How are you getting around the mothers day issue?

[flutter95 4]

I don't know how many people this is actually an issue for, but it is for me.

My mother cannot understand why and will not accept that mothers day is on a different day here - but fathers day is the same. I said I don't know, I don't make the rules!

So is this an issue for anyone else?

I told she'll have to wait till my mothers day for a card and stuff, I won't remember here!

Are you sending your charming mothers a gift now or waiting for the US version to roll around?

[truffles 2]

[b]Well....as my daughter is going to be remaining in uk ( at 21 she has her life sorted here) i suspect i will be receiving mothers day cards in March, personally i think i prefer it as i am always going to English at my very core - i think it is a personal thing - i am considering fireworks on Nov 5th and also perhaps fly the flag on st georges day!! - [/b]

[Otto 83]

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Edited March 12, 2007 by Karin und Otto

[flutter95 4]

I like the 5th nov idea..

My husband thinks its nuts that for about 3 weeks around that date you hear nothing but BANG!

Well my point to my mother was that she wouldn't be getting her lovely big fancy card (which my mother is VERY fussy about, homemade is not good enough, haha) on her mothers day as I had no way to get it!

[Kez/JWolf 6]

My Mum will receive a large bouquet of flowers on sunday, I phone a local florist in my home town and she puts together a nice selection of flowers and she picks a nice card for me too... I pay by credit card....

Kez

Edited March 12, 2007 by Niagaenola

[cheeky^Wolf 0]

I called my mum n told her she wouldn't be getting a mothers day card this year as a) no stores have them yet and B) I forgot! She didn't mind, she'll be at 35,000ft flying to New Zealand.

Flutter95 fireworks are not permitted in PA I'm afraid! You can only buy them around 4th July and even then they're not great. For the good ones, you go to Ohio... then find a nice isolated field with no neighbours and take your chances!!

[Mags 112]

Well, as your Mum lives in the UK, I would follow the UK dates instead.

This is my first year without my Mum. Feels very strange.

[Fandango 1,440]

I think it'd be a great idea for you all to buy two MD cards this year, so that next year, you can suprise them That's what I did when I was away from my mom

*hugz* to Mags

I also agree with Mags (go fig) that being that your Mom is there, I'd observe the UK dates.

Edited March 12, 2007 by LisaD

[flutter95 4]

I think it'd be a great idea for you all to buy two MD cards this year, so that next year, you can suprise them That's what I did when I was away from my mom

*hugz* to Mags

I also agree with Mags (go fig) that being that your Mom is there, I'd observe the UK dates.

Thats what I was thinking of doing....the cards I mean.

My mother couldn't fathom that although I was sending her a present for HER mothers day, she wouldn't get a card till later, bless her.

[Fandango 1,440]

I think it'd be a great idea for you all to buy two MD cards this year, so that next year, you can suprise them That's what I did when I was away from my mom

*hugz* to Mags

I also agree with Mags (go fig) that being that your Mom is there, I'd observe the UK dates.

Thats what I was thinking of doing....the cards I mean.

My mother couldn't fathom that although I was sending her a present for HER mothers day, she wouldn't get a card till later, bless her.

Ask a friend to go get her a card, dictate a message to your friend, then have the card sent.

All the extra trouble will really mean a lot to your mom.

[flutter95 4]

Thats a good idea....I may just have to do that

Thanks!

[Widge 0]

I bought a card last year at American Mothers day and have managed not to lose it all year !!!! It is now winging its way to the UK with a present too. The only thing that was strange was the fact that as she is 88 I felt like I was kinda tempting fate. I also send one for American mothers day too as she now has an American son-in-law and is worth two special days she likes that idea too.

Edited March 13, 2007 by Widge

[jezebelseven 0]

I realize this might sound horrible, but my first thought upon reading this topic with our situation was 'His mother doesn't deserve anything anyway.'.

(Long story short, she's doing the same ####### she did when Adam and I first got together-- playing nice to our face, then when it comes down to the nitty gritty, she's being completely unreasonable and awful and backstabbing. She had the nerve to tell her neighbor that she 'hoped he would fail his visa interview' so he couldn't move here, and that she was 'angry that he passed' (she doesn't know that we know she said this.). She followed that up with trying to make it impossible for him to book his ticket here (Taken care of thanks to her much nicer fiance who treats us like the consenting adults we are). Par for the course for this woman, though, it's just taken us off guard because we thought she got over this 3 years ago and had decided to be adult about the whole situation. So we thought.)

But I'm sure this will be one of another things for her to throw a hissy about in the future. I'll have to buy a card box and some spare mothers day cards when the time comes just so we're prepared, I suppose. Any other holiday-dates that are different that we should be considering ahead of time?

[cheeky^Wolf 0]

That's really sad that your future mother-in-law feels like that. My first husband's mother was just like that and it really got me down. If he forgot a certain date or didn't call every day, it was all my fault. Truth is, she was jealous of us and hated the fact I took away her little boy.

You have 3000+ miles between you and her, so a little lip service will go a long way. Good idea on keeping spare mothers day cards, that way if your SO forgets, you can say "well I remembered" (she'll hate that!)

Can't think of any other dates, I believe father's day is the same.

ETA: It's also a good idea to get all of his family members birthday/anniversary dates and put them on a calender.. saves alot of hassle!

Edited March 13, 2007 by cheeky^Wolf

[arwensun1965 1]

I didnt know if I should of replied to this, as my mother died 2 years ago, it was the most heart wrenching thing I had ever gone through. I just wanted to say please just send a small card (even if you can't stand your other half's mother) you only have one and to be sure you will miss them when they are gone.

Janice