STUBBORN WIFE!!!

[depressed_lost 12]

My husband's health insurance through his work costs him $50 a month - to add me would be an additional $300 a month!!!! (CRAZY BUT TRUE). Your wife wasn't lying on that one believe me!

Thanks a lot I guess I will do my separate.

[depressed_lost 12]

Do you have a job? If yes, you can buy your own health insurance through your work which is cheaper.

Then buy your own car and car insurance.

And since when life insurance has to list spouse as beneficiary?

Hi! thanks for your reply.Well I am waiting for my EAD and will start a job asap.Yes I know about the Car and Health insurance after job,it's just that I was worried if it will create problem in my ROC having separate.I don't know about life insurance,one of the member here suggested me to do that.

[LionessDeon 2,060]

It doesn't sound typical to me and not all Americans are like that. Not wanting intimacy, grumpy around you, and not wanting to help you doesn't sound like love at all.

Does her health insurance plan have a "two person" option? This is usually cheaper than a family plan.

Sounds like some marriage counseling is in order.

[Transborderwife 4,666]

It doesn't sound typical to me and not all Americans are like that. Not wanting intimacy, grumpy around you, and not wanting to help you doesn't sound like love at all.

Does her health insurance plan have a "two person" option? This is usually cheaper than a family plan.

Sounds like some marriage counseling is in order.

Definitely find out about the two person option. In my experience usually it's the same wether for two people or three or four, sometimes even getting a break the more people who are on it.

Counselling sounds like a good route.

[Russ&Caro 1,549]

You said she has a pension. You should sit down with her and ask her who is the beneficiary for her pension. Every pension has a stated beneficiary in case the pensioner should die prematurely. If her beneficiary is a parent or another close relative and she wants to keep it that way, then fine, don't bug her further about it. But if she doesn't know who her beneficiary is, or for some reason she has never listed a beneficiary, then perhaps you can explain this logically to her that it should be you.

You're getting a lot of good advice from others, above. Good luck.

[depressed_lost 12]

It doesn't sound typical to me and not all Americans are like that. Not wanting intimacy, grumpy around you, and not wanting to help you doesn't sound like love at all.

Does her health insurance plan have a "two person" option? This is usually cheaper than a family plan.

Sounds like some marriage counseling is in order.

I have no idea if her Health Insurance plan has a two person option or not..How can I find it? I know if I ask her then she is gonna be snappy and I don't want that.I am quite sure she will not agree for a Marriage Counseling because according to her she is always right and nothing she does is wrong.

Definitely find out about the two person option. In my experience usually it's the same wether for two people or three or four, sometimes even getting a break the more people who are on it.

Counselling sounds like a good route.

Thanks but she will never agree for a Marriage Counseling because according to her she is always right and nothing she does is wrong.

[Transborderwife 4,666]

How long has this been going on for?

[depressed_lost 12]

You said she has a pension. You should sit down with her and ask her who is the beneficiary for her pension. Every pension has a stated beneficiary in case the pensioner should die prematurely. If her beneficiary is a parent or another close relative and she wants to keep it that way, then fine, don't bug her further about it. But if she doesn't know who her beneficiary is, or for some reason she has never listed a beneficiary, then perhaps you can explain this logically to her that it should be you.

You're getting a lot of good advice from others, above. Good luck.

Hi!! I did not say she has a pension.I think you are confused.In fact I don't know if she has one or not or how it works in USA.All I want is that If I start a new life here and give 2 years of my life and establish myself then I do not want to be send back just because my wife didn't want to do something which she was supposed to do in order to remove the conditions.

[depressed_lost 12]

How long has this been going on for?

Since long time and before we ever got married and I ever came to USA.She kept on telling me that it's work related and she will be fine once she changes her job and now she is in new job and in something she wanted to do and still it's the same.Now she has work related stress again.She got fired once from the new job because according to her employer she was slow and was not handling and doing the job properly and then she got a job in another department and still it is the same story.I completely understand when some one is under stress they become irritable but how come when her family is around she is all laughing and cracking jokes?where is the stress then?

[Transborderwife 4,666]

Sounds like a personality disorder of some sort. Perhaps she regrets the decision of the responsibility of immigration. Do you want to divorce?

[Boiler 45,912]

An arranged marriage?

[depressed_lost 12]

Sounds like a personality disorder of some sort. Perhaps she regrets the decision of the responsibility of immigration. Do you want to divorce?

I am very confused what to do.I love her and married her only for my love.I decided to wait for some more time and thought may be things will improve and she will understand but I don't know if this will ever happen.Her mom is married to her dad but she lives separate with her boyfriend and her mom always says " all men are ####### and dirt". Though she seems to like me a lot and tells me that I am like a blessing and like a son she never had and blah blah.But I am sure she has taught her daughters that "All men are ####### and dirt".In the past when me and my wife had a fight and weren't talking to each other she told her not to give in without even listening to my side of the story and later claimed shes not partial towards anyone.I don't know if her mom is pretending to be nice and on my back telling her something else.When I talked to her mom and told her what is happening she said she is sorry and she did not know about our relationship problems after getting married and told me that she will talk to her when she sees her.She talked to her but she never gave me any feed back about the outcome of her conversation with her daughter.All she kept on telling me is that "her daughter is like that since childhood"so i should cook nice food of her choice when she comes home and do this and that and i told her I am already doing this.She was like women are like this and women are like that and blah blah.I don't know what to do.

[OnMyWayID 1,489]

the money questions should be easy: what is cheaper, adding you to her health insurance or you getting your own? Same with auto insurance.. Though I was not aware it was possible to have two different policies on one car - and if you are only covering one person on a car and the other person is driving and is an accident it will not be covered.

These two are basic no brainers usually If you are treating the relationship as a unit and not as two separate people. She either has a fear from how things have gone down in the past or has a different plan for the future.

Edited March 28, 2016 by OnMyWayID

[depressed_lost 12]

An arranged marriage?

No it's a love marriage.we met online and knew each other for 7 years and met in person 3 times for short period.I am indian and she is caucasian.

[depressed_lost 12]

Sounds like a personality disorder of some sort. Perhaps she regrets the decision of the responsibility of immigration. Do you want to divorce?

I strongly believe now that she has some mental issues.I don't know why she wants me in her life when she does not love me.