I am suffering from shock. Please help me

[rosie's baby 5]

I have a conditional green card which I have only had for a couple of months. I have only been married eight months and my husband has left me for someone else. He is so full of hatred for me he won't even meet with me to discuss it. He wont talk to me at all and just shouted abuse when he came to collect the rest of his stuff. I don't know why he is so full of hate towards me, unless its a guilty conscience. We had not had a fight, although he has always had anger issues which became much worse after we married. He would fly off the handle for no reason, and throw things around the apartment and shout me down anything I tried to say. He just disappeared, didn't come home, and after a couple of weeks of me trying to call and text him, his friends and his mother, a friend of his sent me a photo of him and another woman.. I don't know how long he had been seeing her, or even if it was before we married. I have learned I can file for a waiver once divorced from reading this forum over the last few nights, but I have had to empty the joint bank account of money as it was my wages, he wasn't working and he was spending it in increments every couple of days. So how am I going to be able to show evidence? Will I need a lawyer because of the short marriage and lack of evidence?

[NikLR 13,227]

~~moved to effects of major family changes from ROC~~

[Deagle 508]

What joint accounts/bills do you have together? What can you collect as evidence of financial co-mingling?

[rosie's baby 5]

I have had a joint bank account up until this week, now it's dormant. Savings accunt which is now empty, Health insurance, renters insurance, electric, AAA membership, receipts for dress, flowers, ring etc from marriage.

[Anh map 2,098]

The marriage has been a short amount of time so your evidence of comingling will be less than typical. Gather what you can.

Contact a family law attorney regarding the divorce.

[Deagle 508]

You don't have enough evidence plus your marriage was short. It's hard to prove to the USCIS that you were in a real marriage, even if you were really are. Try to gather as much evidence as you can plus affidavits from people who knew you. Like his friend who sent you his the photo you talked about.

[Transborderwife 4,666]

I have had a joint bank account up until this week, now it's dormant. Savings accunt which is now empty, Health insurance, renters insurance, electric, AAA membership, receipts for dress, flowers, ring etc from marriage.

4/8 of those may be helpful.

[rosie's baby 5]

I guess I will need a good lawyer as you don't offer me much hope.

[NikLR 13,227]

Are you really wanting to stay in the USA?

[rosie's baby 5]

With respect, How does that help me? I have been here since I was 14 years old.

[NikLR 13,227]

With respect, How does that help me? I have been here since I was 14 years old.

How is anyone supposed to know that with the very little back story you've provided plus a complete lack of timeline?

Carrying on, you should divorce, and provide proof that you entered the marriage in good faith. Co-mingling of finances is the best. Affidavits from his family and friends would also be helpful if you can, since you have very little evidence. Submit anything from inception of marriage. Even submitting proof from before marriage would be a good idea to show you had a genuine relationship.

[Boiler 45,525]

With respect, How does that help me? I have been here since I was 14 years old.

Hmmm

Sounds like there is a lot more to this than you have shared.

[ExPatty 502]

Hmmm

Sounds like there is a lot more to this than you have shared.

Not the first time on VJ. Some very pertinent facts are often left out!

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Document all. Save that picture, all other correspondence. If you're in a one-party consent state begin recording all conversations with him.

[IcezMan_IcezLady 582]

You better spill out the rest of the story cos this story has been overused on this thread...

No one can offer you much help when you are holding a torch to just one end of the story.

Pay a lawyer to to offer you some help.

[MASH 172]

Hmmm

Sounds like there is a lot more to this than you have shared.

Ya it feels that there is 2 sides to this story which makes both sides look bad