Intergenerational Gay Fiancee K1 Visa Process Questions

[capriwithlove 4]

Hi there, Visa Journey!

I am very new to this site, however I've been aware and using its wonderful resources for a few years now! Finally glad to be able to contribute and ask important questions.

A brief story about my fiancee's and my K1 journey thus far: we met on an older-younger gay dating app awhile back. We had conversed almost constantly (ha!) over the next few weeks and had since spent over three weeks together in person thus far. We're 40 years apart - I have always been only attracted to men much older than me and of course my fiancee is no different. We absolutely adore one another and we are happy to be taking our commitment to one another in a more lawful way. We have been engaged as of last week and everything is going smoothly. I was unfortunately denied entry into the States from Canada, since they knew I was visiting my partner (at the time) and I am currently temporarily unemployed and living at home. I didn't get banned or anything like that, just they said next time I attempt to get into the USA to have sufficient evidence of ties. We're very close to sending off our petition, but all is looking quite excellent. Tons of documentation - including AirBNB, restaurant and car rental receipts, FaceTime logs and screenshots, photos with us and my family all together, iMessage screenshots and so forth! We're very excited. It's been very difficult, as I'm sure many of you are aware of from personal experience - we are ready to commit to one another and begin a life together, but it's been put on pause! I've gotten over the stress, but it comes up a few times a day still! Just, the feeling of missing out on his life and experiences we could be having together, but all-in-all knowing we are doing this for the long-term (any advice to help cope with the stress of being away from your partner for so long? that could be very helpful for me, ha!) !

Anyone else have an age difference K1 experience?

So, my questions are as follows :

• can I visit him before/after the K1 visa petition is submitted? if I happen to get denied again can they ban me or deny my K1 visa petition AT ALL?
• will our age difference be in any way an issue?
• we have much evidence of our bonafide relationship, however would it be a good idea to include letters from friends (affidavits of witness) to say how I've always been attracted to older men? or screenshots to show how long I've been using the older-younger dating sites?
• would it be good to note in the interview that being gay already puts you into a smaller group of mates to seek, hence naturally finding mates across countries makes more sense? especially older-younger
• any idea how long the California - Ontario K1 visa is taking?
  

Thanks so much! Very appreciated.

Edited March 26, 2016 by capriwithlove

[Shauneg 762]

Hi there, Visa Journey!

I am very new to this site, however I've been aware and using its wonderful resources for a few years now! Finally glad to be able to contribute and ask important questions.

A brief story about my fiancee's and my K1 journey thus far: we met on an older-younger gay dating app awhile back. We had conversed almost constantly (ha!) over the next few weeks and had since spent over three weeks together in person thus far. We're 40 years apart - I have always been only attracted to men much older than me and of course my fiancee is no different. We absolutely adore one another and we are happy to be taking our commitment to one another in a more lawful way. We have been engaged as of last week and everything is going smoothly. I was unfortunately denied entry into the States from Canada, since they knew I was visiting my partner (at the time) and I am currently temporarily unemployed and living at home. I didn't get banned or anything like that, just they said next time I attempt to get into the USA to have sufficient evidence of ties. We're very close to sending off our petition, but all is looking quite excellent. Tons of documentation - including AirBNB, restaurant and car rental receipts, FaceTime logs and screenshots, photos with us and my family all together, iMessage screenshots and so forth! We're very excited. It's been very difficult, as I'm sure many of you are aware of from personal experience - we are ready to commit to one another and begin a life together, but it's been put on pause! I've gotten over the stress, but it comes up a few times a day still! Just, the feeling of missing out on his life and experiences we could be having together, but all-in-all knowing we are doing this for the long-term (any advice to help cope with the stress of being away from your partner for so long? that could be very helpful for me, ha!) !

Anyone else have an age difference K1 experience?

So, my questions are as follows :

• can I visit him before/after the K1 visa petition is submitted? if I happen to get denied again can they ban me or deny my K1 visa petition AT ALL?
• will our age difference be in any way an issue?
• we have much evidence of our bonafide relationship, however would it be a good idea to include letters from friends (affidavits of witness) to say how I've always been attracted to older men? or screenshots to show how long I've been using the older-younger dating sites?
• would it be good to note in the interview that being gay already puts you into a smaller group of mates to seek, hence naturally finding mates across countries makes more sense? especially older-younger
• any idea how long the California - Ontario K1 visa is taking?

Thanks so much! Very appreciated.

Sexual Orientation doesn't mean anything.

[Penguin_ie 5,993]

• can I visit him before/after the K1 visa petition is submitted? if I happen to get denied again can they ban me or deny my K1 visa petition AT ALL?

- You can technically visit, but the requirements of ties will be stronger. They can ban you if you lie, and that could also affect a K1. If you simply get turned away from the border a second time, it should not affect the K1, because you;d get turned away for immigrant intent, and the K1 is for immigrating.

• will our age difference be in any way an issue?

- Yes-ish; less so because you are of a similar culture, and in Western Society, age differences are generally ok. Plus as a gay couple, the "being able to bear children" question is irrelevant. You might still get some extra questions about how you see the age difference working long term,

• we have much evidence of our bonafide relationship, however would it be a good idea to include letters from friends (affidavits of witness) to say how I've always been attracted to older men? or screenshots to show how long I've been using the older-younger dating sites?

- Letters from friends mean little. Time spent together is best. They do not want to know about your previous dating habits.

• would it be good to note in the interview that being gay already puts you into a smaller group of mates to seek, hence naturally finding mates across countries makes more sense? especially older-younger

- I wouldn't push the topic, but you might mention it if it comes up, for example if they ask how you met and why you were on that app.

• any idea how long the California - Ontario K1 visa is taking?

- No personal experience, usually about 6 months.

[yuna628 9,676]

OP: They will not care about your relationship preferences. That's not what they are asking for.

The question is: have you physically met each other within two years of filing this petition? And do you have evidence of meeting each other for this time period? It sounds like you have that covered.

Your application is sent to the Dallas Lockbox, and then is routed to a service center. That service center is currently California, which is usually fairly fast. A few weeks to a few months to process depending on the complexity or if addition evidence is needed. Then you'll have the rest of the process to complete, so wait times there will all depend on your medical process/embassy interview.

[mariachrin 4]

I can't believe they denied you entry! Were you flying or crossing the border by car? Because I always cross the border by car and I've been interrogated at times but never denied entry. :\

[NikLR 13,227]

People get denied entry. Even saylin who wrote the NVC process wiki was denied entry twice via land entry.

My ex sil was denied entry one day, told to bring proof she hadn't overstayed, and the next day no one cared to look at it and she was let through.

OP dont push this age difference thing and your partner preferences too much. It's really not necessary. Read penguin's post. She has great advice.

[baron555 934]

• can I visit him before/after the K1 visa petition is submitted?
• Sure, if you're allowed entry.
• if I happen to get denied again can they ban me or deny my K1 visa petition AT ALL?
• Usually not unless your found to be a terrorist or are smuggling in contraband or get on an international do not allow in list.
• will our age difference be in any way an issue?
• Usually not.
• we have much evidence of our bonafide relationship, however would it be a good idea to include letters from friends (affidavits of witness) to say how I've always been attracted to older men?
• No, none of their business and they won't be concerned with your details. Why create an issue when there isn't any?
• or screenshots to show how long I've been using the older-younger dating sites?
• Again, why create an issue?
• would it be good to note in the interview that being gay already puts you into a smaller group of mates to seek, hence naturally finding mates across countries makes more sense? especially older-younger
• It's against US law to discriminate against same sex couples. Don't create an issue.
• any idea how long the California - Ontario K1 visa is taking?
• Plan for 10 months and be happy with 5.

Thanks so much! Very appreciated.