you for all you varying suggestions. i am sure different things happen due to the luck of the person involved and his/her due diligence. I guess the best thing to do is to refrain from contacting her or continuing to make her cooperate. i feel that the appointment with the infopass is a very good idea as i can talk to a fraud officer so i appreciate that greatly. besides that i guess you guys are all right in one way or another.

by the way she is not with her ex husband. she is with her ex husbands distant cousin. so its not that humiliating LOL!!! however the fact that she is with one of her ex-husbands family members is insulting nonetheless as it shows that she is not in the right state of mind. i have tried to work with her and wasn't even upset when she said was here but now understanding that she has a waiver chance and the WAVA possibility it is best to keep away from her.

I do have a bank account in my name with her also a credit card account as well..what should i do here? the financial co-mingling isn't apparent exactly as she doesnt have a debit card or credit associated with either accounts???

[Unidentified 2,930]

thank you for all you varying suggestions. i am sure different things happen due to the luck of the person involved and his/her due diligence. I guess the best thing to do is to refrain from contacting her or continuing to make her cooperate. i feel that the appointment with the infopass is a very good idea as i can talk to a fraud officer so i appreciate that greatly. besides that i guess you guys are all right in one way or another.

by the way she is not with her ex husband. she is with her ex husbands distant cousin. so its not that humiliating LOL!!! however the fact that she is with one of her ex-husbands family members is insulting nonetheless as it shows that she is not in the right state of mind. i have tried to work with her and wasn't even upset when she said was here but now understanding that she has a waiver chance and the WAVA possibility it is best to keep away from her.

I do have a bank account in my name with her also a credit card account as well..what should i do here? the financial co-mingling isn't apparent exactly as she doesnt have a debit card or credit associated with either accounts???

So only her name is on it? She doesn't have access to it? I'd have her name removed. Especially if she has access to it.

[Caryh 5,206]

thank you for all you varying suggestions. i am sure different things happen due to the luck of the person involved and his/her due diligence. I guess the best thing to do is to refrain from contacting her or continuing to make her cooperate. i feel that the appointment with the infopass is a very good idea as i can talk to a fraud officer so i appreciate that greatly. besides that i guess you guys are all right in one way or another.

by the way she is not with her ex husband. she is with her ex husbands distant cousin. so its not that humiliating LOL!!! however the fact that she is with one of her ex-husbands family members is insulting nonetheless as it shows that she is not in the right state of mind. i have tried to work with her and wasn't even upset when she said was here but now understanding that she has a waiver chance and the WAVA possibility it is best to keep away from her.

I do have a bank account in my name with her also a credit card account as well..what should i do here? the financial co-mingling isn't apparent exactly as she doesnt have a debit card or credit associated with either accounts???

If her name is on the account, she may be able to access them, both the funds and records. Close her access to the accounts, even if you need to create new accounts and close the old. If she can get account statements, she can use them during the ROC.

[Transborderwife 4,666]

If she's on it all that she needs is proof of the statements with both names. Take her off asap

[EM_Vandaveer 2,408]

How does VAWA play into this? OP's wife already has a 2-year GC.

For ROC abuse waiver bona fide marriage has to be proven anyway.

[deleted this acco 44]

I like to see how she will remove conditions with no proof of the marriage being bonafide. OP u should come update us when she ROC.

[Caryh 5,206]

I like to see how she will remove conditions with no proof of the marriage being bonafide. OP u should come update us when she ROC.

He will likely know nothing unless she decides to tell him.

[NikLR 13,231]

People there is no vawa. She has a green card.

[TBoneTX 45,863]

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[Eric-Pris 1,607]

what can i do in this situation...we talk via whatsapp but she is very dodgy...what about the ROC (751) also any other suggestions..i am doing a posting for the divorce and hopefully the judge approves..other than that no idea.!!!

My suggestion: break off all contact, and finalize the divorce and move on with your life. Stop trying to find her because there's nothing at the end of that road but pain and misery. She obviously doesn't love you or she'd be with you, so move out with your life and stop wasting energy on her.

[Eric-Pris 1,607]

how is it not fraud? she is not with me. so when you enter a country on a marriage visa it is assumed you are going to be with your husband as you do put down an address correct? i have submitted to ICE and they have to of course feel that it is fraud...

You are just butt hurt right now that you invested so much into her and she is not reciprocating. And out of spite you want to get her deported. However, ICE will not do anything to look for her or deport her. She can live in the US for the remainder of her life illegally with the millions of others.

[YecaCruz 379]

If her name is on the account, she may be able to access them, both the funds and records. Close her access to the accounts, even if you need to create new accounts and close the old. If she can get account statements, she can use them during the ROC.

Jumping in to add to this. I've worked in a bank for 6 years. When there are multiple signers on an account, any of them have the authority to close the account and take the funds with them. So the best thing would be to close out the account, all the cards associated with that account would not work. From there you can open a new one with just your name on it.

I've seen some couples who were going through some bad fights or divorce or something and one of the people closed the acct and took all the funds with her. Signers have full rights to do that. And as tellers, the policy is to close it because someone with authority on the account is doing it.

that's my 5 cents. I'm sorry this has happened to you.

[LionessDeon 2,060]

You are just butt hurt right now that you invested so much into her and she is not reciprocating. And out of spite you want to get her deported. However, ICE will not do anything to look for her or deport her. She can live in the US for the remainder of her life illegally with the millions of others.

Butt hurt?? seriously...the OPs wife entered the USA without his knowledge and is living with her ex-husband (or his cousin, if you believe that one) and you call him butt hurt? Definition of butt hurt is "needlessly offended". I think the OP has every right to be offended.

OP infopass appointment is the best option in my opinion. Give them the info and evidence you have and let it go from there. Do not contact her. Good Luck!

[Boiler 45,912]

He can be offended as much as he likes, he needs to realise nothing is going to happen.