Wife cheating & threatening divorce

[tlammby 19]

I thank you for the good work you have been doing here.....pls I have some problems and need candid advise and options available to me to deal with this issue. I met my wife (USC) sometimes in March 2014 when I visited US for the second time....we fell in love....she asked me to stay and we got married in Feb 2015. The marriage is legit...We submitted applications for my GC in July 2015 thou we haven't been called for interview yet but I have received my EAD.....my wife has started cheating....I have talked to her severally but always deny it....now I have confirmed it.....saw several messages/conversations and pictures message with her private parts sent to the guy....when I confronted her with all what she was denying.....she was threatening me with divorce. She said "I am asking for divorce and after that you would be sent parking by Immigration". Kindly advise me on what to do & options available to me. Thank you in advance

[kzielu 1,149]

No options. Divorce and go home.

[Unidentified 2,930]

Unfortunately there's nothing you can do. You can't stop her from divorcing you and with a pending AOS you don't really have a status in the US which means you will have to go back to your home country. And frankly, do you really want to be with someone who clearly doesn't love you anymore? I know you're in the US now, probably took a lot to get her. But if the same situation happened in your home country I bet you wouldn't stay with her.

[NigeriaorBust 4,087]

Did you come on a K!?

[tomyka81 95]

Sounds like a tourist or business visa then stayed and married.

[Unidentified 2,930]

Doesn't really matter what visa they came on. They do not have an approved AOS.

[tomyka81 95]

I think a K1 can stay if he/she can prove they entered into the marriage with bonafide intent and adjust on their own

[Transborderwife 4,666]

I think a K1 can stay if he/she can prove they entered into the marriage with bonafide intent and adjust on their own

Nope. Not without already having an approved greencard in hand.

[almost_umrican 54]

No options. Divorce and go home.

you can put that across in a nice way

[Unidentified 2,930]

you can put that across in a nice way

Why sugarcoat the truth?

[Cheezees 1,514]

This is not a woman I would want to stay married to. No one who loves you would threaten deportation. People hurt each other all the time but there are limits to what one spouse does and then says to another. If I were you I would divorce her and move back to my country. You have no legal grounds to stay, and in my opinion, no emotional ties either.

[almost_umrican 54]

Why sugarcoat the truth?

This is not what i meant. he might have a way to settle down here (by book), i don't know. Hundreds of people does that. Let the USCIS decide who will will go home or not. what you put was not helpful which is the essence of this forum.

[Unidentified 2,930]

This is not what i meant. he might have a way to settle down here (by book), i don't know. Hundreds of people does that. Let the USCIS decide who will will go home or not. what you put was not helpful which is the essence of this forum.

I didn't write it, I'm just asking why the person who wrote it should sugarcoat the truth?

If the wife divorces him before his AOS is approved he has no legal status and would have to go home if he does not want problems further down the road.

[Caryh 5,206]

This is not what i meant. he might have a way to settle down here (by book), i don't know. Hundreds of people does that. Let the USCIS decide who will will go home or not. what you put was not helpful which is the essence of this forum.

He has no legal path to stay if his wife divorces him. He was a K-1, the only path to legally stay is through marriage with the petitioner, and he must be married when the green card is issued. Unless it was a case of abuse, but nothing of the sort was alleged by him. Infidelity is not abuse.

[Unidentified 2,930]

He has no legal path to stay if his wife divorces him. He was a K-1, the only path to legally stay is through marriage with the petitioner, and he must be married when the green card is issued. Unless it was a case of abuse, but nothing of the sort was alleged by him. Infidelity is not abuse.

Not that it matters but it doesn't sound like the OP came on a K1.