Crying!

[CarolineM 0]

Sure I cried because i missed him...but like Becs said...not over the paperwork. It's not the easiest process in the world, but trust me it's worth it.

[klea 0]

Does anyone else spend time crying over all this visa stuff? Sometimes I just feel like spending the day in my bed crying over the visa and how frustrating it can be. I mean planning a wedding is difficult enough, and then to have all this extra paperwork, planning and money to spend. Not to mention, trying to plan something around the world and not knowing when things will go through... ARGHHHH! I know it will be worth it when we are finally together in the US and I know it will just make us a stronger couple, but it's just so tough sometimes! Sorry, this is a little off topic I suppose, but I just want to know I'm not the only one out here crying!

No, you’re not the only one crying...it is difficult indeed, the whole process, the whole idea that actually I have to move abroad for good and get married (change of location and marital status at once is not small thing)....I haven’t been even for a walk anywhere in weeks, living some kind of withdrawn life, lost contact with many of my friends, have the feeling that nobody can understand me and our situation and not even have the will to explain....than, decreased productivity at work (I have to be honest for this one), haven’t been interested for nothing but “the petition” and everything connected to it...and of course: the difference in time zones were killing us....like living 2 lives at the same time...

Lot’s of trouble and worries of how to prove that we’re actually communicating because the petitioner is naturalized USC and we talk in our native language not in English due to no possibility of submitting e-mails or some kind of evidence that other couples usually can.

Being scared, being totally scared all the time how things will turn, RFE’s...and than again...what my life will be like in the States being all alone, without possibility to work for some time, change of mentality and lifestyle, insecurity for my English proficiency or having an accent or even computer skills or drivers skills, or any other capability that a person can normally rely on when being in their home country...it hurts like hell ALL the time without him ...and I can’t stop crying sometimes...

He can afford I suppose to be absent or relaxed or even not really interested in details that I’m trying to explain sometimes when having our video-chats (he’s at home of course and he knows how his officials work, he's been through it - I’m on stand-by right now or at least I feel like being on crossroad) I’m the one that simply can not afford it..... or maybe he just wants to send me a signal that everything is going to be great and suppress his own feelings of loneliness because of me.....and I can’t stop worrying about everything all the time...it hurts and it’s a very bad feeling.

I guess the whole journey and the separation time just makes us stronger as individuals being on our own most of the time, more patient with each other and better couple after all.

...so, no, you’re not the only one...

[KarenCee 3]

Sometimes I used to cry over missing him. I never cried over immigration paperwork during the visa phase.

I've cried, cussed and exploded over AOS.

Oh I can attest to this very same sentiment. I never cried over the paperwork...it was just something we had to do. It was missing him so much that would bring on the tears at times.

Oh gawd, don't get me started on AOS!

[J&D_anon 0]

ohhhhhhhhhhhh.....believe me....I know how that feels. I already cried alot of times, because I miss my baby soooooo damn much and this journey just wont end. Then when we finally thought, that we would get our NOA2 we received a RFE just yesterday. I was so damn frustrated, that I cried the hell out of me!!!

I even lost pounds, because that sh!t is stressing me out.

Getting everything done by the time the interview MIGHT be (selling car, quit all contracts, getting rid of job and apartment....MOVING OUT) It's just sooo much at a time, that when I have a minute for myself, I just can't any different than to cry. Because then I realize how much I miss your loved one and it breaks down on me!!!

Hang in there.....we have no other choice than to wait and suffer and hope for the time to fly by!!!!

Diana

[Udella&Wiz 325]

Everyone feels frustrated and depressed sometimes over all this. I know my fiancee has broken down over all the stress of Visa, Wedding and Work things to take care of. I have felt very down sometimes. For us we have decided to postpone the big ceremony and celebration and concentrate on the visa and employment. We are looking at maybe doing something on our 1 year anniversary for everyone else to celebrate our marriage. It's just too much to deal with at the moment. Hang in there and VJ has been a HUGE help. Many thanks to all of you on here.

Edited March 13, 2007 by Udella&Wiz

[DakotaK1 1]

Well you know it is very understanding being sp upset we all wish we could set a date for our wedding and all...

But you have to see it this way,it is gonna be your last time in your home country...you actually should try and enjoy it.Go and see things there go and visit your friends etc etc.

Try to do things to get your mind off things,things that you like doing and NO not sitting infront of the Pc and checking on the USCIS site.

Think about it this way what is this short time gonna be compared to the long time you then will finally have with your man NOTHING.

I myself try to make the best out of my time,it will go by and if you really try not to worry about it too much time will go by faster trust me.

All the best!!!!

[J&D_anon 0]

Well you know it is very understanding being sp upset we all wish we could set a date for our wedding and all...

But you have to see it this way,it is gonna be your last time in your home country...you actually should try and enjoy it.Go and see things there go and visit your friends etc etc.

Try to do things to get your mind off things,things that you like doing and NO not sitting infront of the Pc and checking on the USCIS site.

Think about it this way what is this short time gonna be compared to the long time you then will finally have with your man NOTHING.

I myself try to make the best out of my time,it will go by and if you really try not to worry about it too much time will go by faster trust me.

All the best!!!!

Thank youuuuuuuuuuu

Diana

[msu17 0]

All I have to say is.... Visa, applying for med school, finishing my masters and planning a wedding... All in all, this =

[DakotaK1 1]

I dont have a timeline yet,we are re-submitting our papers this week...got it kinda messed up the first time...as soon as I have a timeline I will submit mine

[Moonie 0]

No I have never cried over this process so far. I have missed him terribly but have never cried.

[DakotaK1 1]

@ Diana do you mind me asking what you got an RFE for? I am always curious,figured people would get an RFE before the NOA1,maybe I am wrong.You can send me a PM if you want.

[JODO 2]

There is no way I could plan a wedding while going through the visa process and then basically jumping back right into AOS once he gets here. I have handed off planning my wedding to my sister, because to just think about planning a wedding while going through all the immigration stuff just gave me nighmares. Maybe you can get help from a friend or family member with the planning. You seem to have alot on your plate right now.

Good Luck

[serendipitous 0]

I haven't cried over this, but I have been SUPER frustrated.

It's so hard doing this process when your fiance is half way across the world! Today I had one of those moments. I was just so frustrated, I was trying to get my fiance to get his paperwork ready and he couldn't even find his birth certificate. Last year when I was there I organized all his papers (everything important pretty much). I have a compulsive behavior to organize everything.. lol. And so when he told me he couldn't find it, i wanted to smack him. I know it's in the filing cabinet in the sorted folders, but he keeps telling me it's not. Unless he took it out between now and last year, it should be there!! Things like this makes it so much harder, if I was there I'd find everything and sort everything out for him in a heartbeat. HAH. This is my rant about how helpless some males are without their woman

In the end, it will be all worth it though! It's only a few months of agonizing frustration. It will be over soon at least that's what I tell myself. =)

[Mononoke28 135]

I'm like most people here, haven't cried (yet) but get incredibly frustrated when I see that other people who sent their paperwork are getting NOA1s and NOA2s left and right. It's a bittersweet type of feeling because I'm happy for them since we're all rooting for each other but then I think "what about me??"

The one thing I've felt lately is guilt. For some reason I feel responsible for the whole thing since I was the one who filled out most of the paperwork, sent it in and am in charge of checking what is going on with it. Not receiving even my first NOA1 makes me feel like I'm failing, especially when my husband asks "did you get it yet?"

[serendipitous 0]

I'm like most people here, haven't cried (yet) but get incredibly frustrated when I see that other people who sent their paperwork are getting NOA1s and NOA2s left and right. It's a bittersweet type of feeling because I'm happy for them since we're all rooting for each other but then I think "what about me??"

The one thing I've felt lately is guilt. For some reason I feel responsible for the whole thing since I was the one who filled out most of the paperwork, sent it in and am in charge of checking what is going on with it. Not receiving even my first NOA1 makes me feel like I'm failing, especially when my husband asks "did you get it yet?"

Aww, as long as you did everything you were suppose to for those forms, it isn't your fault that it's taking the service center a bit longer to issue you a NOA1. It will come in time Remember, service centers other than VSC is going to be a bit slower.

Don't blame yourself for things like this that you can't change/fix. We have enough in life to worry and agonize over, don't let the things you can't change hold you down as well =] You did all that you could!