Helpless Wife!

[Amhara 460]

One thing you will find out about America is that there are a lot of different religious views, so assuming you know what someone's religion is is rather quite rude.

[JFH 12,191]

We all understand how stressful this is. We wouldn't be here otherwise.

I sometimes wonder how I will cope with it all. There is absolutely nothing on this earth that I want more than to be with my husband. I'd live at the South Pole if I had to and it meant we could be together. I'd cross the Atlantic in a rowing boat if I had to. I ache for him every minute of every day. But there is no point getting stressed about something you cannot change. It takes as long as it takes.

Most people post here very eloquently and calmly about their visa journey. That doesn't mean they aren't crying on the inside. I do my fair share of crying in the privacy of my bedroom. It's good to let it all out. And usually after that I feel a renewed vigour to get on with life and keep busy to fill the time. A friend suggested I should take up knitting! I laughed! But maybe it's not a bad idea.

The way the OP is posting, the vocabulary, the exclamation marks that suggest shouting, the stress, it all points to someone who is losing control. And that's the worst thing that can happen to you along this journey. No one is saying you shouldn't be upset. No one is saying is wrong to cry and feel sad about the separation. But we need to carry on our adult lives.

And, let's face it, there are worse situations we could be in. We have our health, we are all very loved and very much in love (or we wouldn't be doing this), and we have our jobs, friends, family in our countries with us while we wait. Being loved by my husband is the best thing that ever happened to me and happens to me every day. He's a wonderful man. And I remind myself how lucky I am every day. Some people are a lot less fortunate.

Edited February 25, 2016 by JFH

[blondedoc 35]

Hi, Aliya

How are you?

I understand what you mean... I gave up to make questions here, I read a lot, sometimes I make comments and that´s it. I prefer even pay a lawyer to make questions, in spite of maybe receive something that we can feel harmed, I already had a bad time here and it don´t worth, I swear. By this waiting and frustarting waiting time, we don´t need people judging us. We have already enough in life, right?

Be fine and do everything that helps you to get better

I feel really, really, really bad too without my husband. If you can imagine, because of this I got sick. I´m still sick, but I´m doing my best to get better, because my husband need the best of mine and he´s suffering too and need my support.

Be strong, I know you are. We are. We have to be, for our families.

All the best and I hope your journey is about to finish.

[Penguin_ie 5,997]

**** Several posts removed for personal attacks and bad language. Please keep in mind that this is primarily an advice site, and that means you will sometimes hear opinions and advice you may not like. Also, language like "I am dying" ARE concerning because risk of suicide/ harm to self and others can be used to delay or deny a visa. This thread will remain closed. Op is free to start another thread with less explosive language if she wishes.******

Edited February 25, 2016 by Penguin_ie