Wife cheating & threatening divorce

[almost_umrican 54]

Guys, the OP has not even participated in this , May be he is flew back already or the couple had a patch up

[Festinoh 1]

Try to talk things out with your spouse,If she start cheating on you then it seem you are not doing something right.Since the marriage was done on truth and realness then you have to put it in prayer because most times the spiritual world controls the physical.You need to be prayerful and what God has joined together nobody cud put assunder.

[Caryh 5,206]

Sorry, where is the abuse? At least from his words, she's not using his immigration status to control, blackmail or extort him in any way.

Her saying that he will be sent packing is the truth. It may not be the nicest thing to say, but I can't imagine this would even come close to qualifying as a VAWA.

I don't think you even read a word I wrote. Maybe you just like to argue. Where did I say it applied to him? I have said in theory and have said the idea of using immigration status to control someone, not once have I said this would apply in his case. If you use immigration status threats in order to control someone, you are abusing them and opening up a possible VAWA path to stay.

http://www.alllaw.com/articles/nolo/us-immigration/abuses-qualify-immigrant-vawa-protection.html

Immigration Control as Abuse

The very reason for VAWA's enactment was the tendency of abusers to use their control over the victim's immigration status as a means of leverage. Abusers may threaten to call the authorities, and tell the immigrant lies about his or her rights in the U.S., such as the right to social services and protection by the police and U.S. courts.

[Unidentified 2,930]

I don't think you even read a word I wrote. Maybe you just like to argue. Where did I say it applied to him? I have said in theory and have said the idea of using immigration status to control someone, not once have I said this would apply in his case. If you use immigration status threats in order to control someone, you are abusing them and opening up a possible VAWA path to stay.

http://www.alllaw.com/articles/nolo/us-immigration/abuses-qualify-immigrant-vawa-protection.html

Immigration Control as Abuse

The very reason for VAWA's enactment was the tendency of abusers to use their control over the victim's immigration status as a means of leverage. Abusers may threaten to call the authorities, and tell the immigrant lies about his or her rights in the U.S., such as the right to social services and protection by the police and U.S. courts.

Let's try to help the person who started this thread and not post a bunch of hypothetical stuff that doesn't even apply to him.

[Cathi 5,771]

Why are people arguing when the OP hasn't been back since he posted? The OP asked a question and he got his answer. He must go home. Why are people even bringing up VAWA?

[Caryh 5,206]

Let's try to help the person who started this thread and not post a bunch of hypothetical stuff that doesn't even apply to him.

Because it could apply to him. He hasn't exactly given the full story. And his options are divorce and go home or if there are grounds adjust status via VAWA. VAWA is not just for people who are beat up by their spouse.

[Unidentified 2,930]

Because it could apply to him. He hasn't exactly given the full story. And his options are divorce and go home or if there are grounds adjust status via VAWA. VAWA is not just for people who are beat up by their spouse.

A moment ago you pointed out it did not apply to him. Which is correct, there's absolutely no indication of abuse.

VAWA stands for Violence Against Women Act (Includes men too) lets not rename it "Pretend to be abused so I can get a Green Card act".

[Boiler 45,770]

How about applying for a U Visa?

[Unlockable 7,315]

I don't think VAWA applies to the OP unless he comes back and post actual abuse. His wife did not use his immigration status to leverage anything. She simply stated she wanted a divorce which is her right. "Sending him packing" to go home is actually factual because without AOS he does have to go back to his country. it wasn't nice, but it was factual.

And I do agree that VAWA gets incorrectly thrown around too much on this forum.

Edited March 22, 2016 by NuestraUnion

[Alaska2012 462]

The dude doesn't want to go back! He managed to land a tourist visa and considering where he's from that's pretty huge. Then he came here and tried to stay! If he goes back he'll never get another tourist visa to the US!

[Unidentified 2,930]

The dude doesn't want to go back! He managed to land a tourist visa and considering where he's from that's pretty huge. Then he came here and tried to stay! If he goes back he'll never get another tourist visa to the US!

We don't always get what we want.

[Alaska2012 462]

I know! I think op came here to get some creative ideas on how to eat the cookie and still have it!

[Cheezees 1,514]

Maybe the mods should step in as the insults are flying now. The OP (and others) should know by now that if the wife files for divorce, he has to go back home. No abuse, no AOS, no green card.

[dwheels76 5,468]

I think a K1 can stay if he/she can prove they entered into the marriage with bonafide intent and adjust on their own

No such thing s adjusting status on your own, You might be thinking the Removal of conditions.

[Cathi 5,771]

Because it could apply to him. He hasn't exactly given the full story. And his options are divorce and go home or if there are grounds adjust status via VAWA. VAWA is not just for people who are beat up by their spouse.

but why even put the idea in someone's head when no one said a word about abuse? Seriously??? The guy's wife cheated on him and he wanted to know his options. There is only one. Go home. Cheating is not abuse