Wife arrived in the US 14 days ago. Now she is gone

[Harmonia 211]

i would report her missing to the local police in case she has issues at another residence just to protect myself

Umm, huh? She isn't missing. She left him. He agreed she should leave and even had his mother get a special pass to accompany the woman to the gate at the airport. He presumably bought her ticket.

Edited April 10, 2016 by Harmonia

[Unidentified 2,930]

What would you do in this situation if your wife were American, say from another state? You'd get divorced, right? That's the solution. Get divorced and move on. Don't go tracking her luggage and going after her in airports and getting your mom involved and getting yourself into trouble.

In any marriage, there's always 2 options. Stay married or divorce. I don't see how your marriage can recover. So option 2 it is.

She doesn't need to claim abuse to stay. She has her green card, even if it hasn't arrived. When she entered the US, she got a stamp and that serves as a green card. She can divorce you tomorrow and still remove conditions on her own. You should be happy to get divorced, sever ties, and move on from a clearly bad situation.

I agree 100%. This and the way you've treated her has made it super easy for her to claim sexual and domestic abuse.

[Deagle 508]

What would you do in this situation if your wife were American, say from another state? You'd get divorced, right? That's the solution. Get divorced and move on. Don't go tracking her luggage and going after her in airports and getting your mom involved and getting yourself into trouble.

In any marriage, there's always 2 options. Stay married or divorce. I don't see how your marriage can recover. So option 2 it is.

She doesn't need to claim abuse to stay. She has her green card, even if it hasn't arrived. When she entered the US, she got a stamp and that serves as a green card. She can divorce you tomorrow and still remove conditions on her own. You should be happy to get divorced, sever ties, and move on from a clearly bad situation.

It's hard for her to remove conditions on her own, she doesnt have any evidence of real marriage, she left the house after couple of weeks.

[Harmonia 211]

It's hard for her to remove conditions on her own, she doesnt have any evidence of real marriage, she left the house after couple of weeks.

How is this his problem once they are divorced? She's on her own. She, like anyone who is divorced, can apply to ROC on their own.

[NikLR 13,227]

Get divorced. Communicate only through lawyers. Move on. I'm sorry this happened to you.

[Harmonia 211]

I agree 100%. This and the way you've treated her has made it super easy for her to claim sexual and domestic abuse.

Absolutely! OP, you both agreed she should leave and end the relationship. Not only that, you had your mom go all the way to the gate to make sure she got on a plane. Then, you tracked her luggage and went back to the airport to see if she really got on a plane.

When you mutually agreed to end the relationship, that means she can go do whatever she wants. Its her decision to get on a plane, or not, or talk to her family friends, or not. You can't control what she does, where she goes, who she is with. You and your family following this woman around could absolutely be seen as controlling behavior. That's why the police told you to stay away from her. Divorce. Move on. Its not your concern what she does or doesn't do. Its not your concern if she tricked you, or how or if she will ROC, its over.

Was it fraud or not should be the last of your concerns. You wanted her gone, and she is gone. It sounds like the ideal outcome, the outcome you wanted so badly you had your mom make sure she left.

Edited April 10, 2016 by Harmonia

[WandY 430]

This post is BS. Fiction. Read again and see the contradictions.

[N and J 88]

I agree 100%. This and the way you've treated her has made it super easy for her to claim sexual and domestic abuse.

Please do explain, unless I am missing something what exactly he wrote (maybe he edited it) that says anything about sexual or domestic abuse? Not exactly sure how it would be super easy for her to claim any form of abuse. Having an argument through a text (keep in mind we don't know what was said other than she was going home) does not meet the criteria for domestic abuse. People have arguments in relationships doesn't mean he abused her. If you are referring to him saying she never "initiated sex" of course women don't want to be nagged but most people want to be touched and intimate with their spouse. At least, I have always learned that was a normal way of exchanging a certain level of intimacy. Again, does not meet the criteria for sexual abuse. Now if he did other things like touching, saying things, or trying to force her to have sex with him that is abuse and saying things to her to make her uncomfortable is sexual harassment.

[almost_umrican 54]

For a shy person, you are quick to share intimate details.

I would divorce her as soon as possible and move on, it seems you two never had the same goals.

haha, right on but come on. Also , OP, you have been duped and not sure what kind of advice are you looking for here.

[Jjbarlow74 1]

I am wondering what to do now. Divorce or annulment? Do I contact ICE and USCIS about marriage fraud? I signed an affadavit of support but we only lived together for 2 weeks after she arrived. Will she get her permanent green card in 2 years or be deported? My Mother who knows her family in Vietnam heard that she is telling people I was making her have sex with her five times a day. which is not true. I have a job and work long hours so usually I just want to take a shower and go to bed when I get home. Which is why I am worried about her claiming sexual abuse and getting a permanent green card through the VAWA program. Can I withdraw the affadavit of support?

[Harmonia 211]

I am wondering what to do now. Divorce or annulment? Do I contact ICE and USCIS about marriage fraud? I signed an affadavit of support but we only lived together for 2 weeks after she arrived. Will she get her permanent green card in 2 years or be deported? My Mother who knows her family in Vietnam heard that she is telling people I was making her have sex with her five times a day. which is not true. I have a job and work long hours so usually I just want to take a shower and go to bed when I get home. Which is why I am worried about her claiming sexual abuse and getting a permanent green card through the VAWA program. Can I withdraw the affadavit of support?

1) You've been married 2 years. Talk to a family law attorney. You will not get an annulment. Get a divorce.

2) No.

3) No one knows if she will get her permanent green card. Not your problem once you divorce. She can apply to remove conditions (ROC) for permanent greencard without you.

4) VAWA is not for removal of conditions for a 10 year green card.

5) No.

The irony is she would have gotten a 10 year green card if she'd entered the country in May, once you'd been married 2 years, instead of April.

Edited April 10, 2016 by Harmonia

[NikLR 13,227]

I am wondering what to do now. Divorce or annulment? Do I contact ICE and USCIS about marriage fraud? I signed an affadavit of support but we only lived together for 2 weeks after she arrived. Will she get her permanent green card in 2 years or be deported? My Mother who knows her family in Vietnam heard that she is telling people I was making her have sex with her five times a day. which is not true. I have a job and work long hours so usually I just want to take a shower and go to bed when I get home. Which is why I am worried about her claiming sexual abuse and getting a permanent green card through the VAWA program. Can I withdraw the affadavit of support?

Divorce, you've been married for almost 2 years. There is no basis for annulment. You can contact ICE if you choose but unless you have actual evidence, beyond her not actually leaving the USA, which she doesn't have to do, how exactly are you going to prove she committed fraud?

She HAS a green card. There is nothing you can do about that. She can't claim VAWA like people are saying because she already HAS a green card. For her ROC, well let her deal with that and don't do anything else. She can CLAIM whatever she wants, but she has to prove it too. Stop talking to her except through lawyers. No you cannot withdraw the affidavit of support, she has a green card.

[depressed_lost 12]

Divorce and move on. And next time, don't have "expectations" about how many times you should be intimate. If it happens it happens and shouldn't be nagged about. I know that it's clear she was with you for other reasons than love but for future reference women don't want to be nagged about it

Did you see him nagging her?why don't you just keep quiet instead of lecturing people around here...No one needs your lectures...OP never asked if women want to be nagged or no or how women should be treated....duh he knows she was with him for other reasons...

[Lee&Ana 88]

haha, right on but come on. Also , OP, you have been duped and not sure what kind of advice are you looking for here.

He is mainly looking to vent and receive moral support because he was taken for a ride and that is a terrible feeling.

[Cathi 5,748]

There is really nothing you can do other than divorce and move on. In 2 years she will need to remove conditions(or sooner if the divorce becomes final before then with a divorce waiver), she will have a very difficult time removing conditions on her own seeing that you only lived together for a few weeks. If you opened any joint accounts-bank, credit cards, insurance, cell phone, rental agrements-remove her name. As NLR stated do not have any contact with her or her family unless it is through an attorney. Good luck!

Edited April 10, 2016 by mimolicious