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[SanneW 30]

After reading what people answer here, instead of answering the question...

Before you judge:

Where you there?

Do you know what actually happened?

Do you know who reported it and got her arrested?

Do you know how the OP and his wife feel and live?

I think you guys cant judge on what has been happening, it might have been something small and easy to work out...

This is his job to figure out what he wants, he just asked some advise..

I dont know what to do but im sorry, i had to say something about all the stuck up people that are ready to judge others lives

[Boiler 46,059]

I have seen many posts by abused men on VJ.

[abhi_meli 150]

All I wanna say is think rationally and don't fall for sorry or apologies...one week is way too early for Domestic Violence...It will only get worse and you will end up loosing money on legal fees.

[E and R 8]

I would take the timing of being attacked by your new wife and the visa process as a sign that now is the time to get out. People that are violent need years of therapy to change behavior like that. Annul the marriage (check with a local attorney but I bet violence is a justifiable and qualifiable reason for annulment). To me the important thing to do would not be thinking about how best to proceed with a future life together but how you can get out before more damage is done.

[IguanaCouple 26]

Nobody has any details about what exactly happened and suggestions about marriage annulment are already starting to come in. It's like that internet law where in any debate the longer you post the higher the probability of someone calling you a Nazi.

[IguanaCouple 26]

Very easy answer about getting the wife outta trouble, the wife needs to stop abusing the OP. It's not the OP duty to teach her that, and I doubt the abuser is going to listen? I'm actually curious about who reported the wife for her to be arrested.

I don't agree with the double standard just because he is a man.

"the wife needs to STOP abusing the OP."

You just make it seem like it's 1 + 1. If only life were that simple. It's nobody's duty to do anything, really if you look at it from a broader perspective. The OP WANTS to stay in the marriage and I think he's an adult who can make reasonable decisions.

All I'm saying is with the limited information at hand, all the folks advising him to get out is just toxic. He got married a week ago, forget about the best wishes he just needs to divorce the woman and send her packing back to her psychiatrist is what people are saying.

My wife punched me within a week of our marriage, too and I had to call the cops to calm her down. That was nearly 4 years ago and It turned out she saw something on my FB profile and was furious about it. We have had very problems ever since. Just saying. It's better to be positive about something you don't know about than to advise someone to assume the worst case.

Edited April 20, 2016 by IguanaCouple

[Starkilla09 366]

"the wife needs to STOP abusing the OP."

You just make it seem like it's 1 + 1. If only life were that simple. It's nobody's duty to do anything, really if you look at it from a broader perspective. The OP WANTS to stay in the marriage and I think he's an adult who can make reasonable decisions.

All I'm saying is with the limited information at hand, all the folks advising him to get out is just toxic. He got married a week ago, forget about the best wishes he just needs to divorce the woman and send her packing back to her psychiatrist is what people are saying.

My wife punched me within a week of our marriage, too and I had to call the cops to calm her down. That was nearly 4 years ago and It turned out she saw something on my FB profile and was furious about it. We have had very problems ever since. Just saying. It's better to be positive about something you don't know about than to advise someone to assume the worst case.

Some of the posts these "married" VJ members post sometimes can make you cringe. You may wonder if they were high on bath salts when reciting their marital vows, considering the speed at how trigger itchy they are to tell someone to divorce with the slightest turbulence. Not that I'm justifying any sort of violence, but this has been the trend going on here. I bet you they can't even tell these same things to their spouses and probably take in worse. An adult will come here to seek immigration advice regarding his PERSONAL marital life with almost NO detail of the incident, and the next thing you know PC attorneys swarm in with their law degrees from IHOP to tell him to divorce. The guy has been married for a freaking week what is wrong with some of you people?

Edited April 20, 2016 by Starkilla09

[Tommal 28]

Since very early stage of affair, If a guy knows his fiancee is getting treatments for mental issues, why he should run fast to report for abusing???

[almost_umrican 54]

and to your point.how do YOU know the level??????

exactly, i don't know it either. let the adult decide it. please keep in mind that who would encourage violence ? if its a abuse. let the couple decide that. who are you or me to advice about breaking up the moment he mentioned domestic violence. i am sure you have read my other comments where i briefed what my point was.

[Adil & Jeanne 296]

Florida law makes domestic violence a criminal act rather than a private dispute. Because of this, the State Attorney’s office will go on with the prosecution even if you do not want to press charges (Domestic violence; reporting, 2013).

you may not have a choice in this

and if she continues to be abusive the police will charge her / look up the laws in Florida on this issue / i did

[Umka36 781]

Some of the posts these "married" VJ members post sometimes can make you cringe. You may wonder if they were high on bath salts when reciting their marital vows, considering the speed at how trigger itchy they are to tell someone to divorce with the slightest turbulence. Not that I'm justifying any sort of violence, but this has been the trend going on here. I bet you they can't even tell these same things to their spouses and probably take in worse. An adult will come here to seek immigration advice regarding his PERSONAL marital life with almost NO detail of the incident, and the next thing you know PC attorneys swarm in with their law degrees from IHOP to tell him to divorce. The guy has been married for a freaking week what is wrong with some of you people?

You're right he's been married a freaking week, and has already been assaulted which makes me cringe. Whether you think right or wrong, most people (including me) cannot comprehend why a person would want to stay in a relationship when they have been assaulted. I guess they say love hurts, but I never took it literally.

As an adult, I can chose to listen/read what is posted and ignore the rest. The OP can always report what he doesn't like to the moderators.

I imagine the OP has gotten what he needs.

[Umka36 781]

"the wife needs to STOP abusing the OP."

You just make it seem like it's 1 + 1. If only life were that simple. It's nobody's duty to do anything, really if you look at it from a broader perspective. The OP WANTS to stay in the marriage and I think he's an adult who can make reasonable decisions.

All I'm saying is with the limited information at hand, all the folks advising him to get out is just toxic. He got married a week ago, forget about the best wishes he just needs to divorce the woman and send her packing back to her psychiatrist is what people are saying.

My wife punched me within a week of our marriage, too and I had to call the cops to calm her down. That was nearly 4 years ago and It turned out she saw something on my FB profile and was furious about it. We have had very problems ever since. Just saying. It's better to be positive about something you don't know about than to advise someone to assume the worst case.

Sorry but assaulting someone you supposedly love is not normal to me. I've had my share of argument/disagreements with my wife, but never felt the need to hit her or vice versa. It's really that simple, because what does assaulting someone solve especially when the cops are involved.

[Caryh 5,206]

Nothing says love like helping your brand new bride beat a domestic violence rap so they won't get deported.

Edited April 20, 2016 by Caryh

[Merrytooth 5,748]

Nothing says love like helping your brand new bride beat a domestic violence rap so they won't get deported.

Hey, the USC hubby should suck it up. After all, how hard could a woman hit you, right?

[Eric-Pris 1,607]

OP, I know hindsight is 20/20. But a bit of foresight is good too. Again, this is no way to start a marriage, the AOS, or continue a relationship. I have to say I was a bit disturbed by your saying "It's only a misdemeanor...". Good luck!

My wife shot me, but it was only a .22 so I lived...