2 years in the US

[Artlover 0]

I know someone who works for Odesk and earn $400/week. it's not a lot but would help you. The thing is, you need to clear the situation with your husband. You are supposed to help each other and support each other. If he is not willing to support you in what you want to do, ask why does he not want to do it? Then maybe everything will be clearer. Right now, you're sort of guessing what's the problem.

I need to look up what odesk is , hopefully I will find a job there. Thanks

[POA 178]

I need to look up what odesk is , hopefully I will find a job there. Thanks

There are a lot of different jobs there. If you are technically inclined, apple offers work from home too. Check their website.

[Boiler 46,034]

I cycled a lot when I first got here.

[thelilyofdvalley 0]

Hi,

I am sorry to hear that your husband is treating you like that. Well, your situation is like mine too. I am going to be 2 years in the U.S.A. I got my 10 year green card. I got my learner's permit recently, my husband does not teach me to drive or he has too many excuses whenever I ask him to drive with me. I have a friend at work who helps me with my driving and so far I am getting there. My husband does not even want me to get my own car once I get license but oh well bohooo, I am getting my own whatever he say as I had enough of begging him to drive me around. Anyway, maybe you can find Filipinos close to your place, just search groups on FB, that is how I met Filipinas in my town.

[POA 178]

Hi,

I am sorry to hear that your husband is treating you like that. Well, your situation is like mine too. I am going to be 2 years in the U.S.A. I got my 10 year green card. I got my learner's permit recently, my husband does not teach me to drive or he has too many excuses whenever I ask him to drive with me. I have a friend at work who helps me with my driving and so far I am getting there. My husband does not even want me to get my own car once I get license but oh well bohooo, I am getting my own whatever he say as I had enough of begging him to drive me around. Anyway, maybe you can find Filipinos close to your place, just search groups on FB, that is how I met Filipinas in my town.

It isn't easy to move here knowing that all you have is your spouse. But they have to at least try to make our move easier. I didn't get a car until I needed it. It cost a lot to get one and to maintain one. My husband was terrified when he was teaching me and I got so upset that I told him I wanted to go home just because I got so stressed oujt in practicing. lol. Once you get your license, he won't be able to do anything to stop you from getting a car specially if you have a job and can afford one. I'd probably do the same thing if my husband disagrees about me getting my own though I rarely use it now. hehe

Oh and one thing, sometimes reverse psychology works.

Edited March 27, 2016 by POA

[traveler100 20]

Where I come from, there's a saying, "Two hands can clap"

[Eric-Pris 1,607]

If he doesn't pay you for your work, why do you keep doing it? Use your time to actually make money.

Get a job, make some money, and pay for driving lessons.

As long as you don't drive, you are dependent on him. He has total control over you.

[Artlover 0]

If he doesn't pay you for your work, why do you keep doing it? Use your time to actually make money.

Get a job, make some money, and pay for driving lessons.

As long as you don't drive, you are dependent on him. He has total control over you.

I just feel like I owe him the fact that I live in his house and the food in the table. I know , sometimes I tell myself that what I do for him is more than enough but I feel obligated. I need to start investing my time on my own benefits.

I feel so depressed too when he shows anger and things like that at me. I will try my best to make some money and hopefully I make enough soon so I can help my self to learn to drive and get a car .

[POA 178]

I just feel like I owe him the fact that I live in his house and the food in the table. I know , sometimes I tell myself that what I do for him is more than enough but I feel obligated. I need to start investing my time on my own benefits.

I feel so depressed too when he shows anger and things like that at me. I will try my best to make some money and hopefully I make enough soon so I can help my self to learn to drive and get a car .

You are married and he signed the I-864. Married couple are supposed to support each other. You don't owe him anything because he is not doing anything to help you help him with the expenses. Obviously, you need his help to make it easier for you but you can also do it on your own, it will just tougher.

Did you try talking to him to know the reason why he doesn't want to help you drive? Specially you have a kid. I got my license 3 months after I got here and my husband's reason is, if anything happened to him, I will be able to survive easy since I would know how to drive. You have a kid so you need to be at least not dependent on him all the time.

Edited March 28, 2016 by POA

[Caryh 5,206]

I'd focus on work from home opportunities. You do have a child, which would require child care if you start working outside the home. That could negate every bit of income you make outside. I'm not sure if money is tight and your husband is worried about the rise in insurance costs if another driver is added. Its a possibility I guess. Sounds short sighted to me, that he isn't helping you on this path in learning to drive. I was a bit worried it would raise my insurance too, but when we added my wife to the insurance after she got her license, both the agent and I were surprised our rates went down. But when you start finding work from home opportunities, start putting that money away for driving lessons. I wasn't a very good instructor teaching my wife how to drive in the USA. She did drive in the Philippines, but that was totally a different type of driving that taught her a lot of bad habits for driving here. I ended up buying her some behind the wheel lessons, and the instructor was excellent. Even after she got her license, she didn't feel ready to drive on USA roads, so there was another month of her practicing before she began driving herself to work. Luckily she wasn't learning everything from scratch, or it may have taken even more lessons to get her up to speed and able to pass the driving test, all needing scarce extra dollars at the time.

Having two drivers adds some nice flexibility to a family, having a second car even more. But both can come with costs associated with it. Have you discussed why your husband has been reluctant to help you get your drivers license?

[Artlover 0]

We've been together for 2 years and have a baby. But it seems like he doesn't trust me on anything. we dont have a joint account, he pays the bills and until now he wouldn't teach me how to drive. I don't know why he treats me like a servant.

[Transborderwife 4,666]

You follow the advice given on the last thread that you posted.

[cristina16 81]

I don't know why he treats me like a servant. - because you allows it. Stand up for yourself.

[JFH 12,191]

Funny how these things happen at the 2-year mark.

If he won't teach you to drive, get someone else to do it. Get a job and pay an instructor. Or get a friend to to teach you. It doesn't have to be your husband.

Have you actually told him how you feel? Have you told him you feel like you are his servant? I don't know what else to say. I assume he is working to support the three of you. It's only natural that he will expect you to do all the chores at home if he is making all the money at work all day. Who does what share of the chores is the kind of thing you should have discussed before engagement and marriage.

Edited March 30, 2016 by JFH

[Ontarkie 14,440]

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